Your mindset is what compels you to take a certain action or leads you back off from acting on something. It influences how you see yourself and those around you.
Different types of mindsets can mean different things to each of us. And they can say a lot about how and why you think like you do.
Each has benefits and drawbacks.
A numbers game
The number of mindsets that exist is dependent on how much you generalize them. Finding your type is key to understanding how you operate in every area of your life.
There are two main types of mindsets, Fixed and Growth. Each has benefits and downsides.
If you have a fixed mindset, you tend to believe your skills or qualities are set and you resist changing them. These include your intelligence level, and your personality or character.
This can cause you to limit yourself and focus on proving yourself to others.
Some of the sub-mindsets of a fixed mindset include these tendencies:
· Fear
· Laziness
· Envy
· Greed
· Short-term thinking
· Anger
· Tendency to follow
Characteristics include:
1. Blaming others for things that are wrong
2. Lazy habits
3. Relying on addictions
4. Insatiable and always want more
5. Self-absorbed, with little thought of others
6. Limited initiative to achieve
7. Obsessed with what others are, do or say
8. Waste time
9. Come across in a negative way
With a growth mindset, you tend to believe in a basic set of qualities. You feel you can cultivate and develop them through effort, strategy, and help from others.
Some of the sub-mindsets of a growth mindset include:
· Social
· Business
· Dreamer
· Gratitude
· Confident
· Creative
Characteristics include:
· Willing to help others
· Solve problems
· Think big and know what you want
· Feel gratitude for what you have
· Eager to learn
· Dedication to achieve and grow
· Able to change and develop skills
· Embrace challenges
· Learn from failures
What type of mindset is the basis of your thoughts and actions? Do you believe that this is how you are and can’t change?
Do you believe you can change, and things can be different for you? The good news is you can change your mindset to one of growth and abundance.
No matter how focused you are, some days, it’s hard not to get distracted. And, in a time of societal upheaval, those distractions can get out of hand.
Let GenuLines help you with this list of points to bring back your focus.
Life can sometimes get in the way of meeting your goals, but it doesn’t have to derail you.
Here are some expert tips on how to stay on track, no matter what else is happening around you.
1. Get Organized
It’s easier to focus if you’re not distracted by the small, daily tasks. Commit to a nightly practice of preparing for the next day.
Decide what to wear, what to have for lunch and the other necessary things that are part of your routine. Have your gym bag ready and packed so you can just pick it up and go.
It can help to get organized for your week on a Sunday evening. For example, have all your work clothes clean and pressed and ready to wear.
You might even consider a minimalist work wardrobe of similar garments to mix and match. You can also bulk cook and freeze meals so that you don’t even think about dinner during the week.
2. Do the Tough Things First
You can free up a lot of mental energy by putting the difficult tasks and decisions at the top of your to-do list. Do the hardest tasks when your brain is still fresh first thing in the morning.
This way you can get on with your day without a nagging dread at the back of your mind.
3. Keep Your Energy High
It might surprise you to hear that fatigue can be a distraction. If your energy is low, you won’t be performing at your best, so make sure you take regular breaks.
Get out of the office and get some fresh air. Eat your lunch in the park and give your eyes a break from looking at a screen.
Eat lots of fresh foods and stay hydrated by keeping a water pitcher on your desk.
4. Manage Your Priorities
Chances are, many of the requests you get during the day don’t deserve to be your top priority. Instead of responding straight away, decide on how urgent the request is.
Do you really need to answer that email now? Learn to focus on requests and respond as you see fit.
5. Keep Your Eye on the Prize
There are so many distractions in modern life that it can be easy to lose sight of what you want to achieve. Have a visual reminder of what you’re working toward.
This could be a mission statement or a post-it note on your computer. Check-in every day to see how you’re tracking and make sure you keep a line of sight on your big goal.
Hard times are a breeding ground for hopelessness. You can slip into a feeling that you can’t win.
But today’s GenuLines message asks some important questions to help you prevail.
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Hard Times And Their Important Lessons
These days hopelessness is a common feeling. There’s bad news in the media every day.
On top of that, our lives can bring personal challenges and negativity.
Everyone faces these situations in a different way, though. Some find comfort in religion and spirituality; others turn to meditation or therapy.
Unfortunately, others adopt unhealthy coping mechanisms,. Things like drinking to manage their grief, anguish, and sadness.
But if you look at hard times in a different light you can come up with more positive coping mechanisms.
One good way to reinterpret hardships is to find meaning in them.
And how can you do this?
When you’re facing a negative event, pause, and ask yourself how you can make the event meaningful.
For example, let’s say you get fired from your job. It’s a distressing situation that can leave you feeling afraid, angry, and ashamed.
Especially if you have a family, debt, or you don’t like your chances of finding a new job.
For example, ask yourself questions such as:
• Did I really like that job? Often, we’re stuck in a job that no longer makes us fulfilled, but we’re too scared to quit.
• Is this situation freeing my time for better opportunities? A job you no longer enjoyed could have been a roadblock in your professional development.
• What did I learn from that experience? The skills you learned at that job can be a launching point toward better opportunities.
• What went wrong? In this case, be honest with yourself — why were you fired? Look at the causes and don’t be judgemental.
• Are there any areas for growth? Regardless of what caused the negative situation, think of how you can use the experience to grow.
When you ask yourself these questions you give meaning to a negative situation. And you also take back control of it.
You re-frame the negative as an opportunity to grow and thrive in unexplored areas.
Look at it this way. A lost job is a chance for new growth. A new business, a trip, time off for family and friends, continued education, and more.
It’s healthy to feel down when you have a bad day. But it’s also important to take complete responsibility and be proactive.
Only then, can we find meaning in our lives and reduce uncertainty.
Luckily, this isn’t the only way to find meaning in difficult times.
When hardships come, it’s easy to over-think the situation.
But, dedicating at least some time to others helps put life into perspective.
When you give away your time and energy to help others, you create a connection with them. Life is no longer something that happens to you.
Instead, it becomes a network that you can influence in a positive way.
Finally, difficulties are part of life. Trying to avoid them keeps you from focusing your energy in purposeful, selfless directions.
So face tough times with patience and compassion toward yourself and others.
Every situation leaves its mark. That means you’re growing,
You’re building your own path of self-acceptance and compassion. You have the power to take control of your life by reflecting without judgment.
Accept each situation as an opportunity, and work with and for others.
Procrastination is more than turning in school or work projects late.
It can also include putting off important life decisions.
Like whether to ask your boss for the raise promised you last month. Or whether you should join a gym, or end a relationship, or have a baby.
The list of possibilities is endless.
The effect of not dealing with this can be life-long. Your relationships, career, and health might all take a hit.
But the tendency is to put things off until later. There’s always tomorrow, right?
It won’t be easy but try to identify the stress factor behind your procrastination. It could be fear of failure, fear of confrontation, fear of not being perfect.
You are your own worst critic.
Follow these tips to help you avoid procrastination once and for all.
1. Turn burdensome tasks into habits
We all have enough willpower to get about 3 or 4 tasks done each day. Turn yours into habits rather than mundane tasks.
You’ll give it less thought, and rely less on willpower. You won’t fall into the procrastination rut.
Why not turn healthy eating, daily exercise, or turning in reports ahead of time into daily habits, too? Procrastination is all about taking that dreaded first step.
So why not ease into it knowing that in time, or once you’ve finished X, you can watch videos or head outdoors.
2. Break work tasks into chunks
Instead of cleaning out the entire garage, do the right side first. Take a break.
Then do the left side. Take a break, and then finish off the rest.
At work, big tasks may seem daunting when you look at them as a whole. The answer?
Break them down into smaller tasks. Make an outline of the entire project, and then divide it into smaller tasks.
Working in 30-minute increments also helps break down tasks into smaller chunks. Those are manageable and not so intimidating.
After the 30 minutes, take a break and assess your work. Seeing how much you’ve accomplished will give you that boost of confidence you need to keep at it.
3. Remove distractions
Checking your email every 5 minutes isn’t doing you any good. So, once you’ve committed to doing the job, limit distractions by putting your away.
You can find apps that help you stay on track, but some will say that’s completely missing the point.
The important thing is that you set up a certain time for checking emails or your social media. Once you’ve started your task, you avoid the urge to take a sneak peak.
Another serious distraction is multi-tasking. Even though it may seem that you’re being productive, the truth is it wastes time and energy.
Yes you’re working more. But your end results will be below average.
4. Work during your peak hours
We all have certain times during the day when we’re most alert. Some of us are morning people, some are night owls, and some have more energy during the afternoon hours.
Find out what your peak hours are and tackle your most difficult tasks then. You’ll be more of a powerhouse then with your brain working at its highest capacity.
Procrastination is different than laziness. When you procrastinate, you delay one task for a more pleasurable activity.
So why not turn that mundane task you’re dreading into something more fun and enjoyable? Then you’ll put the brakes on procrastination.
Your beliefs can and sometimes do change. The process of living has a way of forcing us to see things with new eyes.
If so, remember to consider these GenuLines points to bring your behavior in line with your beliefs.
Change Your Beliefs – AND Your Behaviors, Too
A powerful enough event can change even your closest held beliefs. It could have been something traumatizing.
Or something minor, like reading a blog post.
But a change in thinking doesn’t mean you’ll change your behaviors to match your beliefs. For example, you read how successful entrepreneurs master time management.
It sounds great, but you don’t act to change your disorganized behavior.
Or you might find a new way of dieting, and you start noticing the many unhealthy things people eat. Then again, you might not actually be eating the healthiest yourself.
And you might want better treatment, while still being a bit unpleasant to those around you.This kind of behavior can hurt your relationships with your friends and family.
And it can kick up your stress, too.
Practice what you preach or those around you will see you as a hypocrite. They’ll only accept your beliefs if you reflect them in an accurate way.
It can be difficult, though, to make these changes. When you realize that you’re not behaving as you believe you should be, it can be hard to change your actual behavior.
Spend time every day thinking about what changes you want to make. Then dedicate time to following through with those changes.
It won’t happen right away – it’ll take a few weeks for you to get used to changing your behavior.
In the meantime, ask a friend or family member to help you focus on this change and keep you on track.
When you start acting as you believe you should, you’ll find that you’re happier with who you are as a person. You’ll feel better about the quality of your personality.
And your social life will improve.
The accurate display of your beliefs will make you seem more trustworthy. Folks then show you more respect.
You did the hard yards. And now you’re actually following through on what you say.
When life is hard we tend to look outside ourselves for reasons. We don’t want to think the cause is a lot closer to home.
As always, GenuLines helps re-direct you back to your “self” as a start toward getting your bearings.
Are You Making Your Life Hard?
Every day brings us a million things to take care of and it’s easy to fall behind. But sometimes life is hard because we’re making it that way.
One reason we make it harder is that we want to feel like we have some control. Let’s look at some ways you might be getting in your own way.
You Assume Malicious Intent
Most of the time people don’t mean to inconvenience you or make your life harder. Could be the person who cut you off in traffic was in a hurry.
Your significant other was quiet this morning. It may have been due to fatigue rather than anything you did.
If we decide the world is out to get us, we make life harder than it has to be. Be very slow to assume malicious intent.
It usually leaves you angry and unpleasant. The truth behind someone’s intentions is usually far from malicious.
And often not personal at all.
You Maintain Unreasonable Expectations
One thing we can control about life is our expectations. That doesn’t mean that we should go through life expecting and getting nothing.
Instead don’t expect the glass to be half full, half empty, or even a little full. Be grateful that it contains any wine at all!
You’re Afraid of Risks
Avoiding risk is part of human nature. We don’t want to run into danger unless we know we can get out of it.
But our bubble of comfort can often become a prison. Risking social rejection, loss of money, and loss of time is a trade-off for making our lives better.
When we spend most of our time avoiding risks, we make life harder.
Make sure you take smart risks! Think of an area in your life you’d like to expand upon and set some short terms goals.
Once you’ve challenged yourself and become comfortable again, set some higher goals!
You Compare Yourself to Others
One negative feature about social media is that it enables us to compare ourselves to others. Even worse, we compare ourselves to others in only their best moments.
Your friends may not have it as good as they’d like you to think. There will always be someone with more money, more friends, or whatever else than you.
The only person you should compare yourself to is the version of you from the past.
In short, we need to worry less about others, less about risks, and maintain our expectations. Don’t spend your life trying to be other people.
Or thinking the world is out to get you. Or afraid to take a chance.
Don’t expect things to get better without changing your actions. That sets you up for failure.