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What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Really Want

April 26, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

You want it badly. But somehow it doesn’t show up. This happens to most of us, but GenuLines has some action steps for you if you’re struggling with this. 

What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Really Want

man who wantsIt sucks to know that life isn’t fair. But knowing this fact alone still doesn’t make us feel better when something that we really want seems to elude us.
 
Here are a couple of key things to consider when you don’t get what your heart desires.
 

Appreciate The Needs You DO Have

Being able to separate the things you need from those you want is extremely important in life. People worldwide go without even the most basic things many of us take for granted.
 
While it’s in no way wrong to pursue things other than the basic needs, try to avoid getting these things mixed up.
 
Think about each situation where you didn’t get something you wanted. Each of those is likely balanced by getting something you did want.
 
If you always got what you wanted do you think you’d be grateful?
 

Be Honest About Why You Didn’t Get It

When something doesn’t pan out it feels like a tragedy. But sometimes not getting something serves as a fork in the road.
 
It can point the way to something much better.
 
Whatever you’re feeling like you missed out on, give it a second look. You might realize that this failure could very well be for your benefit.
 
Even if it wasn’t a major disappointment the fact that you fell short can provide the motivation. you need to go after something even better!
 
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You Covered The Bases And Still Want It? Try Again!
So you slipped up but believe you still should have whatever avoided you. Regroup and try again!
 
Rest assured, most of the things worth having are not going to fall into your lap. If this were the case, they wouldn’t be nearly as fulfilling when we you get them.
 
If whatever you missed out on keeps bugging you it could be a sign that you’re meant to have it.
 
But not right now
If you’ve decided that it is, be ready to go after it! I could insert any number of motivational quotes such as “fall seven times, stand up eight.”
 
Or “fail forward.”
 
But the fact is, the life of a successful individual will include failures. How you deal with failure separates winning from living with self-pity and resentment.
 
Never allow yourself to give up in the pursuit of anything you believe to be yours.
 
JohnK 4-26-2021
 
Stick figure hears about wantOverheard: “Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”
                             ~Dale Carnegie
 
 
 
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For Better Health Spend Time In The Sun

April 12, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Fun in the sun is something a lot of us live for. It feels great, helps you look good, and more.

But if you’re not so keen on the sun GenuLines shows you ways you can benefit, too, 

Spend Time In The Sun For Better Health

Being out in the sun does great things to your mind and body. If you live in an area where there is plenty of sun, it shouldn’t be hard to get out into the sunshine.
 
If not, you should be able to find at least a few days where you can some sunshine.
 
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Here are five health benefits of spending time in the sun:
 
1. Getting your Vitamin D intake
The major source of vitamin D is being out in the sun. The UV rays will help build up vitamin D in your body so you won’t have to take a vitamin D supplement.
 
Research has shown that most people don’t get enough vitamin D. It’s essential for many body functions.
 
And always wear the appropriate rating of sunscreen to protect your skin.
 
2. Spending time in nature
If possible spend time outdoors. It can be a neighborhood park or other wooded area.
 
Communing with nature helps reduce stress. Even a lunch break spent in the sun can improve your productivity and can help you have less stress at work.
 
3. Spending time in the sun reduces stress
You’ll likely find that you’re less stressed and happier when the day is sunny. You can sit on a park bench in the sunshine and meditate a bit or take a walk in a sunny area.
 
Try getting out in the sun every day for at least a half an hour. You’ll cut through the stress while enjoying the activity.
 
4. Sunlight can reduce cancer risk
It’s true that you’re at an increased risk of skin cancer if you burn yourself in the sun. But sunshine can actually help reduce your risk of developing other cancers.
 
This is especially true if you choose to exercise in the sunshine.
 
5. Sunshine can help you sleep better
Relaxing or exercising in the sunshine affects your sleep later in the day. A half hour of sunshine per day has been found to help you get to sleep easier and stay asleep longer.
 
It really doesn’t matter what you do in the sunshine as long as you get out there and get some rays.
 
JohnK 4-12-2021
 
Stick figure hears about the sunOverheard: “The sun, with all those planets revolving around it and dependent on it, can still ripen a bunch of grapes as if it had nothing else in the universe to do”
                                    ~ Galileo Galilei
 
 
 
 
 
 
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5 Natural Remedies For Headaches

March 29, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

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 Nothing slows you down quite like a headache.                       And the pain can be intense.

 

 

There are various approaches to headaches, but GenuLines wants you to know about some natural ways to get relief. 

 

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5 Natural Remedies For Headaches

Headaches can be quite painful. Often times they can leave you down for the count.
 
You want to head for the medicine cabinet. Instead, why not consider these all-natural remedies the next time you have a headache.
 
Here are some of the best non-drug remedies for the three most common types of headaches.
 
Tension Headaches
Of the three main types of headaches, tension headaches are the most common. The muscles contract and it feels like something is squeezing your head.
 
The pain can run from one ear to the other and back around. Tension headaches are usually caused by a lack of sleep and/or stress.
 
Natural Remedies For Tension Headaches:
 
Ginger Tea
You can find fresh ginger at your grocery store. Crush no more than an inch of ginger and put it in a pot of boiling water.
 
This home remedy will help reduce inflammation and ease your headache. It works much like, if not better than an aspirin and is a completely natural plant-based remedy.
 
Peppermint Oil
Many health stores sell peppermint oil. Apply it to your hairline.
 
The cooling sensation created by the oil will help relax the muscles in your head and neck.
 
Cluster Headaches
Those who suffer from cluster headaches often describe it as an ice pick in the head. This is because the pain is very concentrated and it feels like someone is stabbing them in the head.
 
Cluster headaches usually occur over a cluster of days. That’s where they get their name.
 
They’re most common in the winter.
 
Natural Remedies For Cluster Headaches:
 
Capsaicin Cream
Cayenne pepper is the main ingredient in Capsaicin cream. Put a dab on your finger and apply it to the inside of your nostril.
 
Be sure to place it on the side where you are experiencing the pain. Once applied the cream goes to work by blocking pain signals.
 
Chlorophyll Supplements
Plants use chlorophyll for photosynthesis. This turns carbon dioxide and water into carbohydrates and oxygen.
 
Chlorophyll supplements promote the flow of oxygen to cells. And they protect the cells from oxidation damage.
 
They can also help with cluster headaches. And they give you a natural energy boost.
 
Migraine Headaches
Last but not least, we’ll cover migraine headaches. Migraine headaches can send you to bed, unable to move for extended periods of time.
 
Migraines cause a throbbing pain to occur on one side of your head. In some cases, they can even cause nausea.
 
As a result of the pain, individuals are usually sensitive to light and sound.

All In The Family? 

Migraines can be genetic and run in certain families. And women are three times more likely to have them than their male counterparts.
 
Some studies say a mix-up in nerve signals is to blame. Instead of interpreting them for what they are, the brain picks them up as pain.
 
Natural Remedies For Migraine Headaches:
 
Acupressure Massage
Acupressure massage has been around for hundreds of years. It is an ancient Chinese healing method that applies pressure at certain points on the body.
 
The pressure helps relieve pain.
 
Feverfew
Feverfew is an herbal supplement that comes from the sunflower family. Tests in clinical trials showed great results.
 
And it’s been effective for migraines.
 
Feverfew works by decreasing inflammation and lessening pressure on the nerves.
 As a result, the migraine starts to subside.
 
Changing Your Diet
Changing your diet is one remedy that helps all headaches no matter what type.
 
Start paying close attention to the foods you consume on a daily basis. Keeping a journal and jotting down everything you eat for at least 7 days is helpful.
 
You can track any specific foods that cause you to have an adverse reaction. Once you identify a pattern, you’ll know which foods to take out of your diet.
 

Some foods known to trigger headaches include:

 
• Wine
• Caffeine
• Cheese
• Cold Cuts
 
Skipping meals also causes headaches because your blood sugar levels drop.
The best way to prevent this is to make it a point to always eat your meals on time and never let hunger lead to a headache.
 
JohnK 3-29-2021
 
Stick figure hears about headacheOverheard: “Some people spend the day in complaining of a headache, and the night in drinking the wine that gives it”
                         ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
 
 
 
 
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How To Get Into The Habit Of Walking More

March 15, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Was a walking regimen one of your New Year resolutions? Has that resolution gone down the memory hole? 

Check out these GenuLines suggestions for taking the “steps” to get up and going. 

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How To Get Into The Habit Of Walking More

 

How To Get Into The Habit Of Walking More

The human body is capable of miles and miles of walking. Yet, in modern society, we spend most of our time sitting down.

 That’s not good for our bodies. It leads to a range of health issues.
 
A daily walk might head off these problems. Of course, that’s easier said than done.
 
walking path sign
 
 
Give up your seat
Most of us sit for our work. We eat sitting down.
 
And to be honest all we want to do when we come home from work is plop down on the couch for a Netflix marathon until bedtime.
 
This presents a challenge. But a walking habit is a good one.
 
Kind of like the habit of brushing our teeth twice a day or taking out the trash on Tuesdays. Once it’s a well-ingrained habit, it won’t be as much of a challenge to make sure we go for a walk each day.
 
Your path
You can start by finding a walking route you enjoy. Your favorite walk may offer beautiful vistas.
 
But if it’s a 30-minute drive there and back, you’ll be less likely to do it every single day. Instead, save that particular walk for the weekends.
 
Then come up with something convenient and pleasant for your everyday walking routine. If you can, find a route in your own neighborhood so you can leave right from your front door.
 
Taking the same route every day helps form that habit. It’s also encouraging to notice that you can walk the same loop faster or with less effort over time.
 
You’re steadily getting stronger and fitter.
 
Incentives
Listening to your favorite music, podcast, or audiobooks is also helpful. It’ll make the time go by faster and give you something else to look forward to.
 
You can even use your favorite media as a way to bribe yourself to go for your daily walk. Let’s say you have a couple of podcasts you enjoy.
 
Save them for your walks and only let yourself listen to them while you’re walking. It’s a great incentive to get out there even on days when you’re not feeling it.
 
Group Walks
Finally, consider walking with other people. Find a walking group in your area, or talk a friend or neighbor into becoming your walking buddy.
 
Not only is it more fun to walk when you have someone to talk to, it also has some built-in accountability. You won’t want to skip a walking workout when you know that other people are waiting for you to join them.
 
Give these tips a try. They’ll help you make your daily walk an integral part of your health, your fitness, and your life.
 
JohnK 3-15-2021
 
stick figure man hears about walkingOverheard: “All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking”
                             ~Friedrich Nietzsche
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Can a Pessimist Become An Optimist?

February 23, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

If you’re an optimist you may live by the old “glass is half-full” theory. But if you’re a pessimist and your glass is “half-empty” you may not be okay with this. 

You can work on switching mindsets, and GenuLines has some suggestions on making your mental “U-turn.”

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Can a Pessimist Become An Optimist?

Optimist Smiley Face BallSome of us are born with sunny dispositions. Others are prone to negativity.

 
 
 
 
Many factors come into play:
 
*Childhood experiences
*Temperament
*Environment
*Economic status
*Genetic predisposition
 
These can play into a pessimistic attitude. But there is one factor that may have the power to transform those reasons – the power of choice.
 
Optimism as a Choice
Someone with a negative mindset might view negative circumstances as all or nothing. A catastrophic event,
 
But those in the positive camp look at the negatives and assess their choices. They then go on to make the best decision in their control.
 
Plus, their positive mindset can bring them a more constructive and useful attitude.
 
How a Pessimist can become More Optimistic
 
Brain Training
While changing any part of our personality is never easy, it is doable. An individual must want it though.
 
Try telling a pessimist their attitude can change their outlook and thus change their life. Now expect a cynical response.
 
But if their decision is their own there’s more chance of success. Especially if the person is trying to find purpose or more joy in life.
 
Focus
What you focus on expands. Always focusing on what is wrong and what does not work is a surefire way to get more of the same.
 
Most everything can and does go wrong. There are plenty of positive circumstances in life to focus on:
 
What does go right in your life?
Counting your blessings
What do you have to be grateful for?
What does work?
 
Perception
Can adversity can contain some semblance of a silver lining? Will a pessimist view an ending as a beginning or as a lesson learned?
 
Can a pessimist find the deeper meaning instead of looking through a negative lens?
 
Internalizing
It’s best not to make the circumstances personal. In other words, what if something happened only because it happened and not because of “bad luck?”
 
Moving away from the woe-is-me way of thinking opens the door to a broader view.
 
Storytelling
Another way to subdue negative thinking is through stories. A pessimist will say they have no luck.
 
Everything always happens to them. Everybody else gets to get what they want.
 
Something happened because something happened – no story attached.
 
Changing your focus and perception. Don’t internalize.
 
Tell yourself a new story. See the glass as half-full and bring more optimism into your life.
 
JohnK 2-23-2021
 
stick man hears about optimistsOverheard: “Optimism is the madness of insisting that all is well when we are miserable”
                          ~Voltaire
 
 
 
 
 
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Is Your Money Mindset Setting You Up for Failure?

February 15, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments
You feel you can trust your mindset when you begin a new endeavor. But is there a devil in the details?
 
We’re looking down the road in this GenuLines report on how your money attitude might set you up for a crash. 
 

Is Your Money Mindset Setting You Up for Failure?

dollars for money mindsetYou want to make more money. You see the lavish lifestyles of celebrities and other famous people.
 
You’d like to have some of that for yourself. But, is your drive for money blinding you to the important things in your life?
 
 
 
It’s often said that if you do something you love, the money will follow. That can happen if you approach whatever you love with passion.
 
Then again, if making money is your driving force, how will you do that? You’re likely to chase the dollar from one job to the next or from one opportunity to the next.
 
You’ll get seduced by false offers of riches. Over time, you’ll look back and see how little you accomplished.
 
You may be successful in the short term. You’ll get that extra dollar from a new job or you’ll squeeze a quick buck from your business.
 
But, you’ll keep searching for more money.
 
 
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Experience

It’s possible that if you lack the experience at your new job you won’t be able to handle it. In other words, you didn’t give your previous level enough time to develop a foundation.
 
You jumped ahead, and now you’re unclear what to do. It’s a concept known as the Peter Principle, named after the person who came up with the idea, Peter Drucker.
 
Money isn’t as important as a lot of folks believe. For instance, what good is having a high-paying job when you have to work 80-90 hours a week?
 
What kind of life is that?
 
Many people who do this, look back at their lives and wonder why they did it. While they may have a lot of money when they get older, they might end up quite unhappy.
 
Or the workload needed to reach your goal gets you to an early grave. In that case the money they earned is useless.
 
If you are happy with what you are doing, money becomes a secondary priority. People do need money to live, and you shouldn’t settle for working for less than you’re worth.
 
Get to the point where you can balance a decent amount of money with doing something that you enjoy. Then expect to live a more satisfying life.
 
JohnK 2-15-2021
 
Stick figure hears about motneyOverheard: There is a gigantic difference between earning a great deal of money and being rich.
                                ~Marlene Dietrich
 
 
 
 
 
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Kick Your Procrastination to The Curb

February 8, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Procrastination leaves you with questions. Maybe you wonder where the time went, and eventually where the years went. 

So today GenuLines looks at how time and opportunities slip away, and some ways you can change this. 

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Kick Your Procrastination to The Curb

Procrastination is a thief. It will rob you of precious minutes and hours before you realize they’re gone.
 
You put off the task you intended to complete today. There was good reason to do it, but right now you can’t remember why.
 
Procrastination comes in many disguises. Sometimes it’s called rationalization.
 
You didn’t get started on that project because the weather was too hot. Or you didn’t have all the parts to finish the job.
 
You can always come up with good reasons to delay a project.
 
Procrastination as a habit
When you put off correcting this it becomes your constant companion. You find ways to delay a task because there are other things more important to do.
 
bee doing procrastinationThere are lots of excuses.
 
Like checking your email. Playing an on-line game.
 
Or turning on the TV to see if you’re missing something interesting.
 
 
 
 
You have to recognize a real reason you delay as opposed to an excuse not to do something you don’t want to do. Ask yourself if that job needs to get done. and if your answer is yes then get it done and then reward yourself for a victory over procrastination.
 
When the job is complete, step back and assess what you’ve done to see if it was worth the time and effort. Could be you were procrastinating for good reason, but that’s rarely the case.
 
Lack of direction can cause you to procrastinate because you’re not sure what to do next.

Disorganization

This could be the father of procrastination. Get organized with a to-do list, putting the most urgent at the top.
 
Make a deal with yourself that you cannot do anything else until you finish at least one thing on the list. You can make giant strides with tiny steps.
 
Big projects can be daunting whether you’re writing a book or building a house. Break them into sections.
 
A small manageable task is much more palatable than trying to swallow the entire project. No matter how small the success it’s another step toward completion.
 
Decide what needs done and do it. Even if it’s done wrong at least you’ve done something.
 
Indecision
Indecision can cause major delays in both your business and personal life. It’s easier to make a decision if you make a list of project pros and cons.
 
Once you have a clear direction, your mind clears and the way opens up.
 
Fear of failure can cause procrastination. But, the failure lies in never getting started.
 
Difficult and dreaded tasks are rarely as bad as they seem at the beginning. Stop procrastinating today.
 
Don’t put it off until tomorrow.
 
JohnK 1-8-2021
 
stick figure man hears about procrastinationOverheard:  “Life, as it is called, is for most of us one long postponement”
                                  .~ Henry Miller
 
 
 
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Find the Source of Your Motivation

February 1, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Lack of motivation can throw cold water on the best of plans. So let GenuLines help keep you on the path toward realizing exactly what you want in life. 

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Find the Source of Your Motivation

You get your work assignment. You know what you have to do.
 
You’ve got to get started – but somehow, you lack the motivation to get off square one.
 
Success won’t be had without motivation.

Where’s the source of your motivation?

man thinking about motivationWhere can you turn for the inspiration that will propel you forward? We’re all different and we’re all motivated by different things.
 
You may get motivated by visualizing completion of the task and reaching the goal. There may be a job promotion in it for you and a bigger paycheck.
 
 
Or you want to finish another chapter in the book you’re writing, or you look to lose five pounds by the end of the week. Seeing the goal in your mind could motivate you toward success.

Visualize completion

Never lose sight of your ultimate goal. Know you’re going to get what you deserve and push forward with renewed motivation.
 
You know that success is not only an option but is a real fact. Keep this in mind and motivation comes easier.
 
Preparation 
Motivation without the skills to achieve your goals is not enough. If you know you’re lacking something to move forward motivation is hard to summon.
 
Knowledge fuels motivation, and to a lesser extent, so does persistence.
 
Change your environment
New surroundings often give you a renewed outlook on your life. It can be something simple.
 
Put a new plant in your home or office, hang a new picture or open the curtains and let in the light.
 
This also includes surrounding yourself with positive people. When you’re around positive and successful friends their attitude rubs off on you.
 
You absorb their energy. But you’ll also absorb the energy of negative people or depressing surroundings.
 
Other methods
Find the source of your motivation and re-evaluate your tasks. Brainstorm and look for new information.
 
You can do this by taking a break. Go for a walk, exercise, work in the yard or relax with an inspirational book.
 
Using your brain in different ways will stimulate it. And stimulation leads to motivation.
 
Do something for others
When we do for others we find motivation within ourselves. Many times the way to achieve your goal is to assist others in reaching theirs.
 
Seek to serve and you’ll become energized and motivated when people rely on you. Disappoint them and you disappoint yourself – and you’re not going to let that happen, are you?
 
Listen
Some find a motivational source by talking or reading aloud to themselves. Keep an inspirational book handy at all times.
 
When you actually hear the positive affirmations they become more effective.
 
Motivation comes from many different sources. Look within and find what works for you.
 
Believe in yourself. Look forward to the good that will come into your life.
 
Do these things and expect motivation to come your way..
 
JohnK 2-1-2021
 
Stick figure hears about motivationOverheard: “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great”
                                    ~Zig Ziglar
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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How to Create a Time Management Plan

January 18, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Time waits for no one. How true that is! 

But GenuLines has some ideas that will take waiting out of the equation and put time on your side. 

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How to Create a Time Management Plan

Creating a time management plan keeps you from wasting time. Having a plan makes every hour count.
 
hourglass of time
 
You work at a good pace. And your time gets good distribution over the daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly tasks.
 
Creating a time management plan is an important key to success.
 

 

 

 

* Be Realistic With Your Plans –

Don’t go against your own internal clock when planning each day. If you know you struggle to get up in the morning, don’t schedule things in the early morning hours.
 
If you can manage the tasks you like first in the morning, try that.
 

* Set Time Limits –

This is especially important for both tasks you dislike and for the ones you like. There’s a risk of procrastination when you spend too much time on tasks you like.
 

* Say no to Distractions –

One of the biggest killers of any plan is distractions.
 
These include television, phone calls, social media, even children and spouses. You can head off most distractions by planning ahead.
 
Turn off the TV. Turn off the phone.
 
Use social media only at certain times- and use a timer. Explain to kids and spouses the importance of not bothering you while you’re working.  
 

* Differentiate Important from Non-Important Tasks

Understand what is important and what is not important. If you make it a habit to do the most important things first, you’re going to feel more accomplished and get more done.
 

* Calendars and Technology –

Use Google Calendar or another system synced to your phone. This is a great way to ensure that your calendar is always with you and that you don’t forget things.
 
You can even set reminders and alarms to help.
 

* Kick Urgency out of Your Life –

For instance, if you’re a service provider, stop taking last-minute work orders. Train your clients to give you plenty of time to work tasks into your schedule.
 
Set family time and playtime into your schedule too. That might avoid a last-minute meltdown from the little ones, too.
 

* Create and Use Lists –

It’s one thing to note on your calendar the words “work on project A”. But it’s quite another to list what you’ll do when you work on project A.
 
This is the most effective way to schedule your time so that you meet your goals. Be very specific with lists so you don’t waste time.
 

* Create a Daily Action Plan –

Have at least four or five things that you can do each day toward any goal that you have. Plus, having a variety of things to do each day can avoid boredom and procrastination.
 
Creating a time management plan is an essential element in creating success. Most successful people live and die by their calendars.
 
Take the time to ask one.
 
JohnK 1-18-2021
 
Stick figure hears about time managementOverheard: “Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action”
                                          ~ Napoleon Hill
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Are You Setting the Right Goals for Yourself?

January 4, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments
The New Year is a great time to set new goals. And GenuLines wants you to make sure those new goals are the right goals. 
 
 

Are You Setting the Right Goals for Yourself?

There is a lot more to goal setting than just picking a goal and moving forward. Yes, this is important.
 
But it’s also important to make sure that you’re setting the right goals at the right time. These questions will help you head in the right direction:
 
Are You Setting Specific and Realistic Goals?
It takes a little research to ensure that a goal is realistic. If you’re not sure if something is actually achievable then you haven’t done enough research.
 
Once you know that the goal is realistic you need to give it a clear description. This will let you work backward to make a schedule of action you’ll need to succeed.
 
Listing goals
 
 
Are Your Goals Multifaceted?
Focusing on only one part of your life is a bad idea. To feel successful people make goals for all areas of their lives.
 
Say you have a wonderful business and career but your personal life suffers. No matter how successful you are, you won’t feel successful.
 
Make sure your goals include something from each aspect of your life.
 
Does Your Scheduling Show Real Need?
For instance, you want to exercise 30 minutes per day. But setting aside only 30 minutes isn’t going to be realistic.
 
You’ll probably need to set aside an hour. This will cover getting ready as well as cooling down or getting cleaned up to go back to work.
 
Are You Learning from Failure?
You might feel like giving up when setting goals and schedules. You put your plan into effect but you notice there are things you’ve forgotten to take into account.
 
Don’t quit. Learn from the failure and change the schedule to be more realistic.
 
You might find that in practice you have to rewrite all your goals and your schedule. This is natural.
 
Failure feels like a negative. But the truth is if you don’t fail sometimes you’re not going to learn much and it’s likely your goals are too easy.
 
Do Your Goals Represent Your Needs and Wants?
A lot of people set goals that represent what someone else wants instead of what they want. This can cause a lot of bad feelings and resentment.
 
And it can derail the best-laid plans.
 
As you set your goals for your life, ask yourself if they’re what you want for yourself or what someone else wants for you. Ask yourself if you’re okay with any goal you make being for someone else before you embark on your journey.
 
Are You Checking in Often to Stay on Track?
To-do lists pale in comparison to a well laid out calendar of tasks and activities that get you from point “A” to point “B”. Make sure that you look at your schedule often.
 
Make note of when you succeed in sticking to your schedule and when you don’t. Noticing a pattern of activity can help in improving your schedule.
 
And it can help you stay realistic about whether you’re sticking to the plan.
 
Do Your Goals Have Positive Focus?
Try writing down a goal and then changing the words to sound more positive to see if it isn’t more motivating. For instance, “losing weight” seems like a good target.
 
But for some people, it might signify deprivation. Instead, frame the goal as “improving my BMI by 10 points” or “improving my cholesterol by 10 percent.”
 
Do You Have Too Many Goals Set at One Time?
Just as setting too few goals can be a problem, so can setting too many. Instead, pick one personal goal, and one other type of goal to focus on until you reach them.
 
Later you can add more as time goes on. You don’t need to do everything today.
 
Slow and steady wins the race is a good motto to hang on to.
 
Setting the right goals for yourself takes some thought and consideration. Don’t try to set them all in one day.
 
It’s better to set some goals in different stages and in different areas of your life. And give a lot of thought to why you’re setting the goals in the first place.
 
JohnK 1-4-2021
 
stick man hears about goalsOverheard: “What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve”
                                ~Norman Vincent Peale
 
 

 

 
 
 
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