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3 Steps to Creating New Habits

 
Let’s talk about forming new habits. There are times in our lives when we want to create new and better habits for ourselves.
 
This could include getting into the habit of eating healthier. It might be drinking more water. Or it could be moving more and taking the dog for a daily walk. Or it could be work-related, or spiritual, or…
 
There are so many areas in our lives we can improve and make easier if we create new habits. 
 
Getting into the habit of doing something is often easier said than done. We seem to form bad habits without any effort, but getting into a “good” habit can be a little more challenging. 
 
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We’ll break it down into a three-step process. This will make it easy to follow until you’ve internalized the new behavior and made it a true habit. You’ll do it without having to think about it. Like brushing your teeth. 
 
Decide What You Want To Do 
 
The first step is to decide what the new habit is. Be as specific as possible. Be bold. Don’t tell yourself you want to exercise more. Say something like “I will go for a 30-minute walk every single day.” Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how you’re going to do it, is half the battle. 
 
Remind Yourself To Get It Done 
 
The next few days should be smooth sailing. You’re motivated and excited to get this done. Sticking to your new habit isn’t an issue. But a few days in you’ll notice that it’s easy to slip back into old habits. 
 
Say it’s raining and you’re not feeling like going out and walking. Or the hours in your day seem to be getting away from you. This is when it’s important to have a daily reminder. Set an alert on your phone or add the new habit to your daily to-do list for a while. 
 
Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit 
 
It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage.
 
A routine will help you solidify the habit. This way you won’t have to spend a lot of willpower or rely on daily reminders. 
 
Make that daily walk part of your after-dinner routine. Or switch from grabbing a snack at the vending machine at work at 10:00 in the morning to packing a healthy snack. 
 
You can do this! Decide to create the new habit. Practice the routine until it’s second nature and you’ll be well on your way to forming a new good habit. 
 
JohnK 1-17-2018
 
 
 
 
Image for overheard for habit formingOverheard:  “Whatever ought to be, can be”
                     ~ James Rouse
 
 
 
 
 
 

Julie Loar And The Resurgence of Feminine Energy

It was the start of another year. 2011 to be exact. CHI FOR YOURSELF welcomed Julie Loar.

Julie’s the author of  Goddesses for Every Day: Exploring The Wisdom and Power of the Divine Feminine Around the World.” 

 

 

 

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5 Tips For Achieving Success With Confidence

Achieving success can help you feel more confident. It’s not the boldest statement. But CHI FOR YOURSELF has a different way of looking at things like success and confidence.

Business successOur idea of success is not realized with new cars, houses, or loads of money. 

Today we’ll look at some ways to help you get the confidence you need to realize what you know to be true success:

 

Be true to yourself
Your values and belief system must be very much in place if you want to achieve a success coupled with serenity.

Don’t let your success come in ways which compromise your genuine self. It’ll be a success built on sand rather than solid ground and may crumble and fall with time.

Trust in your abilities
You may have much to learn before you can succeed in a chosen field or path. Think of all that you’ve achieved so far and challenges you’ve already worked through. Trust that you can do more.

Don’t dismiss what you’ve learned so far in life. You might think it was easy and that anyone could do it, but others may see it as remarkable and see you as an example.

Use your subconscious mind
Repeat positive affirmations and side-step negative thoughts. That builds strength for your subconscious mind. 

You can train your subconscious mind to carry out your intentions. That makes a real difference in how you and others see yourself.

Avoid letting negative thoughts creep in and gain control. That will cause you to doubt your true abilities.

Use correct body language
Watch your posture, stance, and your general body language. It can be powerful when dealing with others and expecting a great outcome.

Remember when your mother used to tell you to sit up straight? Good advice! It sends a far different and more positive message than slumping.

Study body language and begin to practice it.

Enter a room with your head held high and walking like you own where you are and how you present yourself. People will take notice in a positive way.

Pay attention to your personal look
Never present yourself as unkempt and looking wrinkled and ungroomed. That image isn’t one that reaps success.

If this is an area of your life where you lack skills, seek the help of others. Develop a style you’re comfortable with. One that fits the image you want to present.

 

JohnK 1-8-2018
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Image for overheard for successOverheard:   Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.
                            ~Samuel Johnson

 

 

 

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Emotional Wisdom: Negative Emotions and The Messages They Send Us

This week we go back to 2010 when we welcomed Dena Saxer to CHI FOR YOURSELF.

Dena told us about powerful ancient tools for transforming our painful emotions into happiness and health

Emotional Wisdom author Dena SaxerDena Saxer is the co-author, along with Mantak Chia, of Emotional Wisdom: Daily Tools For Transforming Anger, Depression, & Fear.

She says that so-called negative emotions are messages from our souls that something is out of balance and needs to be changed.

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JohnK 1-6-2018

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Happiness- Could It Be In The Giving?

We begin our year with hopes aimed at greater happiness. A new job or relationship. Shedding some pounds. 

But, what is happiness?

Usually, it’s connected to what you can get from others and your environment. 

CHI FOR YOURSELF asks you to re-think happiness- by making it broader. It’s also about what you can give to others, and how giving gives you a purpose and a connection to your community.

Here are some ways you might put giving into your happiness formula:

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By giving, you’re creating connections with those around you. Life stops being just about seeking satisfaction and it takes on a deeper layer of commitment.

Life is no longer all about you. It’s about creating a positive effect on other people’s lives. 

 

 

JohnK 1-5-2018

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Overheard:      “For it is in giving that we receive.” 
                                   ~Francis of Assisi

 

 

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Happy You Year! Inner Peace and Doing What You Love

CHI FOR YOURSELF sends you only the best energies for the coming year!  We hope all your intentions will be or are about to be realized. 
 
But maybe you’re less than optimistic. In the 10 years that CHI FOR YOURSELF has been in existence, we’ve heard one complaint above most any other.
 
It starts with the questions… 
 
Are you in a job or career you hate? Is it sucking the life out of you?
 
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So many people answer yes to both of these questions. This is no way to achieve any kind of inner peace.
 
Imagine doing something different than what you currently do. Then imagine what your life would be like if you had a passion for your life’s work. You are much more likely to excel at what you are doing.
 
This is not to say that everything you do in your passion will be without problems. That’s unrealistic.
 
There are always going to be challenges and some of them may prove difficult at times. But being equal to those challenges will help you reinforce your passion.
 
If you do anything long enough, even something you love, you run the risk of burning out. This is why you need to take breaks.
 
Take a vacation. Join in activities that are not related to your work.
 
Consider hiring someone you can trust to run your operation, so you free up some of your time. Doing this, you can even choose to create other ventures or passions.
 
Start a foundation to help others. This can reignite the passion.
 
If you do get burned out, there’s nothing to stop you from selling your venture and moving on to something better. You can use the money from the sale to start up another passion you’ve been holding on the sidelines.
 
This doesn’t mean you should give up on something because you have days that are less than exciting. No matter what you do, this is going to happen on occasion. It’s when it happens more often than not that you have to decide if you’re at the end of the road.
 
Crossing bridge to happy
 
Only you can make that decision, but it can help to talk to your spouse and/or friends when you feel like you’re at that point.
 
If you dread going to work every day you could become apathetic toward your company or business. Staying in that situation is going to make you miserable. 
 
Switching to something you’ve wanted to do will give you a sense of accomplishment. That’s a contributor to inner peace.
 
Happy New Year!
 
JohnK 1-1-2018
 
 
 
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 Overheard:

   “All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” 
                 ~ Walt Disney
 
   
 
 

“Big Love” On The Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

What happens when you fully commit yourself to love? Our guest on the next CHI FOR YOURSELF says the result is endless good.

Scott Stabile found that out by overcoming plenty of bad, including the murder of his parents. 

Scott’s intention is to show us that growth and healing are possible, regardless of the circumstances.

Be with us for Scott Stabile on CHI FOR YOURSELF. Thursday, December 14th at 4:30 Eastern, 1:30 Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

Scott Stabile talks love

Scott Stabile is the author of Big Love: The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart

 

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Breakup Rehab: This Week on CHI FOR YOURSELF

 

How do you regain confidence and optimism about love following a breakup?

After her own relationship ended, Rebekah Freedom McClaskey developed and practiced a series of small, step-by-step actions that ultimately helped her heal her heart and live in harmony with her destiny.

Hear author and counselor Rebekah Freedom McClaskey on our next CHI FOR YOURSELF. Thursday, October 12th at 1 pm Pacific time, 4 pm on the East Coast at chiforyourself.com

Rebekah McCluskey on breakups

 

Rebekah Freedom McClaskey is the author of Breakup Rehab: Creating the Love You Want.

 

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Put Your Savings On Autopilot And See What Happens!

This final installment from CHI FOR YOURSELF on money matters focuses on savings. Specifically on a “set it and forget it” approach to your money. 
 
Putting a little money away for a rainy day isn’t always easy. You may have some good intentions, but at the end of the day, there’s little to go toward savings. Somehow whatever you make is spent before you make it to the next paycheck.
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Start by making a personal budget. Take a look at what you bring in each month. Next, write down your fixed expenses. These are things like rent, car payments, and utilities. Figure out how much you need each month for groceries and other essentials. This is your bare bones budget. It’s good to know what you need to get by each month.
 
Next, it’s time for a little bit of math. Start with what you bring in each month and subtract all your core expenses.
 
What you’re left with is your discretionary income. This will pay for entertainment, clothes, getting your nails done and such. From this point on, part of that discretionary income will go into a savings account.
 
Pick a number you’re comfortable with. It could be a mere $20 per month. Or it could be $500. Put this in your budget and treat it like any other bill. It won’t take you long to get into the habit of setting aside that money for savings.
 
To make it even more hands-off, talk to your bank about setting up a separate savings account. Then set up an auto-deposit.
 
This will have the savings transferred to the new account as soon as your paycheck comes in each month. If you don’t see it, you’ll never miss it and your savings will run on autopilot.
 
Don’t forget to audit your savings from time to time. Take another look at your budget. Can you increase your savings a little more?
 
A great way to boost that savings account is to set aside any extra money – such as birthday cash, tax refunds, bonuses. Put them straight into the savings account. Again, you won’t miss the money, but you’ll see quick results as you build up your savings.
 
Make sure your savings are sitting in an interest-bearing account. Since you won’t be touching this money unless it’s a dire emergency, you should be able to earn at least a little interest. Talk to your banker about your best options and start putting your savings on autopilot.
savings account
 
One last tip: Ask your employer about matching 401-K funds. You may be able to get a contribution from the company. This is like “free money” toward your retirement savings account.
 
JohnK 10-2-2017
 
 
 

Why It’s Good To Keep A Household Budget

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You work hard to earn a living. So it’s best to make wise decisions when you spend that money. That’s where a household budget comes in.

A budget has obvious advantages. Like seeing at a glance what we have coming in, what’s going out (and what that money is paying for). You also get an idea if there’s anything left at the end of the month to put into savings.

 

Before we dive into exactly what a budget can do for us, let’s consider a few points. What will happen if we’re not tracking income and expenses?

You may end up spending more than you’re making in a given month (or two, or three). Over time that can put you into some pretty hot financial water. You may also spend a lot more than you’d like to believe on things like eating out, going to the movies or new clothes.

Having a budget gives you more control over your true spending wishes. That could be dinner and a movie, or not. Wouldn’t it be nice to have an actual choice?

A Budget Tracks Where Your Money Is Going

A budget’s only job is to track your money. You record where the money comes from each month (your income) and then write out everything you spend it on.

Start with your regular monthly bills. These include your mortgage or rent, utility bills etc.

What’s left is your discretionary income.

A Budget Helps You Spot Wasted Money

Having it all in front of you in black and white helps you identify things you’re wasting your money on.

Budgeting forces you to reconsider if you want to spend well over $200 a month on Cable TV. Or $150 on your large cell phone plan. Or how about that yearly magazine subscription to something you no longer read? Go through your expenses and reevaluate if this is REALLY how you want to spend your paycheck.

A Budget Allows You To Be Proactive About Savings

Saving money without a budget is hard. We go in with the best of intentions at the beginning of the month. But somehow there isn’t anything left at the end of the month.

A budget gives you a chance to be a bit more proactive. Set aside some money for savings at the beginning of the month, even a small amount like $20.

Put it in the budget as a regular expense, much like you do with your other urgent bills. If you need to, open a separate savings account so you’re not tempted to spend it.

A Budget Ensures You’re Not Spending More Than You’re Making

Your budget will keep you on track and help you avoid overspending. And I don’t have to tell you that that’s pretty important for your financial well-being.

JohnK 9-25-2017
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Image for overheard for budgetOverheard: ““While money can’t buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.” 
                                        ~ Groucho Marx

 

 

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