Since today is Valentine’s Day I want to remind you that “true love” is more than flowers and mushy cards. So we’re going to go back a few years for the CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Dr. Debra Reble, who told us that happy relationships are the stuff not only of dreams but also of real life.
In this Chi For Yourself edition we heard of a provocative new model of relationship set forth in Soul-Hearted Partnership: Creating the Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy, from longtime counselor Debra L. Reble, Ph.D.
The book intends to show how dreams of amazing relationships come true when individuals cultivate first a soul partnership with themselves and then a soul-hearted partnership with a loved one.
Unwilling to sacrifice their soul’s expression or look for a partner to complete or guide them, men and women of all ages and circumstances, Dr. Reble reports, are manifesting partnerships that foster their spiritual growth.
I gotta say I was surprised to have both Susan Campbell and John Grey on the call last Thursday. I was under that impression that only Susan was going to do the interview, so it was nice to have both with us for the Q and A. Susan and John are co-authors of FIVE-MINUTE RELATIONSHIP REPAIR: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love.
If you still haven’t heard what they had to say about quick relationship maintenance just click on the YouTube logo and you’ll be taken to the recording…
Here’s a list of talking points from the show:
5 Minute Relationship repair? Seems too good to be true!
Deep issues are at work here
Trouble tends to have its origins in childhood
Indicators of trouble in a relationship
Doing “quick repair”
Do we actually attract the wrong partners?
There’s brain science at work
The physical manifestations of relationship stress
Our core fears are at work
Relationship repair and gender roles
Couples who “get it right”
Something for couples not having problems
In a few days I’ll tell you about the guests who’ll be with us on the next show.
No matter what shape your relationship is in you’ll want to be with us for today’s CHI FOR YOURSELF. Our guest is Dr. Susan Campbell, co-author of FIVE-MINUTE RELATIONSHIP REPAIR: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love.
Dr. Susan Campbell
Be on the call with us at 4pm Eastern 1pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com
On today’s CHI FOR YOURSELF we’ll be talking relationships with Dr. Susan Campbell, co-author of FIVE-MINUTE RELATIONSHIP REPAIR: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love.
Dr. Susan Campbell
Be on the call with us today at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time. You’ll see the screen at chiforyourself.com.
Button pushing, fights, and cold, smoldering, silent resentment. Remind you of your truly beloved? On the next CHI FOR YOURSELF we’ll look at these and other issues facing many couples. Our guest will be Dr. Susan Campbell, co-author with Dr. John Grey, of Five Minute Relationship Repair. Dr. Campbell has long worked as a relationship coach and teamwork consultant to Fortune 500 companies and has authored six books.
Dr. Susan Campbell
Some of the areas (usual suspects?) we’ll explore:
What should a couple do if they find themselves having the same fight over and over?
Why do we often feel afraid to speak honestly to the one we love the most?
Can couples really repair things in five minutes?
Plan to be on the call when CHI FOR YOURSELF welcomes Dr. Susan Campbell on Thursday March 12th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific. Just visit chiforyourself.com at that time and click on the video player. See ya there..
We all love to talk about love, and we likely always will because so much of it is mysterious. From the partners we choose, to why we leave or stay, to how a relationship’s dynamics are always changing, nothing hurts or heals so much.
The notions that passion always peters out, that there’s a “seven-year itch,” and that the honeymoon is over as soon reality sets in have some truth to them. But, our scheduled guest on this week’s CHI FOR YOURSELF says long-term, wholehearted love really IS possible.
Author and couples therapist Linda Carroll explains that love is cyclical and comprised of five distinct stages. She says that the greatest benefit of our intimate relationships is the opportunity they provide to grow and develop as a human being. And she says, everyone can win at love, even when a relationship doesn’t last.
Linda Carroll is the author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love.
Listen to the interview this Thursday October 2nd at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time at www.chiforyourself.com.
The Chi For Yourself interview with Meagan McCrary on January 9th saw some problems in our Google + Hangouts presentation. The podcast was posted and has been up and running, but if you haven’t heard that show (and your tastes lean toward YouTube) I’m including the finally finished ‘Tube version of Chi For Yourself with guest Meagan McCrary..
On the surface it may appear that yoga is yoga is yoga, but take a closer look and you’ll discover myriad different yoga systems and lineages. There are dozens of yoga styles to choose from, and while yoga is for everyone, not every style is the perfect fit for every person. But how do you choose between mysterious-sounding names such as Ashtanga, Kundalini, Bikram, and Kripalu? Our Chi For Yourself guest Meagan McCrary says finding the right style is essential for establishing a steady yoga practice. Her book Pick Your Yoga Practice: Exploring and Understanding Different Styles of Yoga is described as the first book to describe the most prominent yoga styles in depth, including teaching methodology, elements of practice, philosophical and spiritual underpinnings, class structure, physical exertion, and personal attention. Meagan encourages those new to yoga that they will discover they have options and can confidently attend a class of their choosing, while experienced practitioners will expand their understanding of the vast world of modern yoga, and perhaps find themselves venturing into new territory.
Click on Meagan’s picture to hear the show..
Meagan McCrary
..and, don’t forget to listen Valentine’s Day Friday February 14th- 1pm Eastern for the 2012 interview with guest Dr. Debra Reble, author of Soul-Hearted Partnership: Creating the Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy.
Click on the BlogTalkRadio logo to hear the show..
On Valentine’s Day the Core Values of Love Matter
By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, the Official Guides To Marriage
Commit to the seven core values of successful love and marriage and you can make your Valentine’s Day the best ever.
We have learned a lot about successful love and marriage in the USA and around the world over these past 32 years. The results of our studies are shared in our multiple award winning book entitled Building a Love that Lasts. In this article we would like to do is share with you what we have found to be the Seven Core Values of All Loving Relationships.
Over the past 32 years, we have learned much about what makes great marriages tick – about what makes them successful. Even in spite of ominous odds from time to time, the best marriages survive and thrive, and we know why! They survive and thrive because they are committed to the Core Values present in all great marriages and successful loving relationships. Here they are in a nutshell.
1. The couple in love is committed to always putting each other first in their relationship with each other.
The first thing you notice in all highly successful loving relationships is that those who purport to be in love recognize that their relationship is not about you and me, it is about US. Discovering that YOU are not the center of the universe is the hallmark of a great relationship. Actually putting another human being number one is a powerful indication that you are truly in love.
2. The couple in love is committed to democracy in their relationship.
Always remember, successful loving relationships are egalitarian. Namely, the best relationships understand that theirs is a shared relationship. If one person has all the power and makes all the decisions, it is NOT love! True love is a very democratic thing!
3. The couple in love is committed to ensuring their mutual happiness.
Remember, true love is not just about ensuring your happiness. More importantly, and often for the first time in your life, you actually enjoy and are motivated by ensuring the happiness of someone other than yourself. It is a good feeling!
4. The couple in love values absolute trustworthiness and integrity in their relationship with each other.
If you cannot trust the one you love, then it is not true love! Trust us on that. The most successful loving relationships report that they trust their mate unequivocally and without hesitation. To violate that trust is to undermine and, ultimately destroy, the relationship with the one you say you love.
5. The couple in love is committed to caring and unconditional love for each other.
When you truly love someone you do so without conditions. It is not about loving you IF . . . True love is unconditional.
6. The couple in love is committed to being mutually respectful towards each other.
There is a Golden Rule in true love and it is like the one you learned early in your life – “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Do not expect to be treated with respect when you are disrespectful to the one you love. Respectfulness is at the heart of all great loving relationships.
7. The couple in love values their mutual sense of responsibility for each other.
People in love care for each other in ways that they have never cared for another human being. They feel a sense of responsibility for another person that they have never felt before. It feels so good to put another’s needs above your own. To do so is to love deeply.
The Core Values of all successful loving relationships are at the heart of the matter. If you and your mate master these values, your love will, in all probability, last a lifetime. What a Valentine’s Day gift that would be!
Simple Things Matter in Love and Marriage, particularly on Valentine’s Day. Love well!
* Creating a successful marriage is not always the easiest thing to do. Your visiting our blog suggests you are highly interested in making your relationship work! And truthfully, we have learned over 30 years of marriage research that there are proven effective ways to ensure a happy and healthy marriage. In fact, as love and marriage experts we took hundreds of tips from the thousands of happy couples we interviewed throughout the world and put them into our award-winning and bestselling book, Building a Love that Lasts
Author’s Bio:
Now you can order the Doctors’ multiple award winning book Building a Love that Lasts, the Mom’s Choice Awards Gold Medal Winner for Most Outstanding Relationships and Marriage Book. With 32 years of research experience on successful marriage and their own 47-year marriage, Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz know what makes marriage work. From their hundreds of interviews with happily married couples, representing 15,000 years of marriage, they’ve discovered the seven pervasive characteristics present in all successful marriages. Their book exposes the secrets for success through these poignant, real life stories.
During their distinguished careers the Doctors have received some 65 local, state, and national awards; published nearly 350 articles and manuscripts; delivered over 1000 speeches, workshops and public presentations; traveled throughout the world; and appeared on radio and television and in the print media. Dr. Charles D. Schmitz is Dean and Professor Emeritus of Family and Counseling Therapy at the University of Missouri in St. Louis and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz is President of Successful Marriage Reflections, LLC.
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Since today is Valentine’s Day I want to remind you that “true love” is more than flowers and mushy cards. So we’re going to go back a few years for the CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Dr. Debra Reble, who told us that happy relationships are the stuff not only of dreams but also of real life.
Overheard: “Whoever lives true life, will love true love”
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