If you have difficulty trusting yourself, you may be too dependent on others. The situation can grow and you become dependent on more and more people.
GenuLines knows that can present problems when called upon to handle situations on your own, so read for some helpful ideas.
Stop Relying Too Much on Others
Have you ever let someone else take over a part of your job? You may feel relief when this happens.
But you could be setting yourself up for future failure. The reason this happens is that you didn’t trust that you could do the job yourself.
In the above scenario, you’re taking on something outside of your comfort zone. It may be that your boss wants to test how you will handle a new situation.
He or she gives you an assignment knowing that you have never dealt with it before.
It’s natural to ask others for help when you find yourself in unfamiliar territory. There’s nothing wrong with doing this.
But there’s little growth in letting others solve problems for you. You won’t develop the self-trust for handling new situations.
And your manager will see that you, for the most part, passed the assignment to someone else.
Positivity helps
Face your new challenges with positivity. Be willing to make an attempt even if you make mistakes.
The mistakes are the tools for you to learn. When you do make those mistakes, ask what you did wrong.
Over time, those mistakes will get less and less, and you’ll begin to trust that you can handle the situations.
There’s a subtle result of trying something new. You’ll prove that you can handle new tasks and develop new skills.
That’s enlightening and it’s a big factor in developing trust in yourself.
Every skill you are now good at and find easy you probably struggled with at the start. If you keep this in mind, you will give yourself over to trusting that you can handle anything that comes your way.
You’ll need less reliance on others. But you still should ask questions when you are unsure about something.
That’s another part of learning.
Some people may give you a hard time because it’s inconvenient. But, you’ll find most people want to help you succeed.
It helps them when you get up to speed with new skills.
JohnK 5-21-2019
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Overheard: “Trust but verify”
~Ronald Reagan
You can make occasional references to how you enjoy your life and give reasons why. Relate experiences about your weekend to your colleagues. 
The people you’re trying to help may need to open up about their situation. If they’re denying that it’s occurring, it’s going to be difficult to help them. 
Overheard: “The bravest sight in the world is to see a great man struggling against adversity”
Then there are the night owls, who can produce the most during the later hours. These are their optimal routine zones.
Cindy Stulberg is the author of Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.
But on our next edition of Chi For Yourself, we’ll look at relationships as a path to healing.
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