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Fixed vs. Growth Mindset- Which One Describes You?

Mindset matters. Is yours standing still or all about forward motion.

Let GenuLines take the brakes off of your mindset and point you toward success.

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset- Which One Describes You?

There are two mindsets that go a long way toward determining your personality. A fixe mindset assumes that your character, creative ability and intelligence are unchangeable.
 
It insists hat your basic abilities are those you’re born with.
 
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People with a fixed mindset often want to appear intelligent. But they don’t believe they can change their intelligence.
 
They’re afraid of looking dumb and that they’ll always look that way.
 

 

 

 

 

 

Common fixed mindset thoughts:

Either I’m good at something, or I’m not.
I can’t learn now; it’s too late.
There’s no point in trying if I’m going to fail.
I always struggle with…
I’m a procrastinator.
I’m not creative.
It’s hard for me to lose weight.
 
Growth mindset goes in a different direction. It’s the belief that abilities and intelligence can grow with time and experience.
 
That you can become smarter. that your efforts effect your success and with persistence you can learn.
 
A growth mindset sees basic ability as only the starting point for true potential. It creates a passion for learning rather than a constant need for approval.
 

Some common growth mindset thoughts:

I can always become better at something through practice.
I can learn whatever I want or need to, exactly when I need to learn it.
I see failures as opportunities to learn, to reassess, and to do better next time.
I can always do better at something if I want to, but it will take effort.
Determination and effort are the measures of my outcomes
I enjoy learning and growing, and learning is a lifetime pursuit for me.
 
There are key differences between a fixed and growth mindset. Challenge is one of them.
 
A person with a fixed mindset will shy away from a challenge, often from fear of failure. They may go into hiding to avoid responsibilities.
 
Challenge excites the growth mindset person.
 
They find valuable takeaways from their experiences. And they master the challenge and move to greater accomplishments.
 

Another key difference

A person with a fixed mindset sees mistakes as embarrassing.
They blame others or become defensive when criticized.
 
The growth mindset person sees mistakes as a lesson learned. They are less likely to take criticism personally.
 
They’re open to criticism, believing it helps improve their ability to do better next time.
 
If you find you have a fixed mindset but you want to change, you can. It’ll take practice, determination, and being more aware of your thoughts.
 
Then you’ll be able to expect that the reactions to situations you want you’re likely to have. With these efforts, you benefit by having a more open, growth mindset.
 
And an open path to success in every area of your life.
 
JohnK 6-12-2023
 
Stick figure hears about mindsetOverheard: “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
                                   ~Earl Nightingale
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The Art of Failing Fast

If failing is scary, why would you want to do it quickly? Seems counterintuitive, no? 

There is method to this seeming madness, and GenuLines brings the usual sanity to explain in more detail. 

The Art of Failing Fast

If you want to achieve a lot in life, sometimes the secret is to stop trying so hard and to put out lower quality work. Wait… what?
 
That’s not what they told you at school right?
 
And it likely goes against pretty much everything you learned when growing up. But in fact it’s very often the case when it comes to being successful so let’s take a look at why.

What it Means to Fail Fast

What I’m talking about here is ‘failing fast’. In business, this means creating your ‘minimal viable product’ or your ‘MVP’.
 
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Then you release it as soon as you can.
 
For example, a company will create a product that is sub-par in many ways and that could be better. and then they’ll release ten more. During the same period another company doesn’t take the fail fast approach.
 
This one might only release a single product. though it’s much better quality.

Letting go

Why is it better in some cases to release things that you don’t think are the best they could be? Well it comes down to the fact that these ‘minimal viable products’ need a smaller investment.
 
And they allow you to get something out the door faster.
 
That means that you can beat the competition to market. And it means that you don’t lose out on such a big investment as you otherwise might do.
 
What’s more, it means you can do a quick release of something else again next week as well.
 
As a result you’ll be able to test the market and get an idea for whether people want to buy your product or don’t. If you get lots of interest and lots of sales then you know that it’s worth your while to invest even more time and effort.
 
If you don’t get any interest?
 
You move on, having taking the minimal financial hit. Meanwhile, your competition invested big to create one fantastic product.
 
But they risk that product failing and costing them huge amounts. And that could end the business.

Applying it to Life

The ‘fail fast’ technique can also apply to other areas of your life. This means releasing a ‘beta’ version to the public, and you can do this in all kinds of situations.
 
For instance, you’re in a social setting and you want to get an attractive person’s attention. Instead of spending all night staring at one person, try smiling at as many people as possible.
 
Some of them will look the other way, but when someone finally smiles back you can go over and invest the time.
 
See what other areas of your life you can work this idea into!
 
JohnK 3-27-2023
 
Stick figure hears about failingOverheard: “If you fail, never give up because FAIL means- First Attempt In Learning”
                   ~APJ Abdul Kalam
 
 
 
 
 
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Do You Believe in Your Own Potential?

You’re capable of great things and people have been telling you that for a long time. But deep down you’re not sure you believe it’s true. 

Let’s unpack this with a GenuLines look at a perplexing question.

Do You Believe in Your Own Potential?

While we all have dreams and aspirations, few of us are aware of our own potential. It can be hard to see the good and admirable traits in ourselves, much like it is with our faults.
 
But, believing in our potential is a crucial part of developing self-confidence.
 
To achieve all you’re capable of, you have to believe in your potential. It can help you to try new things, challenge yourself, and take risks that could lead to success.
 
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GenuLines has come up with a few ways you can boost belief in your potential.

Spend Time in Self-Reflection

The first way to determine if you believe in your own potential is to spend time in self-reflection. Ask yourself what you’re capable of; what are your strengths and admirable qualities?
 
During this time, try to focus on the following:
 
? What is your potential?
 
? What do you want to achieve?
 
? Do you believe you can achieve it?
 
? What can you do with this potential?
 
Focusing on these questions. Answering them will help you to identify your potential and give you stronger belief in it.

Write Down What You See As Your Full Potential

Now that you’ve had time to reflect on what your potential is, you can list the needed qualities and skills. This will help you affirm what your potential is and your belief in it.
 
Study this list and keep it close by. Be sure to look at it whenever you feel yourself doubting your potential.
 
This way you’ll keep your potential top of mind.

Prove Your Potential to Yourself

To believe in something people sometimes need to see it. This even extends to what they believe about themselves.
 
A great way to believe in your potential is to prove to yourself you have it. Act on it; challenge yourself by pushing the limits of your potential.
 
This challenge can be career-, hobby-, or relationship-oriented. As long as it challenges you and forces you to showcase your full potential.
 
When this happens you’ll have a well-earned sense of accomplishment and confidence. And you’ll believe in your potential without doubts.

Surround Yourself with Those Who Believe in Your Potential

We all like to think we don’t let others affect us. But the reality is that the people around us, especially those close to us, do affect us.
 
If those close to you doubt your potential, you’re likely to do the same. You don’t need that negative influence in your life.
 
Instead, be around people who are more likely to encourage you to achieve all you can. Believing in your potential is an essential part of being confident and successful.
 
At times this will take work. So keep at it.
 
And keep believing.
 
JohnK 3-13-2023
 
Stick figure hears about believingOverheard: “They can conquer who believe they can”
                                 ~Virgil
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Energy Management vs. Time Management

Busy days can send your energy gauge to near zero. You concentrate on how you spend your time, and the push and pull your create is exhausting.

You can “balance the books” with this GenuLines look at both sides of the equation. 

Energy Management vs. Time Management

You’ve likely heard the old adage, “Life is a marathon, not a sprint.” You manage your time without paying attention to your energy management.
 
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And now you’re running a sprint rather than pacing like a marathoner.
 
Research tells us that productivity and success have more to do with how you manage your energy. And they have less to do with time management.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
At Work
In your work life you often try to do the things that give you more time.
Eating healthy, staying fit, spending time with your children and connecting with others all can suffer..
 
These take time and you do have to schedule some of your pursuits.
 
Have you considered whether you have the energy for those pursuits?
Trying to adhere to certain times to manage everything can leave you exhausted.
 
You’re not able to relax and enjoy yourself when you’ve “scheduled the time” for it.

Be The “Boss”

The alternative to managing your time is good energy management. This works when you take time to recover from those lengthy sprints.
 
You’re able to finish the marathon with ease rather than anguish.
Here are some tips for effective energy management.

Write It Down 

Make a list of what makes you feel refreshed, more creative and lifts your mood. It’ll help remind you about the benefits of these uplifting activities.
 
For example, watching a great series or show you’re following on television. Or sipping a cup of tea and listening to music.
 
These can ramp up your energy levels.
 
Do your best to take longer breaks. Don’t stick to a time table when it comes to stepping up your energy level.
 
Have fun with whatever you’re doing. And reward yourself for every goal reached.
 
Pressed For Time
Do you have lots of projects and it seems you’ll never finish them to be able to relax and enjoy yourself? Break those projects down into parts.
 
Reward yourself after you complete each one. This beats waiting until you finish the entire project.

Recovery Stops 

While you’re on a long sprint, you may feel the need to stop and renew your spirits and your energy. Do it!
 
You’ll feel so much more like completing the marathon and you’ll be happier at the finish. Managing your energy is a much more effective way to move through life.
 
Your inner energy thermostat doesn’t pay any attention to the time table you’ve created. Know this and, make it the most important factor in the marathon called life.
 
JohnK 1-16-2023
 
stick figure hears about energyOverheard: “Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal”
                              ~ Albert Camus
 
 
 
 
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Failure Is Your Friend

The idea of failure can send a shiver up your spine. But it’s time to give it a second look.

This GenuLines look at failure flips the script in your favor. . 

Failure Is Your Friend

There’s no shortage of content about success. A quick search about any business-related subject will show you a slew of stuff.
 
Search Amazon using the word “success”. What are your search results going to be?
 
Hundreds and hundreds of books whose subject revolves around being successful at something.
 
man feeling failure
 
 
Now, this is not actually a bad thing. Everyone wants to be successful at whatever it is they’re doing.
 
This is especially true in a business environment.

Good Business

In business, success means a satisfied and happy customer base. It means demand for your product or service exceeds supply.
 
It means having a lean and flexible organization. Most of all, it means a comfortable profit margin.
 
The thing is, success isn’t all about success. Let me put that another way.
 
When all you do is concentrate on the positive end results of being successful, you miss the point. You see, it’s ironic, but real success isn’t about succeeding.
 
Instead, it’s about failure.

Hush Hush

No one wants to talk about failure. People tend to avoid both the word and the concept.
 
Listen to talk about failure and you find it’s treated as a moral lesson. The person who failed becomes an example of how not to do things.
 
Could some internal personal flaw have caused the failure? This kind of thinking can be damaging.
 
It perpetuates the myth of winners who succeed with almost no effort. That their win was due to some sort of superior moral compass.
 
The truth is that you must fail to succeed.
 
Oscar Wilde said that experience is the name that we give our mistakes. Nothing could be truer.

Learn From Your Mistakes

Failing teaches you the lessons that you need to learn on your way to your goals. The most successful people understand this.
 
They have internalized the lessons of their own failures. They have used these lessons to get where they are today.
 
Real success isn’t a game. It’s not a reality show.
 
It doesn’t fall upon the shoulders of the chosen few.
 
Real success comes from failing, often more than once. It’s in these moments of failure that you learn how to avoid future mistakes.
 
And in time reach your goals.
 
JohnK 12-12-2022
 
stick figure hears about failureOverheard: “Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”
                             ~John F. Kennedy
 
 
 
 

 

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10 Signs You’re On The Road To Success

You’re serious about making your life a success. But is all that effort really paying off?

Today GenuLines looks at some indicators that help you answer that question. 

10 Signs You’re On The Road To Success

The meaning of success can be a bit tricky because it’s so subjective. Rarely do two people share the same exact experiences.
 
But there are certain milestones that are general enough to help give us a sense of direction.
 
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These milestones help pick us up when times are hard, lift our morale. They serve as a reminder of how far we’ve gotten and how much we’ve accomplished.
 
They also act as a beacon to help guide us if ever we stray from our goals and objectives.
 
Here are 10 of the most common signs you’re on the road to success:

1. You have plans and you’re passionate about them

Most people think success is all about the goals. And while that’s true, the bigger part of success is having a framework.
 
Something that will help navigate you until you reach those goals. You don’t want to let others’ definition of success influence your vision.

2. You learn from your mistakes

Acknowledging your shortcomings can be tough. But looking at things from a wider angle will give you mental clarity.
 
You’ll be able to try things in a different way next time around. Plus, being able to adapt means you’ll find more creative ways and insights to achieve your goals.
 
And learning from others’ mistakes make gives you valuable knowledge from their experiences.

3. You strive for more

Having constant goals that you’re trying to reach is a sign that you’re motivated and excited about life. Seeing the future before it plays out is an important trait of successful people.
 
They know what they want and make plans to get it. And they treat obstacles as learning experiences.

4. You welcome feedback

Criticism can be harsh, especially as you get started. But you need to see it as helpful advice, instead of personalizing it. Use it as a guide to help improve yourself.

5. You spend your time wisely

Planning your schedule in an efficient manner helps you get as many things done as possible. You don’t often get sidetracked.
 
You’re focused and punctual. If you’re an early riser you get excited about what the day has in store for you.

6. You have initiative

You aren’t afraid to get your hands dirty, and work outside your comfort zone. You’re aware that no one will turn your dream into a reality except you.
 
So be willing to roll up your sleeves and jump right in. Always look for better and newer ways to achieve your goals.

7. You’re excited about learning new things

Be curious about everything. You’ll gain a little bit of knowledge that you didn’t have yesterday.

8. You work well with others

When you work well with others and play on each other’s strengths, you all come out winners. And best of all, you reach your goal faster and with better results.
 
One negative aspect of working with others is that it’s easy to assign blame. But confident people step up, take responsibility.
 
They work hard at finding an alternative solution. And they’re happy when others are successful

9. You know your weaknesses and strengths

Working to improve your weaknesses and polish your strengths is itself a sign of success. You exude confidence and a sense of inner stability.
 
And who wouldn’t want to work with someone like that?

10. You’re tenacious and not quick to give up

Even when things aren’t going your way, you don’t see giving up as an option. You have goals in mind, and plans to follow to reach those goals and nothing can stand in your way.
 
You stay positive in the face of adversity, and you don’t settle for less.
 
JohnK 11-28-2022
 
Ostick man hears about successverheard: “Success is dependent on effort”
                            ~Sophocles
 
 
 
 
 
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What Is Prosperity? ( And How Do You Find It?)

Prosperity isn’t guaranteed in life. First you have to know what it is, then know how to get there. 

The following is a GenuLines road map aimed at getting you to your destination. 

What Is Prosperity? ( And How Do You Find It?)

Okay, let’s have a look. The dictionary definition is – ‘The state of being prosperous’
 
Well that wasn’t much help. So, what is the definition?’
 
piggy bank means prosperity
 
Prosperous means – ‘successful in material terms, bringing wealth and success.’
 
Okay now we’re getting somewhere. We know what prosperity is, but how do we go about finding it?

Let’s Talk About Prosperity

Although we have the dictionary definition above, I’m not real happy with it.
 
Yes prosperity can apply to material wealth and success. But it can also take in mental, emotional, and even spiritual wealth and success too.
 
 
But what if it doesn’t reach into every facet of our lives?
 
To find prosperity in all areas, we have to be very clear about the things that we want in our lives. And the things that we don’t want.
 
We must also make sure that we’re living a way of life that removes anything that doesn’t serve us. Examples include addictions to negative behavior or people.
 

Internal & External Prosperity

You can’t consider only your external environment or external resources.
 
You want to secure your external and internal prosperity. We do this through the means of internal mental and emotional mastery.
 
So even if you do lose your material wealth you won’t lose your ability to be happy. You can stay in a state of internal peace.
 
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To summarize: know yourself to the best of your ability. Then develop a better mindset and way of life.
 
One that supports, encourages and cultivates this innate capacity for prosperity. For you and for others, too.
 
You’ll become a force for good. The world, your world¸ will be a much brighter place if you can do this.
 
So, get to work. At the end of the day, true prosperity comes from you.
 
No one in the world can give this to you. You’re going to have to forge this one for yourself.
 
All the best!
 
JohnK 10-24-2022
 
stick man hears about prosperityOverheard: “Prosperity of wicked men runs like a torrent past, and soon is spent
                     ~Marcel Proust, Swann’s Way
 
 
 
Article image by Ann H: https://www.pexels.com/photo/love-business-money-toy-11933551/
 
 
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5 Factors That Keep You From Finding Your Life’s Purpose

Why are you here and what is your purpose? Don’t spend your life struggling with this question, as many do. 

Explore the possibilities with GenuLines and start finding some answers.

5 Factors That Keep You From Finding Your Life’s Purpose

A great way to find your true purpose in life is by living what I call your ‘genuine life.” You live your life without needing approval from other people.
 
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You explore your interests and passions. And when you discover that passion, you have to listen to one voice only.
 
The voice that lives inside of you. That voice which is your True North.
 
 
 
 
 
The voice that will tell you to keep trying, keep moving, believe in yourself, and to stay true to your purpose.
 
Unfortunately, few people find their true purpose in life. They’re living a life someone told them they’re supposed to live.
 
Or they follow the misguided notion that finding your true purpose takes years and years. Which may not always be the case.
 
Here are 5 things that are hindering you from finding your true purpose in life:
1. You don’t know where to begin
To find your calling know where to begin searching. And the best place to start is inside you.
 
What are you passionate or excited about? What are you so good at that people come to you for help or advice?
 
That could be your true purpose.
2. You rely on other people to dictate your life purpose
You miss your calling when you become accustomed to people telling you how to live. And what you ought to be doing.
 
Close friends or family may have the right intentions when advising you. They’ll tell what you should be pursuing.
 
But because they have good intentions doesn’t mean they’re right. They may have a picture of who and what they want you to become.
 
But that doesn’t mean it’s what you must become.
3. You’re busy comparing your life to that of others
Don’t spend your time focusing on “If only I was that smart.” Or “I wish I could do that.”
 
You won’t appreciate what you’re already great at. Get rid of negative thoughts, and replace them with “I was born to have an impact and I will find out what that is.”
4. You already have a “picture” of what your purpose is
We all have an “idea” of what we’re meant to do. Or which line of work we’re supposed to be in, particularly during our adolescent years.
 
Not to generalize but more often than not this is an idealized “picture.” This picture from our younger years turns out to be the wrong picture. 
5. You are not seeking guidance from the right people
While discovering your true purpose on your own is the way to go, seeking guidance from the right people won’t hurt. It will speed up the process of finding out what your calling is in life.
 
It will give you ample time to look for ways of staying true to your purpose. And working on becoming who you’re meant to be.
 
JohnK 9-5-2022
 
Stick figure hears about finding purposeOverheard: “There is no hope of success for the person who does not have a central purpose, or definite goal at which to aim”
                                               ~Napoleon Hill
 
 
 
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The Many Shades And Flavors Of Success

They say success leaves clues, but for you the trail has run cold. Or has it?

Join GenuLines for this investigation into ways your success might be hiding from you in plain sight.

The Many Shades And Flavors Of Success

Webster’s dictionary defines success as…
top of the world success
 
a: degree or measure of succeeding 
 
b: favorable or desired outcome.
 
also : the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence
 
 
 
Have you ever stopped to think about how successful you are? For some reason we tend to look at success as it pertains to work and money.
 
But what about all the other successes that we achieve throughout our lifetimes?
 
Consider one part of the Webster definition above, favorable or desired outcome. Now realize that you’ve no doubt had lots of little successes that you’ve overlooked.
 
This could be finishing a report at work, or a school paper. Did your husband send you flowers for no special reason?
 
Did your child say she loves you because you’re the best mom? These are all favorable outcomes that result from our own efforts.

Effort And Achievement

Whenever you put effort into something you achieve, consider it a success. We don’t have to build a Bill Gates empire to consider ourselves successful.
 
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.” – Henry David Thoreau
 
How about personal success? Consider for a moment how you live your life.
 
Do you take good care of yourself? If so, you’ve experienced another great success that eludes many people.
 
How many times a day or a week do you actually succeed without even thinking or planning to do so? It’s who you are.
 
You might even say that being who you are makes for success in its own right.
 
For example, a good friend needs help and you drop everything to be there. Color this a success.
 
What’s better than being there for the people we care about?

Acknowledgement

I’ll bet there are achievements in your week that you don’t notice. Why is that?
 
Wouldn’t it boost your emotional and psychological wellness to do so? Sure, it would.
 
Sometimes we miss the big picture. Those every day successes are some of our biggest.
 
It’s time to stand up and take notice of all that you do, every single day that makes you a success. Consider all the different shades and flavors of success in your own life, and celebrate them!

The Many Shades And Flavors Of Success

*Setting and following through on a fitness plan
 
*Being a loving and supportive parent
 
*Raising responsible kids• Eating healthy
 
*Taking good care of your mind, body and spirit
 
*Being a good friend
 
*Looking out for an elderly neighbor
 
*Taking good care of your family
 
*Being a responsible citizen
 
*Being a good friend
 
*Working a full time job and still coming home to cook dinner and do homework with kids
 
*Forgiving someone that wronged you
 
*Introducing a friend to her future husband
 
*Being honest when it’s hard to do so
 
*Saying sorry when it’s hard to do so
 
*Being your real self and living an authentic life
 
*Sticking with goals you set
 
*Giving your time and being of service
 
These are a few examples of the many shades and flavors of success.

Final Thoughts

Next time you consider whether you’ve succeeded in your own life, realize that big dreams and long-term goals are great. But there are many shades and flavors of success, and they all have value and meaning.
 
JohnK 8-15-2022
 
stick man hears about successOverheard: “Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best of which you are capable.”
                                ~John Wooden
 
 
 
 
 
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Why Is Self Development Important?

You’re thinking about starting a self development program. But you’re not sure. It can be an important move for you and GenuLines is here to show you some “whys.”

Why Is Self Development Important?

When you were a kid your doubts, fears and insecurities could cause you to think, “I wish I was somebody else.”

 
man doing self developmentEven today it’s common to think that some or most people are better than us, especially when we’re feeling low. The truth is often very different.
 
You look at a successful young business entrepreneur and say “What else could he ask for?” Yet he may wonder why his friends won’t talk to him any more.
 

Envy

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people and envy them for what seems to us to be their perfect lives.
 
We wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and think the same thing. We’re insecure about other people who themselves might be insecure about us.
 
The result could be low self-esteem. Or low self-confidence and loss of faith in self development
 

Not So Magnificent Obsession

So it can happen that you spend all your time obsessing about what seem to be your negative points. Yet it might be that they don’t matter to anybody else.
 
At the same time, you could have an irritating habit that you’re not even aware of.
 

Stop, Look and..

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone you’re comfortable with.
 
Someone who’ll let you open up on even the most sensitive topics you want to discuss. Ask questions in a way that makes it possible for the other person to tell you what is really happening.
 
This signals to the other person that you’re interested in self development. Usually, the person will hesitate to tell the truth right away.
 

Be Gracious

Of course it’s important to accept any comments or criticisms that you hear. You may feel hurt but try not to show it or your listener won’t want to tell you more.
 
Then you may want to check out the results with other people. It doesn’t hurt to get a second opinion.
 
Let’s say you’re the one offering self-improvement suggestions.
 
Start with letting them see that you yourself are following the path of self development. Self improvement makes us better people, more open to the world around us.
 

Re-imagine YOU

It’s vital to stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate being. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer .. if only I was thinner” and so on.
 
Accepting your genuine self is the first step to self improvement.
 
We all have our insecurities. We can wish we had better things, better features, etc.
 
But life need not be perfect for you to be happy about yourself. It’s more about acceptance and contentment.
 
When you begin to improve yourself you’ll begin to feel contentment and happiness.
 
JohnK 4-18-2022
 

stick man hears about self developmentOverheard: “The longest journey is the journey inward.”

                             – Dag Hammarskjold
 
 
 
 
 
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