Your goals are important to you. That’s why GenuLines used two days to cover the topic.
Today we offer some takeaway thoughts toward reaching your goals and building your genuine life!
How to Set Powerful Goals You Can Achieve (pt 2)
Be Measurable
At which point have you achieved the goal? If you can’t come up with a number or something that’s measurable, then you won’t have a real goal.
Let’s say you want your business to earn x number of dollars each week by a certain date. You would work out the how and why you’re going to do it.
Be Actionable
To achieve any goal there have to be steps you can take to get there. It’s like using a map to reach a vacation destination.
You need to draw a map to your vision of success with the steps and paths you’ll take along the way. Put not only what but when, and how you’ll reach your endpoint.
Be Realistic
You don’t want to work toward a goal that’s too hard to achieve or worse, impossible. Make sure to do thorough research and be realistic about your expectations.
For example, you’re not likely going to start a business today and earn six figures by tomorrow. Or even your first year in business.
Look at the research and determine what is doable and how you’ll do it.
Be Timely
Every goal has to have a time limit otherwise you may never achieve it. Start at the end and work your way back to today.
Create a list of things to do each day to finally reach the end result. But, do set a time limit. You can adjust as you get into the project if it works to be more realistic.
But resist the urge to change the time because you’re not sticking to your task lists.
Now Create!
Keep these points in mind to create powerful goals that you can achieve.
You’ll reduce your failure chances because:
you can always adjust your timeline and your goals
you’ll learn as you move along in the process
The important thing is to give each goal a lot of thought, consideration, and study before setting it.
Goals are a sort-of road map on your life’s journey. You want them to be satisfying, yes. But you don’t want them to be too challenging.
In this first of a two part post GenuLines offers a map to guide you on a comfortable and rewarding trip!
How to Set Powerful Goals You Can Achieve
Say you need a fresh start? O.K., you want to challenge yourself, but you don’t want to make things so tough that you fail.
First we’ll look inside, at the things that are important to you. And we’ll make sure that these goals are even doable.
Match Your Core Values
Start with four main areas in your life.
Family
Financial
Physical
Personal
The better you goal fits into one or more of these the more likely your goal is achievable.
If for some reason a goal doesn’t fit into one of your core values, it’s not likely you’ll experience much success.
Be 100 Percent in Control
Goals that rely on others are not necessarily wrong. But they can be harder to achieve.
A goal you control 100 percent is one that you can reach.
Make sure fear isn’t getting in your way. Be realistic about whether you do have control or not and give yourself more credit. And, don’t blame fate for your setbacks.
Don’t think you lack control over your financial future because “that’s just how it is,”
Be Able to Envision the Goal
If you can’t see the end result, it will be very difficult to move forward toward achieving the goal. If you need to draw a picture, make a vision board.
Or take a day off to fantasize about your big dreams. Imagine how it all fits together in the big picture of your life. You need to see the end to be able to achieve it.
Be Specific-Spell It Out
Every goal you set needs to be very exact in nature. If you want to be sure to reach the goal, you have to know when you’ve actually reached it. Instead of saying “I want to start a business,” state exactly what type of business you want to start.
Know who you want as your clients. Know all you can to make the goal more concrete.
Happiness has a reputation for being elusive. Some would say it’s not even possible.
GenuLines offers you some points to consider as you do your own evaluation.
Is True Happiness Possible?
When your struggles get to be too much it’s easy to think that happiness is not even possible. The truth is there are different levels of happiness that you can experience in your life.
The process doesn’t move in a straight line. Your attitude is the difference maker.
Look Around You
It’s one thing to say that people can’t be happy unless they have their basic needs met. But there are people all around you who don’t have their needs met yet are very happy.
Studies of affluent people tend to show find they’re not happier than poor people in general.
It’s Not About Stuff
If you look at a list of the happiest countries in the world, you tend to find that being happy isn’t about owning things. Often the happiest people live in the poorest countries.
It’s common to find that the USA ranks in the teens on these lists. Stuff doesn’t guarantee happiness.
It’s Not Even About Goals
You may insist that it’s all about about reaching your goals. If you often say things like “I’ll be happy when…” then happiness may elude you.
You can be happy now, before you reach your goals.
It’s Not About Your Circumstances
Now, of course, some things in life can really get you down. But a happy disposition can serve you well.
You’ll be better able to navigate the murky water.
*Dr. Gillian Mandich is a well known name in this area. She believes that our circumstances account for only 10 percent of our happiness.
Happiness is about accepting that you can experience it and understanding it’s meaning. A happy person isn’t going to be the same level of happy 24/7, 365 days a year.
Think about cancer sufferers who manage to have a happy attitude. Or children around the world who don’t get enough to eat.
Be in that state of mind and you can be happy, too.
Mark Twain once said, “facts are stubborn things.” And GenuLines knows that not checking the facts can kick you like a stubborn mule!
Learn the Facts Before Passing Judgment
Adversity often occurs when people react without having all the facts. Sometimes, they’ll think they have the facts but they’ve learned the wrong information.
Avoiding these situations is a matter of getting the facts and making sure they”re correct.
When you have the facts on your side, you can present your argument.
Further, you will be less likely to make a judgment about a situation because the facts back it up. This will prevent you from getting yourself and others into any trouble.
The internet offers us a vast pool of information. But people tend to be too willing to trust any information they find.
They get a false sense of security, believing that the first search engine results are the best. That’s not always the case.
Search engine results change with time. You can get different results from one search to the next on the same search engine.
Look for a variety of sources that you believe carry authority.
For instance, when you look for medical advice, don’t stop at a site such as WebMD.com and call it quits. While this website may have qualified advice, it’s not the only source.
Another could be the Journal of The American Medical Association (JAMA) website.
When you find other websites, look for sources that the articles cite.
Are they valid sources?
Check to make sure they’re from authoritative people.
Watch for red flags. Like blogs that make claims but don’t cite sources.
Anyone can create a blog, and have it published in minutes. They’re free to publish whatever they like.
That’s why readers must be critical of every source they treat as fact.
There’s nothing wrong with a blogger posting an obvious opinion piece. But, don’t accept the post as fact.
Treat it as a good starting point for your research.
You’ll hear people cite Wikipedia.org as a source for their facts. While that resource has gotten better at fact-checking, don’t lose sight that anyone can add and make changes to it.
Still, it does have some uses. At the end of most articles, there’s a wealth of resources and links that authors often include.
A to-do list can help keep order in your life. But does your list make the grade?
This GenuLines overview will help you get up to speed.
Does Your To-Do List Work For You?
The to-do list is a helpful tool. Something is satisfying about checking off an item when completed.
It can also be a reference when a boss wants to know employees’ progress. But, are you doing the right tasks to meet your longer-term goals?
That can leave you feeling as though you aren’t progressing.
Worse, you’ll be going through the motions of “doing something.” This will make the process of not getting anywhere that much more frustrating.
To-do lists are a good idea. But, you need to make sure they’re in-line with your goals.
You should consider taking a top-down approach to your tasks rather than bottom-up.
Start with your long-term goals
Where do you see yourself in a few years from now? If you can’t answer that question, you need to do some soul-searching.
Find what you want to accomplish at a high-level. Then, you can use that to break it down into granular tasks.
Finally, you use the mid-level tasks to help define the to-do list that you use daily. People put off setting long-term goals because the time frame seems so far in the future.
How can you be expected to know what’s going to happen five to ten years from now? It’s much easier to choose the shorter-term time frames.
You can measure what happens two weeks from now as it’s going to happen soon.
Commitment
Some people believe that declaring a long term goal and chiseling it in stone commits them to it. Remember that circumstances can change, and goal adjusting may be called for.
Don’t be afraid to commit to your goals. You may want to create a few long-term goals.
As you’re working on what it will take to reach those goals, you can decide which path makes the most sense. You can take into account both feasibility and costs.
Some goals become unattainable for one reason or another, so prepare to change course. In fact, if you can project these possibilities, you can put them on your list of goals.
Set your goals and break them down into sub-tasks. Creating your to-do lists will become easier.
And, they’ll get you closer to accomplishing your goals.
At certain times in your life, you find yourself weighed down by adversity. You wouldn’t mind having another “hand on the wheel.”
GenuLines looks at life coaches and whether one is right for you.
Adversity And Life Coaches: Should You Buy In?
Good life coaches work to help you with various aspects of your life. They can show you the parts that are holding you back.
They can also help you when you face adversity. And they can give you the guidance you need to help you pick up the pieces and get back on track.
They may start by teaching you to be positive. Techniques can include affirmations to retrain your brain to think positive thoughts.
That’s one of the biggest means to deal with adverse situations. Positivity won’t shield you from hard times, but it will help you focus on what’s important.
You need to practice these affirmations for them to be effective. It’s not a casual exercise that you do whenever the mood strikes.
Make it a daily habit. Your mentor will know if you’re not practicing them.
Prepare for the truth
The truth hurts, but it may be what you need to get through your situation. You’ll hear it when you get caught up in blaming others and not taking responsibility.
A good coach will present it in such a way that you’ll come to the conclusions yourself. And that makes it easier for you to accept and counter the action.
Don’t be quick to blame the life coach if things don’t work out (This assumes you chose a qualified coach)
It’s not difficult to find a good coach if you take the right steps. Check the internet.
Do a bit of digging to learn about each coach’s background. Coaches are going to encourage you to step outside your comfort zone.
Most coaches will use this to help clients break away from bad habits and form new ones.
It’s called a comfort zone for a reason. It will be awkward, and at times, you may get angry at their suggestions.
One thing to keep in mind. If your adversity was born out of trauma a life coach may not be a good idea.
If this is the case, seek out a qualified professional.
Your life coach is still an option for working with with other aspects of your development.
You say you don’t trust yourself? Did you know that the same feelings can filter down to your kids too?
Your Children May Not Trust Themselves
Lack of self-trust is far from uncommon. It’s possible that you developed this tendency while you were growing up.
You can pick it up as a kid and carry it into your adult life. You pass it on to your kids, and they do the same to theirs.
Your actions and exchanges may be subtle. Your kids will hear what you and your spouse talk about as well as discussions by, or with, other family members.
You may well do things that you’re not even aware of, but your kids will pick up on those, too.
It’s a difficult situation because you want your kids to be safe. But you don’t want to suggest that they give a pass to everyone without question.
A delicate balance
Trusting yourself requires trusting others. That’s where the difficulty can creep in.
You’ve likely been burned by a few people enough times to warrant your caution. But, these experiences can also resonate with your children.
Aim for a balance. You want them to trust certain people while remaining mindful through the process.
Of course, you want to teach your kids always to be trustworthy themselves, even if others don’t respond in kind.
Minus that, self-trust will be near impossible.
If they let others down, they won’t have any reason to develop an internal trust. So you and your partner will want to doublecheck your own trustworthiness.
You may be trustworthy toward kids but not to other people. That can send the wrong signals to kids if you tell them they should be trustworthy to others.
It will leave them confused and unsure of what to do. In the long run, they’ll be untrustworthy, and they won’t develop self-trust.
Be sure to talk to your kids to help them develop the balance between caution and trust. If they have questions, be open to answering them.
Try not to take offense if they say you’re sending mixed signals with regards to trust. Find a balance and your kids will likely find it too.
Your family will have the necessary means to trust each other and yourselves. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
Is a support group right for you? GenuLines looks at some of the factors to consider if you’re leaning in that direction.
Support Groups: Can They Make a Difference?
When you’re dealing with an adverse situation, you may feel like you’re all alone. It seems the bigger the problems, the more alone you feel.
But others have dealt with the same or similar situation themselves. And, they can help you get through it and give you any needed support.
It’s best to face this head-on. Don’t try to put off dealing with it, thinking that it will get better by itself.
Some situations will get better by letting it go, but most won’t.
You should confront the challenge so that it doesn’t build up. You can also make a situation worse than it already is by not taking appropriate actions.
Talk to family members and friends. You may be surprised by their understanding.
And you’ll find some of them may have been in the same situation.
If this falls short, a support group could offer help. The group members may want to meet with you in person to find out more about your circumstances. and how they can help.
Again, don’t put this off because your emotions will build.
Make an appointment as soon as possible. When you find a group that is related to your situation, go to meetings regularly.
It can be either the process or the meetings that help you overcome adversity. Or both.
The groups you find have gone through the process (and may still be going through it). If you try to rush the process, you may not get everything you need from the group.
Many groups offer their help free of charge. However, you should consider pitching in some money as there are costs involved with running these groups.
The groups may ask you to contribute some money to help out. Often, this is voluntary.
But, if the group is worthwhile, you want it to continue as a going concern. They need money for that to happen.
You get out of the group what you put into it, just like anything in life. If you go there and don’t get involved, you shouldn’t expect to get much help from the group.
It’s called a vision board. Its purpose is to reinforce some message about yourself or your goals.
But, does it really work?
Today GenuLines looks at the question from both sides.
Can Vision Boards Help You Believe in Yourself?
While “vision board” is not an official definition, it should serve to give you the concept in a nutshell. Are vision boards an effective tool towards helping your self-development?
First, we look at how they work. In general, you place information and pictures on your vision board.
These represent various aspects of your life. They can be personal, professional, or both.
You could have separate vision boards for personal and professional purposes as well.
Vision board pros and cons
One of the most significant benefits of a vision board is you can refer to it whenever you need inspiration. Or if an aspect of your life changes in some way.
You can update the board to reflect those changes.
Another pro (but possibly also a con) is that you can put whatever you want on a vision board. That’s great, but if it doesn’t help you with your goals, it may not be as beneficial to have it on the board.
In fact, it could hinder your progress since it takes up prime real estate on your board.
Remember that nothing is set in stone on your board. If you find something on it that isn’t working, take it down.
Vision boards are not for everyone
Some people find them to be a waste of time. They spend lots of time finding items to place on the boards and then never refer to them again.
It’s time that could be better spent elsewhere.
One use of vision boards is to place accomplishments on them. It’s easy to forget about events that happened earlier in our lives.
Keeping spots on the vision board dedicated to them will serve as reminders.
Don’t believe that you’ve forgotten about your accomplishments? Think back to what you accomplished in high school and college.
Or when you started your first job.
Having a handy reminder of your accomplishments boosts your self-belief. Each accomplishment will help you remember what you went through to get it.
This can help move you toward future accomplishments.
There are no right or wrong answers when creating a vision board. It just needs to work for you.
If it doesn’t, you should figure out why and adjust as you see fit.