Along with all the stress you face in today’s world you’re hearing about lots of ways you can deal with it. But have you ever thought of looking toward personal mastery for relief?
Come along with us for today’s GenuLines look at personal mastery.
Stress And Personal Mastery
Stress is an emotional and physical response that we show towards different pressures. These can be from the workplace, school or other institutions.
The reactions would include inability to focus and concentrate, headache and fast heartbeat. Almost everybody develops stress, but how we deal with it is important.
Personal mastery is something that you can put to work to help you to deal with stress.
Your work environment can be a major stressor, but this is something you may not be able to control. Instead of trying to control the work environment, you can try to work around it.
A Little At A Time
You can take one step at a time towards your goals. The question is, how do you work in the midst of stress?
You can reduce the risks by seeing things in a new perspective. An example would be learning to let go of situations you don’t control.
You can push back against stress by turning it into positive energy. This way you’ll focus your energy on things you can control.
Emotions
Personal mastery also helps you to be familiar with your emotions and learn how to control them. This attitude could be a great help in overcoming and managing stress.
There are things you can change, while there are things that are beyond your control.
Failing to deal with the problem during its early stages can lead to chronic stress. This can bring on headaches, ulcers, indigestion, high blood pressure and heart issues.
Deal With It
Actually there are simple steps and tips that you can do.
*Saying no to commitments that would require time and energy.
*Regular exercise, especially stretching and breathing exercises.
*Meditation
*Eating healthy food
*Asking for help from other people to lessen the burden.
To deal with stress, you can reduce the stressors in your life to avoid feeling its effects.
Prevention
Stress prevention removes the possibility of stress to occur.
You have to know and understand your limits. Next you’ll have to learn how to say no.
It’s important that you know your limitations, but still accept what other people say to you.
At Work and Then Some
Personal mastery can help you focus on your work among other things. It mitigates effects and encourages peace, tranquility and spirituality.
You can incorporate stress reduction and prevention in daily life.
Some people turn to medication to deal with the symptoms. This could be disabling, and it usually fails to address the real issue.
Yes medication could lessen the effects, but it’s more likely they’ll come back. With personal mastery, you change your entire outlook and perspective in life.
This guides you to avoid anything that could stress you and wear you out.
You say you don’t trust yourself? Did you know that the same feelings can filter down to your kids too?
Your Children May Not Trust Themselves
Lack of self-trust is far from uncommon. It’s possible that you developed this tendency while you were growing up.
You can pick it up as a kid and carry it into your adult life. You pass it on to your kids, and they do the same to theirs.
Your actions and exchanges may be subtle. Your kids will hear what you and your spouse talk about as well as discussions by, or with, other family members.
You may well do things that you’re not even aware of, but your kids will pick up on those, too.
It’s a difficult situation because you want your kids to be safe. But you don’t want to suggest that they give a pass to everyone without question.
A delicate balance
Trusting yourself requires trusting others. That’s where the difficulty can creep in.
You’ve likely been burned by a few people enough times to warrant your caution. But, these experiences can also resonate with your children.
Aim for a balance. You want them to trust certain people while remaining mindful through the process.
Of course, you want to teach your kids always to be trustworthy themselves, even if others don’t respond in kind.
Minus that, self-trust will be near impossible.
If they let others down, they won’t have any reason to develop an internal trust. So you and your partner will want to doublecheck your own trustworthiness.
You may be trustworthy toward kids but not to other people. That can send the wrong signals to kids if you tell them they should be trustworthy to others.
It will leave them confused and unsure of what to do. In the long run, they’ll be untrustworthy, and they won’t develop self-trust.
Be sure to talk to your kids to help them develop the balance between caution and trust. If they have questions, be open to answering them.
Try not to take offense if they say you’re sending mixed signals with regards to trust. Find a balance and your kids will likely find it too.
Your family will have the necessary means to trust each other and yourselves. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
Does the thought of failure fill you with dread? You’re not alone.
Read on as GenuLines looks at some ideas to help you believe in yourself and to loosen failure’s grip.
How to Use Failure to Strengthen Belief in Yourself
One of the best tools for dealing with failure is failure itself. You can examine it to figure out what went wrong.
You can look back on the steps you took and try to find the exact point of failure. Then you’ll be able to choose alternative steps based on this information.
You do need to be honest in your assessment of why the failure happened.
If you blame others for your failures, you’ll mask the causes, and you’ll never move on. It’s easier to blame others rather than admit mistakes.
But you aren’t doing yourself any favors when you do this.
Recognizing your failure is important, but don’t be hypercritical. Putting yourself down because you failed won’t help your cause.
Know that failure happens and embrace it. Then, you can take a step back and figure out your next move.
Learning from others
You can get inspiration from the failure of others. People write about their trials and tribulations in books.
They record videos about their setbacks. Their experiences can help you by giving you tips on how to avoid the mistakes they made.
Using this approach can help you turn things around at a much faster rate. If you’re not doing this yet, give it some thought.
Drawing from the experiences of others also shows you that you aren’t alone. Many of the most successful people overcame obstacles.
Their stories can help you feel better about your own slip-ups.
In other words, if they did it, so can you. That too is a powerful benefit of using failure to your advantage.
If you’re repeating the same mistakes over and over, it’s time to take a hard look at what you’re doing. If you’re struggling to break that cycle, you may want to find a coach who can help you.
Sometimes, that extra push can be all that you need to get you to break out of the pattern.
Project Into Your Future: Appreciate the Small Stuff
While there are no definite ways to peer into the future to date, you do have some control over the process. There are random events that will be beyond your control.
Unfortunately, some of them will be unpleasant. But, there’s a lot you can do to shape your future.
The point of the exercise is to try and determine if you appreciate the small things in your life.
A look into the crystal ball
Are you spending time with family or friends? Or are you working long hours and not interacting with anyone?
If you keep your focus on making money, you may look back on your time and wish you hadn’t. There’s much more to life than work.
At some point, the company could turn you loose. They may replace you with someone younger and less expensive.
You aren’t as important to them as you make yourself out to be. Everyone is replaceable.
People do need to work. You have to be able to provide for your family.
But, you need to have a balance between work and spending time with your family and friends. Work and money are things you can always manage to find.
Family and friends are irreplaceable as is the time you spend with them.
Opportunity knocks
Another reason to spend time with people is they can also present you with opportunities. For instance, you may not like your career, but you stick with it because the money is good and it’s steady work.
As you interact with other people, you may hear about opportunities for work that you’d much prefer. This kind of thing happens quite often.
If you spent the majority of your time at your job, you would never discover these opportunities.
Of course, you don’t want your friendships to be dependent on the opportunities they provide. Yet, friendships often lead to forming new ventures.
That’s a natural part of the process.
But don’t pick your job on the basis of forming close friendships. In time some co-workers can become good friends.
Just remember that these relationships are professional.
Negative images bombard your life. They’re all over the television news and your favorite TV shows.
You see it online, at work and even at home. But, GenuLines suggests some out of the box thinking to turn things around
Become a “Turnaround Factory” for Negative Thinking
What if you could picture your brain as a factory? One that takes in negative thinking and processes it to churn out positive thoughts.
Seems a bit odd since, of course, you’re not a factory. But, if you can think in these terms, you may be able to combat negative thinking.
Switching to factory status means you need to stop overreacting to what people say. When someone says something you don’t agree with, take a moment to consider what they’re saying.
When you get annoyed at others, you stop listening to them and only want to get your point across. You want to prove why they’re wrong.
Instead, after he or she speaks, take a moment and consider what the message is.
The next step is to try and see the other person’s point of view. If you have a difficult time doing this, calmly ask questions of the person making the statement.
You can say that you don’t understand the reason for the statement and would like to know more about why they said it.
You don’t have to agree with the other person, even after you start to process what they say. But, the act of listening and considering their point of view will transform you.
You may start to challenge your belief system. Sometimes you can get so focused on a belief, even when the reason why you feel that way has changed.
When you start to question your beliefs, you’ll be more open in considering what others have to say. The process will help you turn negative thoughts into positive ones.
Negative thoughts seldom lead to believing in oneself. You will end up challenging what everyone says as wrong if they don’t agree with your way of thinking.
You’ll become bitter towards others and at some point towards yourself. You won’t believe that anything is possible because you shoot down every suggestion.
This type of thinking doesn’t make people happy.
When you start to open yourself to others, you will learn more and be accepting of different beliefs. You’ll become enlightened when this happens.
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Do you have a favorite time of day to do your work? Not everyone’s a “rise and shine” thinking dynamo.
Today GenuLines looks at different peak productivity times. Let’s see where you might fit into one of them.
Do You Know Your Optimal Routine Zone?
People have certain times of the day when they do their best work. They get more done and are more focused.
Some do better in the mornings. Others in the afternoons.
Then there are the night owls, who can produce the most during the later hours. These are their optimal routine zones.
What is your optimal routine zone? Are you a morning person or do you cringe at the thought of getting up early?
Do you have vampire blood that lets you do your best work at night?
Match up with the zone
Whatever you find to be your optimal routine zone, set your tasks to work during these times. Do as much of your work as possible during this optimal zone.
Structure your day around it.
Working during your optimal time doesn’t mean you do nothing when you’re outside of those zones. Your boss will likely not take too kindly if you slack off.
Instead, you should use this time for activities that are not as taxing. These include making phone calls and other non-stressful activities.
Sometimes, you’ll have no choice but to do more of the heavy lifting during your “off times.” If this happens, you’ll have to make the best of it.
Zone out
Another problem is that you may be working in a job that does not coincide with your optimal zones. That’s a tough one.
You may want to adjust or to move on to opportunities where you can work during your optimal times.
If your job involves being creative, this concept of optimal zones is going to work in your favor. For instance, if you are a writer, try to do most of your writing during these times.
You can use the other times to answer emails, post on social media, or check out forums related to your writing. If you’re writing for a blog, try writing several posts in your zone.
Schedule them as if you’ve written one per day, etc.
Increasing your productivity is knowing your advantages. Find your optimal work zones and use them effectively.
This way you’ll increase your productivity. Your manager will notice this, and it could help you when asking for a raise or getting a promotion.
It will also give you the satisfaction of a more fulfilling job.
The grief from Hurricane Florence will be felt for a long time to come. Death, destruction, and displacement have affected so many people.
Those in the storm-affected areas now have to deal with that grief in some form or another. This GenuLines post will deal with things we all can do to handle the heaviness known as grief.
First I want to tell you about our next scheduled edition of Chi For Yourself.
Danielle Dulsky will make her second visit to the show. Listen in on the call on Tuesday, Sept. 25th at 4 pm Eastern 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com
Danielle Dulsky is the author of Holy Wild: A Heathen Bible for the Untamed Woman.
Grief touches most everyone at some point in their lives. But, no one grieves in exactly the same way in every case.
And the intensity and duration of grief can vary from one person to the next. This is due to a combination of things.
These include genetics, personality, and previous coping patterns. Add to that any previous history of depression or other mental illness.
It’s also affected by the presence or lack of support networks, and the event leading to the death (ex. sudden, unexpected death vs. expected death). There’s been a lot of debate over when grief becomes something more.
Something that may need medical attention.
But when does grief become something more than “normal?” Clinicians are doing a sort of balancing act.
They want to be careful that they don’t “medicalize” normal grief. But they also want to make sure they don’t exclude those who may be suffering from clinical depression.
This depression could be set off by the recent loss of a loved one. Grief is a process, not an event.
In the early stages of grief (sometimes referred to as “acute” grief), symptoms can pile up.
Think intense sadness, trouble with concentration, and reduced interest in activities and people. There could be crying, sleep issues, changes in appetite, too.
And it would be no surprise to have constant thoughts about the deceased. Now, these are many of the same symptoms as seen in depression. Yet they are considered two distinct entities.
The experience of grief does not necessarily mean that the individual is depressed.
Eventually, grief can become less disabling and intrusive in one’s life. The wounds begin to heal as pleasure is increasingly found in life again.
Furthermore, grief has no set time frame. It can last from weeks to years.
There can still be periods where the acute grief returns for short periods during events. They include the birthday of the deceased, holidays, and other reminders and memories.
But, the acute feelings of grief eventually wane.
Sadly, some people have a very hard time finding pleasure in their lives after the loss of a loved one. Again, the process has no specific length of time.
It varies according to the person and the circumstances. In any case, it’s important to recognize that depression can partner with grief.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is another possibility, especially for violent or unexpected deaths.
To summarize: we experience the process of grief in our own ways. Keep in mind that grief, depression, and PTSD can sometimes work together.
Don’t ignore signs of depression and PTSD. It’s better to seek the opinion of your physician sooner than later.
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It is very important that you consult a physician if, at any point, the grief does not seem to be subsiding. Or if you have any thoughts of self-harm.
Your physician can help determine whether you’re suffering from depression or PTSD.
If so, various forms of treatment can help. These include psychological counseling and/or medications.
Fear is a lack of knowledge. When people fear doing something, it’s because they don’t know what the outcome of those actions will be.
When people fail, they can often turn to excuses. They’ll think of dozens of reasons why whatever they tried couldn’t work.
The conditions were not right or they didn’t have enough money. Perhaps a main supplier went out of business and that took down their own business.
Whatever the case, blame is easily distributed all around.
But excuses cannot be made for success.
Who can be blamed for doing something right?
Sudden success can bring on a sort of paralysis. And, a fear of what may happen next.
It’s easy to fall back on something that’s comfortable. That can take the wind out of the sails, so to speak, of a possible success.
Part of the problem with fear of success is not having a plan for when it happens.
You can make plans for what you’re going to do when you succeed at various stages. You won’t fear what comes next because you’ll refer to your plan.
Another problem is that you could be trying to do everything yourself. As you see some success, you’re going to be taking on more responsibilities.
These responsibilities may be unfamiliar to you and that can bring back those fears. If you already have others who work for you, see if they would be a good fit for some of these new responsibilities.
If not, hire others or outsource the work. You should try to keep within your comfort zone. But also be willing to break out of it when the time is right.
Fear of success isn’t just a buzzword used by marketers and psychologists. It’s a real fear and it can have a crippling effect on anyone who experiences it.