Reminiscing and thinking about the past can be a great exercise. It’s always good to have a healthy respect for things that have come and gone.
But you don’t want to live in the past, and GenuLines can help you adjust your view of days gone by.
Stop Focusing on Your Past Mistakes and Failures
They say that learning from history is how you best ensure a good future. That said, if you’re living in the past you’re doing more harm than good.
And if you’re replaying negative events in your mind it’s even worse.
It’s also a surefire way to temper your boldness. And it lessens your resolve when you face future challenges.
So how do you stop doing that?
Learn to Value Your Mistakes
The first thing to do is to value your mistakes. Remember that mistakes teach you things.
They make you stronger and wiser. And they give your personal narratives a more interesting and more unique bent.
It’s not our successes that cause us to grow and develop but our mistakes. And each failure brings you one step closer to being the person you want to be.
Realize that your mistake has merit and value in itself. Then you can be a little more comfortable accepting it as part of your story.
Looking Forward
The next thing to do is to look forward and to remember that things are going to get better now. You’ve had your mistake, so how are you going to learn from that and use it to drive you in the future?
Don’t think about how your last relationship was a failure, Focus on how you’re going to make the next one a success.
Forgive Yourself
Many of us focus on our failures. We obsess over them because we’re frustrated with ourselves or we even feel guilty.
The key then is to stop aiming for perfection. Remember: you’re only human and mistakes are par for the course.
They’re acceptable and in fact, you can expect them. Know this and let your missteps go.
Ask yourself: would you beat someone else up if they had the same failure?
Learn to Let Go
Letting go in itself is something of an art form. If you’re an obsessive personality this is a skill that’s well worth learning.
You might consider seeing a cognitive-behavioral therapist. Besides learning to let go you’ll re-work your thoughts in a more positive way.
JohnK 6-14-2021
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Overheard: “The past is never dead. It’s not even past” ~William Faulkner
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