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Are You Afraid of Failure?

man a failureIt’s possible to be so afraid of failure that you’ll do everything imaginable to avoid it. You avoid taking chances because if things don’t work out you’ll look like a failure.

What’s worse, you constantly see successful people portrayed in the media. You think they must be either geniuses or naturals at what they do.

 

 

But if you look a little closer at these people’s lives you see a different picture. Their success often came after failures- sometimes lots of them.

 

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Failure is a great tool for figuring out what not to do the next time around. If something you tried didn’t work it’s no reason to give up on your project.

Use the experience as a road-map to reevaluate what went wrong and to adjust to try and make it work.

Sometimes, you may need some help since you won’t know why what you tried was a failure. In this case, it may be worth it to find a mentor who can look at what you’re doing and help you to get back on track.

This may cost you some money upfront. But good mentors are really worth it if they can produce results for you.

You might be prone to do things all by yourself. But influential people can be a big help.

Start with a search of biographies of famous people and what it took them to get where they are.

You can read about their accomplishments. And you’ll get a good idea of how they handled their setbacks.

Speaking of setbacks, those have a side benefit. They show others your tenacity.

With your continuing trouble-shooting and good attitude you’re primed for success.

Setbacks are a fact of life. Sometimes alternative measures are in order. Like a side job, for instance.

Focus on what works and scrap what doesn’t. You’ll keep heading in the right direction and you’ll learn new and important things, too.

If you use failure as a learning tool you’ll never stop learning. You’ll see improvement in most off of your life’s efforts.

It’s a simple formula. 1) Read about successful people. 2) Pay attention to what they do to succeed. 3) Put the same habits into your life.

It’s really a case of success begets success.

JohnK 8-16-2018

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man talking failureOverheard: “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”

~Truman Capote

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Steps to Creating New Habits

 
Let’s talk about forming new habits. There are times in our lives when we want to create new and better habits for ourselves.
 
This could include getting into the habit of eating healthier. It might be drinking more water. Or it could be moving more and taking the dog for a daily walk. Or it could be work-related, or spiritual, or…
 
There are so many areas in our lives we can improve and make easier if we create new habits. 
 
Getting into the habit of doing something is often easier said than done. We seem to form bad habits without any effort, but getting into a “good” habit can be a little more challenging. 
 
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We’ll break it down into a three-step process. This will make it easy to follow until you’ve internalized the new behavior and made it a true habit. You’ll do it without having to think about it. Like brushing your teeth. 
 
Decide What You Want To Do 
 
The first step is to decide what the new habit is. Be as specific as possible. Be bold. Don’t tell yourself you want to exercise more. Say something like “I will go for a 30-minute walk every single day.” Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how you’re going to do it, is half the battle. 
 
Remind Yourself To Get It Done 
 
The next few days should be smooth sailing. You’re motivated and excited to get this done. Sticking to your new habit isn’t an issue. But a few days in you’ll notice that it’s easy to slip back into old habits. 
 
Say it’s raining and you’re not feeling like going out and walking. Or the hours in your day seem to be getting away from you. This is when it’s important to have a daily reminder. Set an alert on your phone or add the new habit to your daily to-do list for a while. 
 
Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit 
 
It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage.
 
A routine will help you solidify the habit. This way you won’t have to spend a lot of willpower or rely on daily reminders. 
 
Make that daily walk part of your after-dinner routine. Or switch from grabbing a snack at the vending machine at work at 10:00 in the morning to packing a healthy snack. 
 
You can do this! Decide to create the new habit. Practice the routine until it’s second nature and you’ll be well on your way to forming a new good habit. 
 
JohnK 1-17-2018
 
 
 
 
Image for overheard for habit formingOverheard:  “Whatever ought to be, can be”
                     ~ James Rouse
 
 
 
 
 
 

Julie Loar And The Resurgence of Feminine Energy

It was the start of another year. 2011 to be exact. CHI FOR YOURSELF welcomed Julie Loar.

Julie’s the author of  Goddesses for Every Day: Exploring The Wisdom and Power of the Divine Feminine Around the World.” 

 

 

 

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JohnK 1-13-2018

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5 Tips For Achieving Success With Confidence

Achieving success can help you feel more confident. It’s not the boldest statement. But CHI FOR YOURSELF has a different way of looking at things like success and confidence.

Business successOur idea of success is not realized with new cars, houses, or loads of money. 

Today we’ll look at some ways to help you get the confidence you need to realize what you know to be true success:

 

Be true to yourself
Your values and belief system must be very much in place if you want to achieve a success coupled with serenity.

Don’t let your success come in ways which compromise your genuine self. It’ll be a success built on sand rather than solid ground and may crumble and fall with time.

Trust in your abilities
You may have much to learn before you can succeed in a chosen field or path. Think of all that you’ve achieved so far and challenges you’ve already worked through. Trust that you can do more.

Don’t dismiss what you’ve learned so far in life. You might think it was easy and that anyone could do it, but others may see it as remarkable and see you as an example.

Use your subconscious mind
Repeat positive affirmations and side-step negative thoughts. That builds strength for your subconscious mind. 

You can train your subconscious mind to carry out your intentions. That makes a real difference in how you and others see yourself.

Avoid letting negative thoughts creep in and gain control. That will cause you to doubt your true abilities.

Use correct body language
Watch your posture, stance, and your general body language. It can be powerful when dealing with others and expecting a great outcome.

Remember when your mother used to tell you to sit up straight? Good advice! It sends a far different and more positive message than slumping.

Study body language and begin to practice it.

Enter a room with your head held high and walking like you own where you are and how you present yourself. People will take notice in a positive way.

Pay attention to your personal look
Never present yourself as unkempt and looking wrinkled and ungroomed. That image isn’t one that reaps success.

If this is an area of your life where you lack skills, seek the help of others. Develop a style you’re comfortable with. One that fits the image you want to present.

 

JohnK 1-8-2018
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Image for overheard for successOverheard:   Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.
                            ~Samuel Johnson

 

 

 

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Breakup Rehab: This Week on CHI FOR YOURSELF

 

How do you regain confidence and optimism about love following a breakup?

After her own relationship ended, Rebekah Freedom McClaskey developed and practiced a series of small, step-by-step actions that ultimately helped her heal her heart and live in harmony with her destiny.

Hear author and counselor Rebekah Freedom McClaskey on our next CHI FOR YOURSELF. Thursday, October 12th at 1 pm Pacific time, 4 pm on the East Coast at chiforyourself.com

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Rebekah Freedom McClaskey is the author of Breakup Rehab: Creating the Love You Want.

 

JohnK 10-9-2017

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Why It’s Good To Keep A Household Budget

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You work hard to earn a living. So it’s best to make wise decisions when you spend that money. That’s where a household budget comes in.

A budget has obvious advantages. Like seeing at a glance what we have coming in, what’s going out (and what that money is paying for). You also get an idea if there’s anything left at the end of the month to put into savings.

 

Before we dive into exactly what a budget can do for us, let’s consider a few points. What will happen if we’re not tracking income and expenses?

You may end up spending more than you’re making in a given month (or two, or three). Over time that can put you into some pretty hot financial water. You may also spend a lot more than you’d like to believe on things like eating out, going to the movies or new clothes.

Having a budget gives you more control over your true spending wishes. That could be dinner and a movie, or not. Wouldn’t it be nice to have an actual choice?

A Budget Tracks Where Your Money Is Going

A budget’s only job is to track your money. You record where the money comes from each month (your income) and then write out everything you spend it on.

Start with your regular monthly bills. These include your mortgage or rent, utility bills etc.

What’s left is your discretionary income.

A Budget Helps You Spot Wasted Money

Having it all in front of you in black and white helps you identify things you’re wasting your money on.

Budgeting forces you to reconsider if you want to spend well over $200 a month on Cable TV. Or $150 on your large cell phone plan. Or how about that yearly magazine subscription to something you no longer read? Go through your expenses and reevaluate if this is REALLY how you want to spend your paycheck.

A Budget Allows You To Be Proactive About Savings

Saving money without a budget is hard. We go in with the best of intentions at the beginning of the month. But somehow there isn’t anything left at the end of the month.

A budget gives you a chance to be a bit more proactive. Set aside some money for savings at the beginning of the month, even a small amount like $20.

Put it in the budget as a regular expense, much like you do with your other urgent bills. If you need to, open a separate savings account so you’re not tempted to spend it.

A Budget Ensures You’re Not Spending More Than You’re Making

Your budget will keep you on track and help you avoid overspending. And I don’t have to tell you that that’s pretty important for your financial well-being.

JohnK 9-25-2017
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Image for overheard for budgetOverheard: ““While money can’t buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.” 
                                        ~ Groucho Marx

 

 

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Do You Have A Financial Safety Net? (And How To Build One)

 
Do you have a financial safety net? It’s something worth thinking about and setting up. What will happen to you and your loved ones if you lose your job for a few months?
 
What if you get into an accident that prevents you from earning a living? Or what if some unexpected expenses come up. Do you have anything in place to make sure the bills continue to get paid?
 
If not, now is the time to get started. But where do you actually start?
 
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Three to six months’ worth of living expenses saved in an interest-bearing account is a good start. Figure out what your family needs to live on if all income stops. Then start saving as much money as you can until you have built up this safety net.
 
Trim expenses for eating out, going to the movies, buying the newest TV and Tech gadget and the like. Add these to your savings account until you’ve saved enough to have a comfortable cushion. To make this step go even faster, add any bonuses, tax refunds etc. as well.
 
But don’t stop there. Make it a goal to add to your safety cushion as you can and come back and revise your numbers from time to time. Your living expenses may go up or down over time. You can adjust the amount you need and set aside savings in an account where you can get at it with no hassle.
 
Life and disability insurance are another important part of your financial safety net. Do you have a plan in place to continue to cover your living expenses (or those of your family) when you can no longer work? Call your insurance agent and go over your current coverage. Make sure the insurance you’re paying for will pay out what you need and if not, make adjustments.
 
Next, consider investing any further savings into higher interest-bearing accounts. You may not be able to access money invested here right away. But the funds will come in handy when you’re dealing with a long-term financial emergency or are ready to retire. Plenty of investment vehicles have a higher yield than your bank savings account.
 
Talk to your financial adviser, Work out a plan that’s right for you, your family, and whatever the future may hold.
 
JohnK 9-18-2017
 
Image for overheard for financial wisdomOverheard: “All money is a matter of belief.
           ~Adam Smith
 
 
 
 
 

How To Plan For Unexpected Expenses

 
It always seems to happen at the wrong time. The car’s transmission blows just as your daughter gets her braces. Or your washing machine decides to call it quits.
 
These unexpected expenses will pop up throughout life. You want to prepare as well as possible for those times when life throws you a financial curve ball.
 
Do your best to plan ahead for upcoming expenses. If you’re driving an older car, or your dishwasher has seen its better days, start saving up to replace the item. You may also want to start keeping an eye out for good deals on the replacement.
 
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An even better strategy is to have an emergency savings fund. Set up a savings account and add to it monthly. Use it only for completely unexpected expenses.
 
Make sure you know what’s in the account. And once you have to take money out of it replace it as soon as possible.
 
This brings us to an important point. How to make a quick recovery after taking a hit to your wallet.
 
Go over your budget (you have one of those, right?) and see if you can cut back on some things for the time being.
 
Stop ordering pizza every Friday night and make your own at home. Skip a night out on the town and watch a couple of movies on Netflix instead of going to the theater.
 
Use the money you’re not spending over the next few months to refill your emergency fund. For an extra boost, you might work a few hours of overtime. Or do a few freelance projects. You might pick up a short-term part time job to get back on track fast.
 
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But what do you do when the expense comes up before you had a chance to set up the emergency fund? Take a deep breath and assess the situation.
 
Can you make do without the item for a little while? At least long enough to scrape together the funds to repair or replace it?
 
If it’s the dishwasher, that’s easy. You can wash dishes by hand for a little while.
 
If it’s the fridge or the car you rely on to get you to work each day, that’s a different story.
 
If it’s your car decide if it would be better to repair than replace. Even if it isn’t the perfect solution, it may get you to work while you save up for the car you want.
 
Shuffle your money around and if there is no other option charge it to the credit card and get to work. Your one and only goal right now is to pay off that expense.
 
Sock away every available penny. Once you pay off your credit cards do what you can to get that emergency fund set up.
 
And be ready for any surprises down the road.
 
JohnK 9-12-2017
 
 
 

Chakra Wisdom with Tori Hartman: Today’s CHI FOR YOURSELF

 

Tori picture for chakra readsQuick reminder- Our guest on today’s CHI FOR YOURSELF is Tori Hartman, author of CHAKRA WISDOM ORACLE: How to Read the Cards for Yourself and Others. 

We’ll begin at 1 pm Pacific, 4 pm Eastern time at chiforyourself.com

 

 

“See” you then.

JohnK 9-7-2017

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Chakras And Transformation- It’s in The Cards: Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

 

Tori picture for chakra readsOur next scheduled CHI FOR YOURSELF guest will tell us about using intuitive power to bring profound growth into our lives. Tori Hartman is the author of Chakra Wisdom Oracle: How to Read the Cards for Yourself and Others. Her system of cards and workbook is designed to help you break through blockages and achieve your dreams. 

 

Join us for CHI FOR YOURSELF and Tori Hartman. Thursday, September 7th at 4 pm Eastern, 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

 

JohnK 9-4-2017

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