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Horse Sense For a Complex World: Linda Kohanov on CHI FOR YOURSELF

On the next CHI FOR YOURSELF, we’ll hear about a new approach to the changing role of leadership.

Linda Kohanov leadershipLinda Kohanov adapts horse-inspired insights into powerful tools for developing collaborative leadership and managing change.

Linda Kohanov is the author of The Five Roles of a Master Herder: A Revolutionary Model for Socially Intelligent Leadership.

Join us on Thursday, February 22nd, at 1 pm Pacific, 4 PM Eastern time at chiforyourself.com

 

 

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Mass Shootings, Boys, and Feeling The Feelings

It’s been a tough week in the U.S. with another school shooting capturing the country’s  attention. CHI FOR YOURSELF usually doesn’t discuss these types of events. Certainly not from a political perspective or one that whips the populace into a frenzy. 

 

Boy shows feelingsBut it’s worth noting that these shootings tend to have one thing in common. They’re committed by males. Young males. The nation asks “why?”

 

 

 

 

Today we look back to a 2013 CHI FOR YOURSELF episode with guest Cynthia Gill. She told us about ways in which boys are educated, conditioned, and often left with feelings of hopelessness.

 

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Cynthia Gill is the author of Jump-Starting Boys: Help Your Reluctant Learner Find Success in School and Life.  Hear the show by clicking on below–
 

 


 
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Down But Not Out: Feel the Feelings and Keep Going

 

The other day I was reminded of the waves of emotions that can roll through our lives unannounced. These can range from down days to the darker depression-like moods.

I dealt with those heavy feelings earlier in my life. I referred to those as “situational” since there were some troubling issues that had to be faced.

When I ran a search on the definition of emotions I found: A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.

Definition 2 read: Any of the particular feelings that characterize such a state of mind, such as joy, anger, love, hate, horror, etc. The key word in the first example is ‘natural’.

Your first reaction might be to turn your feelings away. You might push the feelings down, put them on hold until later, or use distractions to get your mind off of things.

You can deny them or indulge in them (often called wallowing). And there’s a cliche to match every situation- ‘I don’t have time to think about that now’, ‘It’s always something’, or ‘I’ll take care of it later.’

But what you’re feeling is neither positive nor negative. It’s all part of being human.

If your choice is not to experience intense feelings they could become embedded in your physical body. When they set up shop deep inside you they can have an effect on the way you look at the world.

The worst case scenario is that they can be so troubling as to cause illness. This is a good time to monitor your thinking, too.

One of the greatest figures in the Human Development field is Louise Hay. She put it this way, “The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives.”

You can bring out the feelings, front and center, to experience them in a safe and enriching way. When I feel the need to do this I pretty much drop whatever was planned for the day, if possible, and get to the feeling place.

You may have a more demanding schedule, so how about a date- with yourself? Pick a safe, secure, and comfortable place along with a time when you can be alone.

Start by remembering the circumstances that touched off the emotions you’ve been putting off. When you’ve stirred up the emotions let yourself FEEL them. Don’t block them.

Cry if you feel like it. Let any thoughts that come up come through.

And be gentle with yourself. This is not a good place to judge what’s happening.

Recognizing your emotions instead of pushing them away helps you to stay emotionally healthy and goes a long way toward truly conscious living.

 

JohnK 2-16-2018

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Image for overheard for feelingsOverheard: Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings – always darker, emptier and simpler.”

                       ~ Friedrich Nietzsche 

 

 

 

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Come and Get It: Another Great Meal Idea From Jo’s Kitchen!

Food for Thought: “Healthy Eats” with Jo Eager on CHI FOR YOURSELF!

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All the noise about nutrition these days! CHI FOR YOURSELF wants to cut through the clutter, so I’m happy to announce that Jo Eager will be joining us with a new segment called “Healthy Eats.”

 

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Jo Eager

 

Jo knows her way around the kitchen and her conscious lifestyle is reflected in her cookin’. Take a look:

 

 

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Why are we stressed? Stress is the body’s normal reaction to daily events. There are several sources of stress and as many ways to react to it. Basically, stress is a human defense mechanism, but it is important to not let it take over.

On the next CHI FOR YOURSELF, you’ll hear clinical psychologist Arthur Ciaramicoli  offer therapeutic tools for fighting the anxiety, fear, and depression caused by stress. Arthur Ciaramicoli EdD, Ph.D. is the author of  The Stress Solution: Using Empathy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to Reduce Anxiety and Develop Resilience.

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Arthur Ciaramicoli

“De-stress” with us on the next CHI FOR YOURSELF, Thursday, July 7th at 1pm Pacific, 4pm Eastern time. You’ll see the screen at the usual place- chiforyourself.com.

JohnK 7-1-2016

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~ Indira Gandhi

 

“Quiet Revolution”: Today on CHI FOR YOURSELF

picture of john kobikWe’re getting set for today’s CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with William Martin, author of  The Activist’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for a Modern Revolution.  Be with us at 4pm Eastern, 1pm pacific time at www.chiforyourself.com!

 

JohnK 6-9-2016

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We “Do the Tao Now”: This Week on CHI FOR YOURSELF

picture of john kobikIt’s more than 2-thousand years old, but our next CHI FOR YOURSELF guest says it’s just what we need to make positive change in our troubled world.

The Tao Te Ching is known for its enigmatic wisdom and yet William Martin says Taoism’s simplicity can be subversive and its flexibility a potent force. Martin is the author of  The Activist’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for a Modern Revolution.

William Martin is our scheduled guest on this week’s CHI FOR YOURSELF. Be on the call with us Thursday, June 9th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time for a different approach to modern times. You’ll find us at chiforyourself.com.

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William Martin

 

JohnK 6-6-2016

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“There is but one cause of human failure. And that is man’s lack of faith in his true self.”

~ William James

“Stop Being Lonely” (a how-to) and 2 CHI FOR YOURSELF replays

picture of john kobikHard to believe loneliness could be a reality for many of us given that we are sooooooo connected, followed, friended, and liked. But on our next CHI FOR YOURSELF we’ll hear from someone who specializes in helping lonely folks. In fact, Kira Asatryan has been there herself and she’s put her findings into a book called STOP BEING LONELY: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships. 

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Kira Asatryan

Join us on the call for CHI FOR YOURSELF and guest Kira Asatryan on Thursday March 24th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific at chiforyourself.com.

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If you missed the last two editions of CHI FOR YOURSELF you can get caught up here…

picture of Dan MillmanListen as “Peaceful Warrior” Dan Millman talks about his book THE FOUR PURPOSES OF LIFE: FINDING MEANING AND DIRECTION IN A CHANGING WORLD. 

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picture of LeslieBeth WishDr. LeslieBeth Wish is an award-winning, nationally honored psychotherapist and author of her research-based book, “Smart Relationships:  How Successful Women Can Find True Love.”

 

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JohnK 3-7-2016

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“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”
~ Mother Teresa

 

 

Dan Millman on CHI FOR YOURSELF and- A Valentine’s Day “2-fer”

picture of john kobikHe’s  a former world-champion athlete and college professor, the author of numerous books, including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Wisdom of the Peaceful Warrior, The Life You Were Born to Live, The Laws of Spirit, and The Journeys of Socrates. Dan Millman is our scheduled guest on CHI FOR YOURSELF this coming Thursday February 18th. Dan will talk about his book The Four Purposes of Life: Finding Meaning and Direction in a Changing World.

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Dan Millman

 

Be with us Thursday Feb. 18th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific for Dan Millman.

 

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We couldn’t let Valentine’s Day slip by without a look at relationships from our “Conscious Talk” point of view. So…..a couple of love offerings to honor the day!

In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love. Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times.

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Long-term happiness in love depends on a couple’s ability to repair the inevitable rifts and differences, large and small, that occur in any relationship. Neuroscience suggests that relationship upsets are best mended quickly, or they accumulate in long-term memory, increase reactive communication, and become harder to repair successfully. And good repair takes five minutes or less! The book Five Minute Relationship Repair from Dr. Susan Campbell and Dr. John Grey offers practical tools and suggested scripts for resolving problems and having your needs met.

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Be Well!

 

JohnK. 2-12-2016

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Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

          ˜ Mother Teresa

 

 

 

 

It’s a Love Thing! Today on CHI FOR YOURSELF

Just a reminder that today’s scheduled CHI FOR YOURSELF guest is Dr. LeslieBeth Wish. We’ll be talking relationships, but no flowers and candy here. We’ll look at intuition and it’s part in empowering you to make better choices!

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Dr. LeslieBeth Wish

 

Be on the call today at 5pm Eastern, 2pm Pacific at www.chiforyourself.com.

Next CHI FOR YOURSELF: A Love “Wish” Just for You

picture of john kobikSince Valentine’s Day is almost here I wanted to tell you that our next CHI FOR YOURSELF guest will be talking about love, dating, and other matters of the heart. Of course we won’t be talking about the “flowers and candy” kind of love. Instead, we’ll look at relationships from an intuitive level with our guest Dr. LeslieBeth Wish. Dr. Wish is a nationally recognized author, psychologist and licensed clinical social worker honored for her pioneering work in love, career, happiness, and success. She’ll look at ways your “inner voice” can guide you toward love and help you avoid relationship pitfalls.

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Dr. LeslieBeth Wish

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish on CHI FOR YOURSELF this Friday Jan. 29th at 5pm Eastern, 2pm Pacific. Go to chiforyourself.com at show time and click on the player to hear the show. We’d love to have you with us!

JohnK Jan. 27th, 2016

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