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Learn How to Make Mistakes

April 16, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
So you’re afraid to make mistakes. And that’s cutting into your self-trust.
 
GenuLines realizes that this could be standing in the way of your success. When you learn how to make mistakes, you’ll be ready to start trusting yourself.
 

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Learn How to Make Mistakes

I think you’ll agree that nobody is perfect. I make mistakes and you do, too..
 
When you make mistakes, you learn from them. That’s what makes them so valuable.
 
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Of course, if you don’t learn from them, you can expect to make the same mistakes again and again. That’s why you have to do a post mortem of your actions and take stock of where you made your mistakes.

Mistakes will happen

If you try too hard to avoid mistakes, you end up making more of them. You can’t avoid mistakes and you shouldn’t try. Sometimes, your mistakes will make people angry with you.
 
It’s a part of life.
 
If this happens, you first have to determine if your mistakes truly affected those people. If it didn’t, they have no right to call you out on them.
 
If it turns out that your actions did affect them, do what you can to rectify the situation. A simple apology may be all that’s needed.
 
Be forgiving of people who make mistakes. You would want them to do the same if you slipped up.
 
It’s okay to get angry at someone in certain situations. But, open your heart and let them make amends.
 
Once you give in to making mistakes, you’ll find it a freeing experience. You will no longer need to put too much pressure on yourself to avoid them.

Sticky situations

Meanwhile, mistakes can lead to positive, unintended circumstances. Take Sticky Notes by 3M.
 
Researchers at the company set out to create a strong adhesive. Management was not impressed, but the idea was used to create a different product.
 
There have been many instances of mistakes that lead to alternative solutions. These wouldn’t have happened by way of mistake avoidance.
 
Let yourself make mistakes. They’ll help you trust yourself.
 
JohnK 4-16-2019
 
 
 
stick figure hears mistakesOverheard: “You make mistakes. Mistakes don’t make you.”
                              ~Maxwell Maltz
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Complainers Can Learn to Appreciate Small Things

April 2, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Complainers complain. It’s what they do. Are you dealing with such a person? If you are, consider the points in this GenuLines post and apply them to your situation.
 
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Complainers Can Learn to Appreciate Small Things

 
woman complainingDo you know a chronic complainer? Someone who never seems to be happy about anything.
 
They find everything wrong with what others do. If there’s a new idea, they’ll knock it down.
 
They’re also the type of person who will interrupt others to make their point. They’ll do that because they know best.
 
 
 
But at some point, people start to ignore them. And they’re high on the list if cutbacks should ever hit the company, too.
 
Complainers have forgotten how to appreciate the small things in life.
 
They don’t realize that it’s difficult to get a new job and it takes much more time than it used to.
 
They don’t appreciate that they have a job.
 
Sometimes, chronic complaining can be a result of complacency. Since no one is listening to what the person says, it’s just easier to complain.
 
No company or situation is perfect, and sometimes it’s best when problems are out in the open. But there is a time and place for complaints and a correct way to air them.
 
If you have to complain offer up several solutions to the problem. That’s a productive use of complaining energy.
 
Call it problem recognition with applicable solutions.
 
There’s a critical difference between you and a chronic complainer. You appreciate your job or your situation.
Help the complainer
If you want to help a chronic complainer, point out the problem using a subtle approach. Instead of telling the person they complain too much, show them how to be grateful for the little things in life.
 
Remind them that you feel appreciative of the fact you have a job, etc.
 
Relate a story- may be about how your last job search was difficult. It took you months, and it made you realize that jobs are not easy to find.
 
Also, talk about how you appreciate your home life and your family and what it means to you. That’s a subtle approach.
 
The person may start to understand there is much to appreciate in everyday life. You can show that complaining is ineffective and may lead to problems down the road.
 
Aim to get friends and colleagues to relate to the same gratitude for work and family.
 
The chronic complainer may start to see it pays to be appreciative.
 
JohnK 4-2-2019
 
 
stick figure hears complainersOverheard: “Instead of complaining that the rosebush is full of thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses.”
                               ~Proverb
 
 
 
 
 
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Dealing With Mistakes That Other People Make

March 26, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Have you ever made a mistake? Most of us (if not all) make them. And we’ll continue to make them.
 
In this post, GenuLines looks at ways to react to other people’s mistakes.
 
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Dealing With Mistakes That Other People Make 

 
eraser for mistakesSometimes people make mistakes that will put you in a tough spot. Let’s say, for instance, you own a company.
 
One of your workers mistakenly misrepresented the company and you’re getting blamed. Your first reaction may be to fire the person.
 
In some cases, that would be the right move.
 
 
 
But did the person have the necessary knowledge to keep from misinforming others? If not, you need to bake that into the situation.
 
If the misstep was deliberate, that’s different.
 
In this case, you’re within your rights to let them go. But be sure the action was malicious.
 
There are no easy answers when people make major mistakes. They may not be able to make it right, either.
 
You’ll be left to deal with the consequences.
 
It’s easy to lash out at the person responsible. Of course, you should give them the opportunity to rectify it if they can.
 
One way to deal with other people’s mistakes is to reflect on your own mistakes. This way, you can empathize with them.
 
Empathy makes you less likely to lash out and make the wrong decisions.
 
Then there are situations where people make the same mistakes again and again. The errors keep showing up even when you give guidance on how not to make them.
 
This is a tough one.
 
The actions are not malicious but there’s no capacity to change. In these situations, you need to decide whether the mistakes are having a serious impact.
 
Repeated errors add up. But remember, forgiving mistakes can breed appreciation. 
 
It can help people grow.
 
And you’ll feel good knowing they’ve used the situation to their advantage.
 
JohnK 3-26-2019
 
 
stick figure talks mistakesOverheard: “We must not say every mistake is a foolish one”
~Cicero (106 BC – 43 BC)
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Action Steps For When You Don’t Trust Yourself

March 12, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
 
Many people don’t trust themselves for one reason or another. If you include yourself in this group ask yourself why.
 
Today GenuLines helps you break the issue down and begin to change. Once you discover the problem, you will be well on your way to learning how to trust yourself.
 
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Action Steps For When You Don’t Trust Yourself

 
Start with your childhood. No, this doesn’t mean you have to spill your guts to a shrink while lying on a couch.
 
Baby learns to trustThose early years can give you some clues into why you don’t trust yourself. Could be your parents were distrustful of themselves.
 
Siblings or other relatives might play a part. The purpose isn’t to blame them.
 
 
Recognize that it happened and use it to move forward.
 
Not trusting others can be habitual. It isn’t too much of a stretch for that mode to extend to you.
 
Start putting trust in other people and they’ll likely appreciate you for it.
 
Are you an overly sensitive person? If so, this could cause you to be mistrustful of yourself.
 
A sensitive nature can cause you to take others’ remarks out of context.
 
It’s not wrong to be sensitive. You only have to realize that it can cause you to misread what others are saying or feeling.
 
When trust doesn’t work
Putting your trust in others is going to backfire sometimes. Some people aren’t trustworthy.
 
They may even put on a front that they are. You should accept this as a part of life, and try not to project experiences from a few onto other people.
 
Otherwise, you are going to continue to maintain your wall.
This wall will make it difficult for you to trust others as well as yourself.
 
Another reason for not trusting yourself is that others don’t trust you. If you are not trustworthy, how can you expect to trust yourself?
 
You may not even realize this is happening.
 
You may think you are doing right by others when in fact, you aren’t. Ask friends and family to assess whether you’re trustworthy.
 
That can be a hard pill to swallow, but you’ll get great insight. Try not to get upset if people tell you that you aren’t trustworthy.
 
It’s a learning experience.
 
JohnK 3-12-2019
 
 
stick figure shows trustOverheard: ” Seize the day, and put the least possible trust in tomorrow”
~Horace
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Self-Doubt And What You Can Do About It

March 5, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Have you ever wrestled with self-doubt? That might seem like a silly question.
 
Most people doubt themselves at some point in their lives. Scroll down for some good words from GenuLines on dealing with self-doubt.
 
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Self-Doubt And What You Can Do About It

 
Why do people engage in self-doubt? The reason is that it’s easier to doubt yourself than it is to believe that something is possible.
 
ape with self-doubtYou may believe in your concept, but it’s something that hasn’t materialized yet. It’s unfamiliar territory for you.
 
Our protection mechanisms tell us to reach for something that’s familiar. We use this as a reason to quit.
 
The unknown also helps us to come up with excuses. It’s easy to say it won’t work because, and then insert whatever reason can set your mind at ease.
 
 
You can even find help from others in coming up with excuses. They have plenty of them for you to choose from.
 
If they didn’t, they would be succeeding at their goals.
 
A survival mechanism
Sometimes self-doubt can help us survive. For instance, someone tells you that you can jump off a cliff and survive.
 
Your self-doubt probably jumps in and tells you this is a bad idea. Self-doubt can sometimes keep you from making bad financial decisions.
 
This might be an opportunity that sounds too good to be true.
 
In most cases, self-doubt is not something that will advance your life. It will hold you back, and you need always to be aware of that.
 
Don’t take the easy way out. Do prepare yourself as much as possible for unfamiliar situations.
 
But, go forward with a strong belief that you can complete what you set out to do.
 
Try to structure your life so that you have more positive than negative energy. Flush out as much negative energy as possible.
 
Use affirmations, support groups, or whatever works for you.
 
Negative energy is what self-doubt is all about. Two forces are opposing each other.
 
If you have 100% negative energy that means you have 0% positive energy. Try to tip the scale toward as much positivity as possible and push away the negativity.
 
No shortage of negative energy
It’s unlikely that you can ever have 100% positive energy. But, you can work towards exposing yourself to positive energy.
 
You can stop listening to or reading the news, and you can reduce your exposure to negative people. Positive people do exist.
 
You just need to find them.
 
JohnK 3-5-2019
 
 
 
stickman with self-doubtOverheard: “Every time I start a picture I feel the same fear, the same self-doubts, and I have only one source on which I can draw. Because it comes from within me”
                                                  ~ Federico Fellini
 
 
 
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Appreciate The Small Things and Find Contentment

February 26, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

Appreciate the small stuff and you’ll be happy. You hear it enough.

But what is happiness anyway?

Today GenuLines looks at appreciation and its “kissin’ cousin”, contentment.

 

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Appreciate The Small Things and Find Contentment

smile to appreciateMost emotions are transitional, meaning you’re never in one state for long periods. People who are considered upbeat will have moments of sadness or depression.

Even depressed people aren’t depressed all the time. They have moments of happiness, too.

 

Think about a major event such as a war. When two countries are fighting, both sides lose lives.

It’s bloody, and it can last for years. But, when the war is over, the countries are euphoric.

There will be no more bloodshed because of the war, and people can return to their homes. But, nothing that has changed in the world except that the war has ended.

In other words, the sun still sets each day. People still have to manage their lives.

The euphoria from the war ending doesn’t last long. Months later, the war is still over, but the euphoria has died down.

Same goes for sickness

The same is true in a smaller way when you have a bad sickness. For instance, suppose you have a stomach bug that leaves you uncomfortable and in pain.

When the bug passes you feel fine. But you don’t feel any better than you did when you weren’t experiencing the bug.

It’s relative to the bad feelings. That’s how emotional states work.

They go from one to the other on a constant basis.

Appreciating the small things in life may lead to happiness. But, it’s likely you’re content more than you are happy.

Contentment can almost be thought of as a neutral state, leaning toward the happy side. There’s nothing wrong when you’re content.

But, there also isn’t anything that is making you overly happy.

Striving for happiness can be stressful. You might want to shoot for contentment instead.

Contentment is likely to find you when you appreciate small aspects of your life.

And it comes without the hassle of working hard toward happiness.

If you spend most of your life being content you’re doing something right. Think about all the people you love and what you have, such as your health and a good job, etc.

If you try to imagine life without them, you will truly appreciate your contentment. That thought may even make you happy for a short period.

JohnK 2-26-2019
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stick figure shows can appreciateOverheard: “My crown is called content, a crown that seldom kings enjoy”
                         ~William Shakespeare

 

 

 

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Being a Perfectionist May Be a Sign of Low Self Trust

February 5, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
 
 
Are you a perfectionist? If so, your expectations may be set too high. GenuLines takes a look at this tendency, flaws and all.
 
 
So you’re a perfectionist
target for perfectionistIt’s natural to want everything to be perfect. The trouble is there’s no time for it.
 
You’ll be disappointed to find that most people aren’t perfectionists.
You need to learn how to manage expectations.
 
 
 
It’s a delicate balance, and you have to know when you’ve done as much as you should. You can always do more, but you need to move on.
 
You snooze you lose
Another problem with perfectionism is that you may miss opportunities. Suppose you decide to hold off releasing a product because you want to put more features into it.
 
You delay the release of the product by several months. But you see that your competitors are finished releasing their versions.
 
The product you would have released was better than your competitors. Customers would have likely bought your products over your competitors.
 
Try explaining that one to management or shareholders!
 
Spreading the news
Good customer experiences with products get shared with friends and family. This sharing also occurs on social media channels, which in turn, can go viral.
 
It’s more challenging to build up a product that’s not yet released than it is to build up one that is.
 
When perfectionism is okay
There are cases that call for perfectionism. Medical techniques and technologies come to mind.
 
In most other fields, though, perfectionism will hold you back. It’s not necessary, and it only leads to frustration and delays.
 
Of course, you should never release products that have a sloppy design. Or are dangerous to the consumer.
 
That’s where this delicate balance comes into play. The product needs to meet safety guidelines.
 
Your reputation is at stake, and you don’t want customers bashing your product or your brand. In this case, it may be necessary to delay the release of products until they are safe, etc.
 
In self we trust
How is being a perfectionist a sign that you don’t trust yourself? You think that nothing is ever good enough and that you have to keep striving to be better.
 
When you trust yourself, you can reel in expectations to manageable levels.
 
JohnK 2-4-2019
 
 
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Overheard: “If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content”

                             ~ Leo Tolstoy   

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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New Year Greetings and Gratitude From GenuLines and Chi For Yourself

January 1, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
The new year of 2019 is here!

A good time to thank you for choosing GenuLines and Chi For Yourself.
 
Also a good time to send you “good chi” toward living your Genuine Life.
 
All the best!
 
 
Happy New Year graphic
 
 
 
JohnK 1-1-2019
 
 

Failed To Reach A Goal? Move On And Learn From It!

December 20, 2018 John Uncategorized No comments

 

So your goal(s) for 2018 failed. You’re looking for a better 2019.
 
But you’re not really sure how you’ll do it. Maybe it’s how you’re looking at it. 
 
Today GenuLines looks at failure and offers some ideas on how to re-frame it. 
 
 
 
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Failed To Reach A Goal? Move On And Learn From It!

We tend to think of missing our goals as something shameful, undesirable. Failing to realize our intentions can cause negative feelings.
 
No matter how big or small the goal.
 
failed at samurai
 
The way to overcome those feelings is by changing the way you understand failure. It’s part of the success process and it teaches valuable lessons if we know how to learn from it.
 
Ways to redefine failure and learn from it
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Learning from your mistakes is about more than just thinking about what went wrong.
 
The first step towards using failure as a tool for success is to stop seeing mistakes as shameful.
 
Think about it – a mistake is not only a natural part of embarking on a new project; it is also part of the human experience. Accept it as a necessary step towards achieving your goals.
 
In her article “Strategies for Learning from Failure”, Amy C. Edmondson classifies mistakes:
 
Preventable
These are the mistakes we often think of as bad. They result from a lack of focus or attention to the procedures needed to achieve the goal.
 
Complexity-related
 
These mistakes happen when the goal is the product of various factors. They include:
 
  •       your own motivation
  •       previous skills
  •       your environment
  •       support network
  •       your resources
 
If any of these fail, you might be unable to reach the goal.
 
Intelligent mistakes
According to Adam Mendler, having the freedom to make mistakes increases creativity. And it boosts work performance.
 
Mendler looks at the pressures to avoid mistakes and the shame that comes with them. Minus those, he found that employees contribute more often.
 
And they’re able to express more original ideas.
 
For example, many inventors stumbled upon some of the great inventions. Think Post-It notes or penicillin.
 
There is a beginning step toward learning from the setback, whatever its source. Remove any negative feelings about it and re-frame it as a source of new knowledge.
 
What’s next?
Rethink your approach to your goal
 
Now that you’re looking at the mistake without judgment, think of how you got into the situation.
 
Guy Winch* suggests you analyze your motivation levels, focus, and mindset.
 
Did you feel less motivated to achieve your goal at some point? Did something else distract you from it?
 
If your dedication and focus decreased at any time, make note of it and try to find the cause. Identify the internal and external causes that affected your resolve.
 
This helps you prepare for them in the future.
 
At times you can discuss the failure with someone you trust. This might help you see the issues from a different perspective.
 
Rely on your support network to pinpoint what went wrong and how you could’ve prevented it.
 
Plan ahead
Identifying what caused the mistake is not enough to prevent it in the future. You need to take steps to prevent that mistake from happening again.
 
Say your goal was to write a novel in six months. You’ve identified a few reasons why you couldn’t achieve it.
 
They include lack of time, insufficient planning, or lack of motivation.
 
But what can you do to prevent those issues from getting in the way of your goal in the future? In our example, you could scale down the scope of the novel.
 
Spend more time planning the story. Or set a specific time to write undisturbed.
 
Bottom line?
Failure is not permanent.
 
“Accept” failure. Analyze its causes. And look at how you can by-pass those causes.
 
Now you’re on your way to achieving your goals.
 
JohnK 12-20-2018
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man with failed plansOverheard:  “The errors of great men are venerable because they are more fruitful than the truths of little men.”
                     ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
 
 
 
 
 
 
* “The 4 Keys to Learning From Failure”- Guy Winch
 
* “What Sales Executives Can Learn From Failure”- Adam Mendler
 
 
 
 
 
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Prioritizing: A Key Stress Management Skill

December 11, 2018 John Uncategorized No comments
We’re into a stressful time of the year, and prioritizing tasks may not be top of mind for you right now. But it’s worth thinking about, especially if the stress is really starting to build.
 
Since wellness is a high priority around here, GenuLines offers a tip “yule” be glad you used!
 
 
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The skill of prioritizing can be a key tool in your ability to manage stress. It allows you to look at a set of tasks and determine which are the most important.
 
You’ll put your focus on completing those first at the expense of those lower on the list. 
 
It isn’t about working smarter, it’s about dedicating your time to the correct tasks. 
 
 
 
 
When you have a list of things to do you think that you won’t have the energy (or the time) to get through them all. So, a lot of it will get left undone and you’ll be left feeling guilty about what you couldn’t get to. 
 
But when you take the time to prioritize them you ditch the guilt. You’re more efficient.
 
It seems as though there’s an 80/20 rule in every aspect of life and prioritizing is no different. In this case, the rule states that 80% of your activities contribute under 20% of your value of work. 
 
Focus on completing 20% of your tasks (the most important ones of course). This way you’ll achieve more.
 
This should make your working life run a bit more smoothly and allow you to spend more quality time with your family (or yourself!). 
 
The Trick To Prioritization 
 
Well, there actually isn’t a trick. It’s all about choosing what you should be doing and what you shouldn’t be doing.
 
High priority tasks should be taken care of first. No doubt you’ll have more energy to do them at the start of your day anyway.
 
To achieve this, though, you need to be able to see what tasks or projects are of greatest importance. These jobs will help you achieve long-term goals, or have a consequence for not completing. 
 
You might be thinking that everything on your list is important – they’re all urgent. But in the big picture many of the activities you consider urgent are not.
 
Good prioritizing lets you finish the most urgent/important tasks early in the day. Then you can shift your focus to the non-priority tasks.
 
These are more than likely the jobs you find most rewarding. It’s human nature to put off tasks that aren’t enjoyable and instead indulge your enjoyable tasks.
 
You can put tasks in order of importance to keep yourself on track or categorize them. The choice is yours and you should choose whichever method would serve you best.
 
You can have a list of A tasks, B tasks, and C tasks. Of course, anything in the A category should be completed first and then you can move onto the B’s and then the Cs. 
 
While you make your list question yourself about tasks you can delegate or remove. 
 
Wrenches In The Mix 
 
What about unplanned activities? They can throw a wrench into the works. These types of tasks crop up all the time and often throw your day out of whack.
 
You have to rely on your instinct in these situations. When you’re better at prioritizing, you’ll be more confident making judgment calls.
 
But consider your goals and determine how best to fit in unplanned activities.
 
How effectively you handle these situations will depend on how clear you are on your goals. 
 
JohnK 12-11-2018
 
 
 
 
stickman prioritizingOverheard: “Action expresses priorities.”
                           ~Mahatma Gandhi
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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