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It was the start of another year. 2011 to be exact. CHI FOR YOURSELF welcomed Julie Loar.
Julie’s the author of “Goddesses for Every Day: Exploring The Wisdom and Power of the Divine Feminine Around the World.”
Listen to the interview by clicking on below..
Achieving success can help you feel more confident. It’s not the boldest statement. But CHI FOR YOURSELF has a different way of looking at things like success and confidence.
Our idea of success is not realized with new cars, houses, or loads of money.
Today we’ll look at some ways to help you get the confidence you need to realize what you know to be true success:
Be true to yourself
Your values and belief system must be very much in place if you want to achieve a success coupled with serenity.
Don’t let your success come in ways which compromise your genuine self. It’ll be a success built on sand rather than solid ground and may crumble and fall with time.
Trust in your abilities
You may have much to learn before you can succeed in a chosen field or path. Think of all that you’ve achieved so far and challenges you’ve already worked through. Trust that you can do more.
Don’t dismiss what you’ve learned so far in life. You might think it was easy and that anyone could do it, but others may see it as remarkable and see you as an example.
Use your subconscious mind
Repeat positive affirmations and side-step negative thoughts. That builds strength for your subconscious mind.
You can train your subconscious mind to carry out your intentions. That makes a real difference in how you and others see yourself.
Avoid letting negative thoughts creep in and gain control. That will cause you to doubt your true abilities.
Use correct body language
Watch your posture, stance, and your general body language. It can be powerful when dealing with others and expecting a great outcome.
Remember when your mother used to tell you to sit up straight? Good advice! It sends a far different and more positive message than slumping.
Study body language and begin to practice it.
Enter a room with your head held high and walking like you own where you are and how you present yourself. People will take notice in a positive way.
Pay attention to your personal look
Never present yourself as unkempt and looking wrinkled and ungroomed. That image isn’t one that reaps success.
If this is an area of your life where you lack skills, seek the help of others. Develop a style you’re comfortable with. One that fits the image you want to present.
Overheard: Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.
It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood, much like many along Pacific Coast Highway. Pelicans glide near the surface of the ocean while gulls let out a sort of shrill encouragement nearby. Yet I’m feeling a bit uneasy as I make my way toward my dental appointment. Now, I’m no coward but I’m wondering ‘what if?’ What if this time I’ll need extensive work? It’s happened before. What if that work leaves me with a big bill? Been a while since any work was done. Am I due for a surprise?
Fear. It can stop you cold, give you what athletes call ‘jelly knees’, and steal your ability to make smart decisions. It can rob you of rational thinking and even turn you into a shadow of your real self. And all because of a perceived threat. Feeling threatened is not the same as an actual threat. But how can you tell? Do you face real danger or do you advance confidently?
Fear of uncertainty can leave you too frightened to take the path you really want to take. You can freeze at a bad time and not take to the road you must travel. It can be a helpless feeling and one that could leave you playing the victim.
Fear, real or not, can play a big part in how and if we respond and in who we become. There are countless stories of people who’ve let fear get the upper hand, even if only for a short time. That fear takes on an air of paranoia when their judgement is colored by those who are ‘out to get’ them. It’s a bit over the top but that’s the power of fear brought on only by perception.
Who are you becoming? Who is that person you call your self? My own belief is that the combination of listening to the faint inner voice and thinking rationally can turn back even a natural fear. It may require getting past the perception of whatever you’re facing. This will go a long way toward keeping you on target to living genuinely.
Oh, the dentist appointment? Got a checkup, a cleaning, and a reminder to ‘keep up the good work’.
Overheard: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
– Margaret Mead
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