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Adversity And Life Coaches: Should You Buy In?

October 22, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
At certain times in your life, you find yourself weighed down by adversity. You wouldn’t mind having another “hand on the wheel.”
 
GenuLines looks at life coaches and whether one is right for you.
 
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Adversity And Life Coaches: Should You Buy In?

Good life coaches work to help you with various aspects of your life. They can show you the parts that are holding you back.
 
fighting adversityThey can also help you when you face adversity. And they can give you the guidance you need to help you pick up the pieces and get back on track.
 
They may start by teaching you to be positive. Techniques can include affirmations to retrain your brain to think positive thoughts.
 
 
 
That’s one of the biggest means to deal with adverse situations. Positivity won’t shield you from hard times, but it will help you focus on what’s important.
 
You need to practice these affirmations for them to be effective. It’s not a casual exercise that you do whenever the mood strikes.
 
Make it a daily habit. Your mentor will know if you’re not practicing them.
Prepare for the truth
The truth hurts, but it may be what you need to get through your situation. You’ll hear it when you get caught up in blaming others and not taking responsibility.
 
A good coach will present it in such a way that you’ll come to the conclusions yourself. And that makes it easier for you to accept and counter the action.
 
Don’t be quick to blame the life coach if things don’t work out (This assumes you chose a qualified coach)
 
It’s not difficult to find a good coach if you take the right steps. Check the internet.
 
Do a bit of digging to learn about each coach’s background. Coaches are going to encourage you to step outside your comfort zone.
 
Most coaches will use this to help clients break away from bad habits and form new ones.
 
It’s called a comfort zone for a reason. It will be awkward, and at times, you may get angry at their suggestions.
 
One thing to keep in mind. If your adversity was born out of trauma a life coach may not be a good idea.
 
If this is the case, seek out a qualified professional.
 
Your life coach is still an option for working with with other aspects of your development.
 
JohnK 10-22-2019
 
stick man working through adversityOverheard: “There is no education like adversity”
                                 ~Benjamin Disraeli
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Ready For Routine Time Management Software?

October 15, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
If your 9-5 routine is getting the best of you it may be time to look at time management software. GenuLines puts forth some points to consider so you can get the upper hand.
 
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Ready For Routine Time Management Software?

Struggling to keep up with the demands of life? Maybe it’s time to consider a software program to organize your tasks.
 
The program can be as simple as alerting you when a certain task needs starting or when one is due. Most email packages will let you do this.
 
If your email doesn’t help, you can find free scheduling or calendar packages online. If all else fails, Google has a calendar package that you can use for this purpose.
 
To boost your productivity you may want a more robust solution. For this time management software might do the trick.
 
These programs track your activity down to the minute, and even to the second.
 
Many let you set up your tasks ahead of time. The time slots you block out will infer the amount of time you estimated for each task.
 
When you complete a task, you mark it as complete on the program.
And these time management programs feature reports. These will show you how well you did with your estimations for your tasks.
 
They will alert you when you did not complete the task in the time allotted. This information can help you refine your estimates for future schedules.
 
Some people freak out over sophisticated programs and figure they can’t use them. They feel the programs track at too granular a level.
 
They also feel that their company managers could use these programs against them. Employees feel pressured to get their work completed in the estimated time.
 
This is especially stressful if the managers are the ones setting the estimates.
 
Not just a routine decision
If you decide to use a time management program, you need to make sure you update it when you complete the tasks. This is something that could take a bit of time to get used to doing.
 
You also need to account for activities that pop up that you didn’t allow for and weren’t on your schedule. The better packages will be able to cope with those problems.
 
Check online for the term “time management” and use the results to see what’s available. Consider the price against your budget, and try to find software that allows you to try before you buy.
 
JohnK 10-15-2019
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stick figure talking about routineOverheard: “The disease which inflicts bureaucracy and what they usually die from is routine”
                                               ~ John Stuart Mill
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Your Children May Not Trust Themselves

October 8, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
 
You say you don’t trust yourself? Did you know that the same feelings can filter down to your kids too?

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Your Children May Not Trust Themselves

Lack of self-trust is far from uncommon. It’s possible that you developed this tendency while you were growing up.
 
picture that promotes trustYou can pick it up as a kid and carry it into your adult life. You pass it on to your kids, and they do the same to theirs.
 
Your actions and exchanges may be subtle. Your kids will hear what you and your spouse talk about as well as discussions by, or with, other family members.
 
You may well do things that you’re not even aware of, but your kids will pick up on those, too.
 
 
 
It’s a difficult situation because you want your kids to be safe. But you don’t want to suggest that they give a pass to everyone without question.
 
A delicate balance
Trusting yourself requires trusting others. That’s where the difficulty can creep in.
 
You’ve likely been burned by a few people enough times to warrant your caution. But, these experiences can also resonate with your children.
 
Aim for a balance. You want them to trust certain people while remaining mindful through the process.
 
Of course, you want to teach your kids always to be trustworthy themselves, even if others don’t respond in kind.
 
Minus that, self-trust will be near impossible.
 
If they let others down, they won’t have any reason to develop an internal trust. So you and your partner will want to doublecheck your own trustworthiness.
 
You may be trustworthy toward kids but not to other people. That can send the wrong signals to kids if you tell them they should be trustworthy to others.
 
It will leave them confused and unsure of what to do. In the long run, they’ll be untrustworthy, and they won’t develop self-trust.
 
Be sure to talk to your kids to help them develop the balance between caution and trust. If they have questions, be open to answering them.
 
Try not to take offense if they say you’re sending mixed signals with regards to trust. Find a balance and your kids will likely find it too.
 
Your family will have the necessary means to trust each other and yourselves. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
 
You just have to keep at it.
 
JohnK 1-8-2019
 
 
stick man learning to trustOverheard:  “Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks.”
                                          ~Isaac Watts
 
 
 
 
 
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Believe In Yourself, Believe In Your Business

October 1, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

When you believe in yourself, good things happen. GenuLines reminds you that the benefits extend to your business success. 

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Believe In Yourself, Believe In Your Business

photo helps you believeSo you’ve started a new business, and you’re excited. No more working for someone else.
 
You’re on your own. You’re the boss.
 
Your spouse is excited knowing that you’re doing something you’ve wanted to do. Then, a few months pass, and you haven’t made a dime in your business.
 
 
 
Suddenly, you feel the stress of business ownership.
 
Suppliers are calling asking for their money. You’ve already sent a lot of of your savings into setting up your business.
 
Your spouse becomes less confident, and your friends are all telling you to throw in the towel.
 
They’re saying that you gave it your best shot, but it’s time to find a regular job.
Many would follow this advice and let the business fold.
 
But, people who make it in business stick it out for one reason – they believe in what they’re doing.
 
They know that in time the concept will work. They just need to stick it out.
 
It’s this resolve that allows them to succeed.
 
Of course, just putting in the time and doing busy work is not going to advance your business. You need to have a solid foundation at the start.
 
You could set up a roadmap or business plan. This will answer questions about how you will make your business work.
 
Treat this process as though you’re going to raise venture capital funds, even if you aren’t.
 
Try to put yourself in the position of a venture capital entrepreneur. Ask tough questions of yourself for your business.
 

Your Plan B

Consider making an alternate plan in case your main plan falls short of your goals. You might fail for any number of reasons and having a backup plan is a wise move to counter any problems.
 
Once your foundation is in place, you only need to take a leap of faith and believe that you can make it work.
 
You may face challenges. They’ll come from any and all directions- spouse, friends, family.
 
But you’ll have the conviction to see it through because you believe in yourself.
 
Now, there’s no guarantee that you’ll succeed. What’s guaranteed is that you won’t succeed if you give up too soon.
 
Often, success is right around the corner for those who have that conviction. And for those willing to continue despite all the challenges they face.
 
You can be one of the few who makes it if you choose to take this route.
 
JohnK 10-1-2019
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Appreciate Your Way To Lower Stress Levels

September 24, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Appreciate the small stuff and you’ll be less likely to get stressed out? It makes sense when you think about it.
 
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Appreciate Your Way To Lower Stress Levels

 
angry face doesn't appreciateHigh-strung people can get upset about every little thing.
 
Their tendency to misread the “small stuff” causes them to blow up at every turn. Contrast this with people who appreciate the small things.
 
 
 
 
They aren’t going to let little situations bother them. In fact, it’s those little things that they learn to enjoy and embrace.
 
For instance, suppose there’s a problem at work with the shipment of an order. The high-strung individual is going to blow things out of proportion.
 
Their answer is to yell at everyone to get it fixed.
 
The appreciative person stays calm and figures out how to solve the problem. This makes it easier to work with people to right the situation.
 
And, they won’t see it all as a big deal. All the while being happy to have the job they have.
 
High-strung people or those who appreciate most everything? Easy choice, no?
 
I’m guessing you chose the appreciative person.
 
This person will also be able to handle major issues since he or she is at ease handling the minor ones. It’s true that appreciative people have lower stress levels than those who don’t.

But it doesn’t end there

Appreciative people still need good nutrition and at least a bit of exercise. No doubt these folks are already doing that because they love life and want to prolong it.
 
Appreciative people tend to be more adaptive, too.
 
If you’re a bit on the hot-headed side think about this. Be grateful for what you have and who you have.
 
When you take the time to be grateful, you’ll start to feel more relaxed. You’ll stop jumping to conclusions, and you’ll look for ways to solve problems in a relaxed manner.
 
You can also use exercise and relaxation techniques such as meditation and massage. Keep trying different ways to relax but above all, be appreciative of your entire life.
 
Your positive energy will attract others, and they’ll be more willing to follow your lead.
 
 
JohnK 9-24-2019
 
stick man learning to appreciateOverheard: “A grateful mind is a great mind which eventually attracts to itself great things.”
                                             ~Plato
 
 
 
 
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Handle Adversity: Consider Opposing Viewpoints

September 17, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Adversity can bring you opportunity- an opportunity to do your homework! GenuLines helps you get an edge by looking at all sides of an issue.
 

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Handle Adversity: Consider Opposing Viewpoints

Adversity often grows out of misinformation about a situation. You know the information might not be true but you act on it as if it was.
 
A good way to counter this situation is to take the other end of an argument or the opposing viewpoint.
 
 
two men showing antagonismFirst, consider the people you have an issue with and learn more about them. Do you disagree with their political views?
 
Or do you have some other bias against them? For instance, religion can bring out different standpoints and beliefs.
 
 
 
 
For the sake of discussion, we’ll call your opposition adversaries. You’ll need to find out more about them.
 
The internet is a good place to start. If you get stuck go old school. Visit your local library and ask the reference librarian.
 
They specialize in research and they can help you.
 
Get A Read on Things
Read material that you normally would not. Do this even if you’re not facing an adversarial situation.
 
It gets you in the mindset of accepting differences in others. You can look for magazines and books, or you can view blogs and forums related to the topic you want to learn.
 
You aren’t required to agree with adversarial topics. You only want to learn more about them so that you have information on your side.
 
Back your arguments with information. This will make it tougher to challenge you because you can cite your sources.
 
Play devil’s advocate when approaching any subject. Try to pose questions that your adversaries would pose. See if you can understand why they would pose those questions.
 
It may get you to rethink your own beliefs.

What were they thinking?

It’s also important to understand the motivations of your adversaries. Here’s an example. Fundraisers sometimes use a lot of hype to get you to buy into their message.
 
When this happens, knowing the facts will help you make your decision.
 
Try to stay away from name-calling since this never solves the problem. You’ll come off as petty.
 
And you might strengthen your adversary’s position.
 
It’s okay to argue with people when you have the facts on your side. But, some people won’t accept those facts no matter how hard you try to get them to consider them.
 
When this happens, there isn’t much you can do but walk away.
 
JohnK 9-17-2017
 
 
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                                ~ Washington Irving
 
 
 
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Teaching Kids About Routine Through Chores

September 10, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Chances are you don’t think much about your daily routine. Your kids probably don’t think much about routine, either.
 
But in this article, GenuLines looks at teaching about routine while getting some things done around the house!
 
 
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Teaching Kids About Routine Through Choresdishwashing routine

Give kids their chores and you can expect to hear some moaning and groaning. Even if you tie the chores to an allowance.
 
They’ll be happy on payday, but not thrilled to know they have to work for the bucks.
 
 
 
 
 
But, giving your kids chores teaches them much more than work for pay. Often there are considerations that go with the chores.
 
For instance, they’ll have to check the oil before using the lawnmower. They’ll have to make sure the mower has enough gas.
 
And, of course, they’ve got to know how to start it.
 
If weed-whacking is part of the job they’ll need to learn that that comes first. Kids will also learn they have to do their chores on a regular basis. 
 
This routine instills in them the idea of a work ethic. Sticking with the mowing example, the kids will most likely have to do this once per week.

Easy does it

Even tasks that seem easy and don’t need a routine will have some sort of process. For instance, before kids load and run the dishwasher they’ll have to rinse some of the dishes.
 
They’ll have to load the machine in a way that none of the wash load breaks. Then, they load the soap dispenser and turn on the machine. 
 
It’s a process much like any other.
 
You may not have thought about this but video games can teach kids about how to use routines to their benefit. Many of the games go through sequences and steps for advancing to the next round.
 
Knowing these steps keeps the game fun and interesting. 
 
School sports for kids mean coaches and drills. These drills teach them the techniques needed to win games.
 
You can think of those as routines.
 
They’re meant to help the kids use the skills when they’re playing the game. The more they do the drills, the less they’ll need to think about what to do when they start playing.
 
The routines kids learn from their chores will carry through to their adult life. When they start their working life, they’ll be well versed in processes and routines.
 
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Trust Yourself If You Want a Better Romantic Relationship

September 2, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Trust is a word that makes us feel good, especially n a relationship.
 
GenuLines turns the idea inward for a look at relationships and self-trust.
 
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Trust Yourself If You Want a Better Romantic Relationship

One of the keys to a stable romantic relationship is self-trust.
 
Couple lacking trustWithout it your partner can lose confidence in you over time. You’ll have problems making decisions.
 
And there may be a few sexual problems, too.
 
Romantic relationships have a foundation of trust. You may have it for your partner but not yourself.
 
 
 
 
 
Let’s say you put yourself down in front of your partner. They may go along with you in the beginning, but that behavior will get old over time.
 
Contrast this behavior with trusting yourself.
 
You’ll be more confident. And your partner will pick up on this.
 
You’ll have both your emotional and physical needs met. That’s sure to spice up your relationship.
 
Sharing
If you don’t trust yourself, it’s not likely you’ll share your feelings with your partner. Communication is another relationship building block.
 
Without it you could by headed for a break-up.
 
Trust issues can affect your attitude. You’ll send out negative energy toward those around you, including your partner.
 
Would you want to hang around someone who’s negative?
 
It’s very likely you won’t. Over time, you’ll look for ways to avoid that person.
 
Make sure that person isn’t you.
 
Sharing negative feelings with your partner is different from being negative. It’s pretty much impossible to be positive 100% of the time.
 
Aim for striking a balance and working towards being more positive than negative. That can’t happen if you doubt yourself.
 
A bit of effort and a healthy dose of self-trust gives your relationship a better chance to work.
 
Your partner will be happier and so will you. You have a choice.
 
Stay closed and lack trust in yourself. Or open up and gain the confidence to have the best possible relationship.
 
JohnK 9-3-2019
 
stick figure hearing about trustOverheard: “Tension is who you think you should be, relaxation is who you are”
 
                                          ~Chinese proverb
 
 
 
 
 
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How to Use Failure to Strengthen Belief in Yourself

August 27, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
                                                                                                          airplane landing in trees is a failure                                      Does the thought of failure fill you with dread? You’re not alone. 
 
Read on as GenuLines looks at some ideas to help you believe in yourself and to loosen failure’s grip.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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How to Use Failure to Strengthen Belief in Yourself

One of the best tools for dealing with failure is failure itself. You can examine it to figure out what went wrong.
 
You can look back on the steps you took and try to find the exact point of failure. Then you’ll be able to choose alternative steps based on this information.
 
You do need to be honest in your assessment of why the failure happened.
 
If you blame others for your failures, you’ll mask the causes, and you’ll never move on. It’s easier to blame others rather than admit mistakes.
 
But you aren’t doing yourself any favors when you do this.
 
Recognizing your failure is important, but don’t be hypercritical. Putting yourself down because you failed won’t help your cause.
 
Know that failure happens and embrace it. Then, you can take a step back and figure out your next move.

Learning from others

boy reading abut failureYou can get inspiration from the failure of others. People write about their trials and tribulations in books.
 
They record videos about their setbacks. Their experiences can help you by giving you tips on how to avoid the mistakes they made.
 
 
 
 
Using this approach can help you turn things around at a much faster rate. If you’re not doing this yet, give it some thought.
 
Drawing from the experiences of others also shows you that you aren’t alone. Many of the most successful people overcame obstacles.
 
Their stories can help you feel better about your own slip-ups.
 
In other words, if they did it, so can you. That too is a powerful benefit of using failure to your advantage.
 
If you’re repeating the same mistakes over and over, it’s time to take a hard look at what you’re doing. If you’re struggling to break that cycle, you may want to find a coach who can help you.
 
Sometimes, that extra push can be all that you need to get you to break out of the pattern.
 
JohnK 8-27-2019
 
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                                ~Malcolm Forbes
 
 
 
 
 
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Use Social Media To Show Your Appreciation

August 20, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments
Do you ever think of social media as a vehicle for showing appreciation?
 
GenuLines asks you to consider your social media use as a means of appreciation. 
 
 
 
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Use Social Media to Show Your Appreciation

Is there anyplace social media isn’t? It’s everywhere, with people willing to share all aspects of their lives.
 
From cute cat pictures to complete details of what they had for breakfast.
 
Granted, not everyone appreciates these constant updates. But with smart management, social media can be a great way to give the world a look at the things you appreciate.
 
Let’s start with Pinterest. If you’ve never used it before start setting up boards about your favorite items. These could be podcasts that better the human condition. Or, if if you have healthy recipes you’ve tried and liked, create a board for that.
 
You can even structure your boards as group boards. Then you can invite others to post on your boards.
 
You’ll learn about things others enjoy. And you have control over who joins so you can keep spammers from infiltrating your boards.
 
If you insist on posting details of every meal on social media, consider using Twitter to do this. It’s a more forgiving platform since the messages pass through quicker.
 
And they only contain a small number of characters.
 
As for Facebook, your friends there might not be as receptive. Now you know.
Make it legal

thumbs up for social mediaIt’s great to show your appreciation for the small things using social media. But make sure you have the rights to post what you post.

People and companies take copyright infringement seriously. And posting any picture on a whim can get you into serious trouble.
 
 
 
The fines can be hefty. And there have been instances of criminal actions taken against perpetrators.
 
If you search on Google for images and you don’t know whether it’s okay to use them, likely it’s not. Don’t take this issue lightly.
 
You also want to make sure you have permission to post pictures of people. If they’re people you know, you can ask them through a verbal confirmation.
 
If you want to post people you don’t know, make sure you get a signed release showing that it’s okay to use their image.
 
Needless to say, never use people’s images in a negative light. Be respectful with your social media posting.
 
Some channels may allow you to post inappropriate material, such as nude pictures, etc. Not the best idea.
 
Would you show it to your mother? If not, your best bet is to keep it off of social media.
 
JohnK 8-20-2019
 
stick man on social mediaOverheard: “Appreciation is a wonderful thing; it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”
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