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Prioritizing Your Life 101

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Prioritizing Your Life 101

When living your life for obligations and commitments, it can be difficult to prioritize what is truly important. Without priorities, everything becomes essential and urgent, or nothing does.

Learning to prioritize is an essential life skill that you need to learn, regardless of your age or what you’ve already accomplished in life.

priorities listWithout priorities, life becomes a series of reactions and aimless wandering. With a focus on what’s important, though, you can achieve your goals and live the life you want.

For active prioritization to help your life, GenuLines suggests envisioning what you want and where you want to go. Without a clear goal, it’s difficult to know how to get there.

Vision, therefore, becomes an essential first step to prioritizing.

 

A popular way of prioritizing your daily and weekly tasks is to rank each regarding urgency and importance. These are two separate qualities that are important to understand.

Urgency means how quickly it needs to get done, while importance is what is meaningful for your happiness.

Here’s how tasks might look using these categories:

• Important and urgent tasks are meaningful to you and have time constraints that require immediate action. These types of activities are often unexpected, which contributes to the urgency factor.

Without proper planning, though, lots of things can end up in this category.

• Not important but urgent tasks are usually the mundane tasks that keep life moving forward. Emails, meetings, and appointments that represent obligations end up here.

Having a lot in this category means your life may be running you instead of you running your life.

• Tasks that are not important or urgent are ones you can consider eliminating from your life. If your job or personal obligations fall primarily in this category, it may be time to reevaluate how you’re spending your time and what is important for you moving forward

• Not urgent but important tasks represent areas where you should be dedicating your time and prioritizing tasks best. These represent tasks that say you are in charge of your life and doing things that matter to you.

Being clear about your goals and values will help you spend more time in this last category and remove the clutter in your life that’s leading you astray from your goals.

And understanding how to categorize your activities can help you recognize how you are spending your time to determine if it is in your best interest.

Yes or No

Remember that everything you choose to say yes to in your life is a potential opportunity for you to say no to something else. Saying no to unnecessary obligations in your life gives you more time for those things that are important to you.

Saying yes to what matters means you are spending your time on things that are a real priority for you, not something else.

It’s important that your priorities are not just for your long-term goals but also for the day-to-day activities that drive our lives.

It can be hard to avoid distraction, but being clear about your priorities each and every day will help you achieve your dreams in the long run.

Reflect often on areas where your activities are not matching with your outlined priorities, and make adjustments to eliminate distractions in your life.

By choosing your priorities, you are designing your future, your vision for yourself. If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will do it for you, and that’s no way to control your life.

If you want to start living the life you want to achieve the goals you most want, make yourself and your tasks most important.

JohnK 5-5-2025

 

stick man hears about prioritizingOverheard:  “Action expresses priorities”

~Mahatma Gandhi
 


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Taking Chances On Your New Career

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Taking Chances On Your New Career

When you were starting out, you might have believed you landed the right job. It seemed to match your goals, your interests—your idea of success.

But now, you’re starting to wonder if it was the right call.

You think about changing careers, and GenuLines knows that often means starting over. That’s a scary proposition.

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Especially if you’ve been in a certain position for several years.

After all, you’re moving up the corporate ladder and earning a pretty decent salary. Starting over is sure to mean a cut in pay and that can be a negative for you and your family.

And there’s more to consider than the pay cut. It also means starting over as far as the pecking order or seniority you gained over the years.

 

But, I’m Too Old

Another factor for a career changer is age. Say you decide to switch in your forties or fifties.

You’ll have as little experience in your new career as someone starting out and younger.

It can be a tall challenge, but there are positives that you should consider too. The first is that money isn’t your only consideration.

Sometimes, getting out of a bad situation is enough to overcome a smaller paycheck.

You can make extra income, either by selling online or doing work for others. And It’s not necessary to work at a physical location to earn some cash.

If your new career is completely new for you it can be exciting as well as scary.

Think back to when you started your original career. Any new achievement made you feel like you could rule the world.

If you don’t have experience, remind yourself that you do have work and life experience to bring to the table. If you have any management experience that can carry over, too.

And you know how to handle adverse situations better than your younger colleagues.

Staying in a career that you’re tired of can make you bitter and take years off your life. While you think about switching, remember others have done it and they’ve made it work.

JohnK  4-21-2025
www.chiforyourself.com

 

stick man hears about career changeOverheard: “It’s not too late to be what you might have been”

~George Eliot
 

 

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Success Takes Longer Than You Think

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Success Takes Longer Than You Think

Big Goals. Large visions for your life.

Any major success you move toward. It’s no doubt going to take a lot longer than you think.

It’s part of life.

You get a good idea about something you want to be, do or have. And the idea captures your mind and emotions.

The honeymoon phase is awesome.

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You daydream and brainstorm your exciting new idea and its world of possibilities. You’re energized and GenuLines is ready to help you take on the world.

But if you’re new to all this keep in mind that you have some work ahead of you. Scaling a mountain isn’t quick and easy.

Looks Are Deceiving

Sure, from a distance, the mountain may not look that big. It looks like pretty smooth terrain and a manageable grade when you stare at it from a distance.

So you sprint to your starting point.

That’s when the work begins. And reality starts to sink in.

MOST people don’t make it far enough up the mountain to put skin in the game.

They quit early enough that the pain of investment isn’t harsh enough. The sting of quitting isn’t harsh enough.

But if this goal is something that you REALLY want then your first step is the “investment phase”.

You have to put in enough effort to reach a point where quitting would be more painful than continuing.

Once you reach this point, you gain a whole new perspective. The struggle doesn’t go away, but it takes on a new form.

You find a sort of peace and “sense of knowing” during your struggle.

You know you’ll make it to your goal though you don’t know how long it’ll take. But it almost doesn’t matter because you no longer count the cost.

You’re only focused on the path.

This is an easy metaphor to understand. But it applies to anything in life.

Make it a point to nurture your dreams. Have big visions and give yourself permission to dream even bigger.

Then, make CERTAIN you stay with it. Get to the point where turning around is no longer an option.

Even though it’ll likely take far longer than you think to reach your peak.

JohnK. 4-7-2025
chiforyourself.com

 

stick man hears about successOverheard: “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out”

                                                             ~Robert Collier

 

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You Can Define Your Perfect Morning

 

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You Can Define Your Perfect Morning

As I sit down to prep this GenuLines blog post a new morning is starting. I have my own way of approaching each day.

I call it my daily regimen.

How about you? Is there something you want to do that would make a big difference?

A habit you can do on a daily basis?

It could be in any area of your life. From exercise and healthy eating to working on your relationship with your kids.

Sit back and imagine your perfect morning. It isn’t stressed or rushed.

picture of beautiful morning

Best of all it’s a day when you have time for everything on your list.

This could mean having time for a long shower. Or going for a run before breakfast.

Or having a few minutes to connect with your spouse over breakfast.

There are a lot of “maybes” but the key is to start with what’s most important to you. Then think about how you could fit it into your morning routine.

Dream On

Remember, you’re only dreaming and imagining at this point. You’ll work on figuring out where to find the time to fit it in and how to make it all work out later on.

For now paint a vivid picture of what your new morning could look like. Get very clear on what you want that perfect morning to look like.

Imagine it in as much detail as possible. (And I would suggest you keep all this to yourself)

Write it down somewhere so you can refer to it as needed. In short, define your perfect morning.

Why is this so important?

Because you can’t start to make any meaningful changes until you know what your goals are.

You need to know your destination before you can start to pick a route and figure out how you’ll get there.

That’s what today’s task is all about.

It’s figuring out where you want to get to. Don’t stop until you have it figured out and firmly pictured in your mind.

JohnK 3-24-2025
chiforyourself.com

 

stick figure hears about a perfect morningOverheard: “Lose an hour in the morning, and you will spend all day looking for it”

~Richard Whately
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Live a More Fulfilled Life- Choose to Accept Yourself

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Live a More Fulfilled Life- Choose to Accept Yourself

You want a fulfilled life. But do you wear a mask of perfection?

Beneath that facade lies a whirlwind of strengths and weaknesses. It’s the messy reality of being human.

Even the most benevolent among us can’t escape the occasional dark cloud; So, what happens when your best intentions get sidetracked by your demons?

How do you navigate those turbulent moments that test your genuine self? Today GenuLines will dive in to the topic.

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The truth is, all of us are a mix of strong points and weak ones.

That’s to be expected. It’s part of the human condition.

Usually, it takes just one bad day for the demonic side of a person to show up. What do you do when those days come your way?

How do you deal with that?

My point is that your flaws are what give you character. They’re actually what make you special and unique.

If people wanted to date you based on your good looks you’re going to be in trouble. Why?

Looks fade. What happens when the wrinkles appear?

What gives you character is your weird laugh, your quirky sense of humor, your off-beat way of looking at situations. These are things that people hang on to.

Crazy High Standards

Unfortunately, if you keep on focusing on impossible standards, you become blind to the flaws that give you character. Now, a lot of people can accept this, but they would try to rework their flaws.

They would try to reshape their flaws.

You could try this. Flaws can be reshaped, but understand that they never go away.

This is all part of the territory. Learning to accept yourself is really the first step in learning to live in a flawed world.

That’s how things work. That’s how they are.

You’re actually tapping into a deep reservoir of personal power if you accept your flaws. This means you choose to stop running away from them, apologizing for them, justifying them, pointing the finger at others, or otherwise avoiding them.

Instead, you acknowledge them. Acknowledgment is the first step.

Next, you learn to live with them. Then you take ownership of them.

Eventually, you’ll get to the point you need to reach: making your flaws work for you instead of against you.

JohnK 3-10-2025
chiforyourself.com

 

stick man hears about feeling fulfilledOverheard: “To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life”

                                                          ~Robert Louis Stevenson

 

 

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5 Essential Tips for Managing Frustration

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5 Essential Tips for Managing Frustration

Let’s be real: frustration is a part of life. But managing it?

That’s a whole other ballgame. It’s not a subject they cover in the classroom.

And our parents? Well, let’s just say they weren’t always the best teachers on the subject.

If you’re struggling to deal with your own frustration, that’s understandable. But managing frustration is possible.

And these five essential tips from GenuLines can help to help you keep your cool.

Even in the most frustrating of circumstances.

Take a Step Back

A smart thing to do when feeling frustrated is to take a step back. Breathe.

man reacts to frustration

Don’t react.

Take a minute to distance yourself from the situation. This way you can ask what happened and try to figure out an answer.

By stepping outside of the situation, you can see it with less judgement.

Ask if there are pros or cons to this situation. Remind yourself if you’ve been here before, and you’ve gotten out of it unscathed.

Even if this is new territory for you, chances are it wasn’t for someone else. Just know that you will survive this. .

Embrace the Emotion – Then Let Go

When you’re frustrated, you put a lot of emotion into a situation. Your first reaction might be to suppress these feelings. Instead of pushing down and trying to ignore them, identify what you’re feeling.

Then allow yourself to feel it before letting it go. That keeps emotions from controlling the situation.

Act When Calm

When you think you’re outside your emotions act in a rational way. You should make all decisions from your logical self, not the emotional one.

The goal is to respond to a frustrating situation, not react.

Identify What You Wanted in the First Place

Frustration tends to happen when you’re not getting something you want. What triggered this frustration?

Was this a want or a need? If it’s a want, is it practical or reasonable?

Or is this something you need to let go?

Make a Choice

In the end, frustration only leaves you with two choices. Accept the status quo, even If it’s painful, or change the situation to ease the frustration.

Decide which it’s going to be.

If you’re going with the status quo, you have to accept the frustration as being part of this decision. and learn to live with it or let it go.

Managing frustration isn’t hard so long as you can stay out of the emotions of the moment. Keep a handle on yourself and take the time to think things through.

Then act as needed.

JohnK 2-24-2025
chiforyourself.com

 

stick figure hears about frustrationOverheard: “Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment”

~Dale Carnegie
 

 

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Why You’re Not Happy (And How to Change This)

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Why You’re Not Happy (And How to Change This)

So you’re reading this while you grapple with feelings of discontent in certain areas of life. Especially when it comes to being happy.

I get it.

Quick fixes and hacks don’t deliver and don’t help your mood. The changes they bring don’t last.

Their temporary highs don’t give you genuine fulfilment. Enter GenuLines and our ways to point your life toward fulfillment.

The truth is, your life isn’t a circumstance beyond your control. Your happiness and fulfillment are not accidents or the result of external factors.

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They/re a direct result of the choices you’ve made in the past.

The law of cause and effect is undeniable: every decision you’ve made has led to where you are today. Your thoughts, more than anything else, have shaped your life.

Your thought patterns and the way you choose to think have created the circumstances you’re in. And here’s the good news: you have the power to change your thoughts and, in turn, change your life.

As humans, we’re incredibly adaptable. We can thrive in most any environment, no matter how challenging.

But we often forget this power and allow our circumstances to define us.

We become victims of our own expectations and standards. We forget that we created those standards in the first place.

One key to happiness and fulfillment lies in recognizing that you have the power to choose. You can choose to focus on what you can control and scale up from there.

You don’t have to be held back by your current circumstances.

So, where do you start? Focus on the areas of your life where you’re doing reasonably well – the areas where you have control.

See if you can improve them, broaden them, or expand your area of control. From there, you can tackle the more challenging areas that may be holding you back.

Remember, your life isn’t a fixed landscape. It’s a dynamic, ever-changing environment that reflects your choices and decisions.

Choose to focus on what you can control and adapt to your circumstances and you can create a more fulfilling and happy life.

Don’t wait for external circumstances to change; change yourself by changing your mindset. You have the power to choose.

And with that power comes the ability to create a life that truly reflects genuine living.

JohnK 2-10-2025
chifoforyourself.com

stick man hears about being happyOverheard:  The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions”

~Robert Louis Stevenson
 

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5 Steps To Decide What To Do Next In Life

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5 Steps To Decide What To Do Next In Life

Are you feeling stuck in life and have no idea what to do next? Do you feel paralyzed with fear at the very mention of change?

First off, you can be proud of reaching this state. It means you sense that your life is shifting.

Yet, knowing where to begin or what to do can be overwhelming. So, if you’re facing this decision, these GenuLines points are for you.

Below are five steps to help you decide what to do next in your life.

Take a Step Back

When you’re looking at what to do next in life, it’s imperative to stop and take a step back. Take a look at the big picture to identify where you want to go and what you want to do.

Too often, we struggle with all the ways of how to get there without fully knowing where ‘there’ actually is. We don’t take the time to highlight what’s working in our lives and what’s not.

man facing life decision

So when we reach a crossroads, we’re baffled and unable to move forward. This is when taking a step back can help you specify where you want to go as you move on in life.

Understand What Fulfills You

Get to know what makes you you. Dig deep and do some soul-searching to understand what motivates you.

Ask yourself these questions: What drives me and makes me excited? What are my values and beliefs?

And, what contributions do I want to make to my community?

What’s important to me? What are the skills and talents that I bring to the table?

Explore Your Passions

Make a list of all the things that you’re passionate about and explore those options in more detail. It’s important to analyze your options on emotional and intellectual levels.

To do this, try to imagine how each one impacts your thought processes and your emotions. Do this step without worrying about any of the whys, should-haves, and would-nots.

Instead, connect more with your subconscious. Find out what resonates with you and your core values.

For instance, let’s say you value innovation and technology. You might look for positions at industry-leading businesses.

If family culture suits you might be better off seeking a job at a small family-owned organization.

Learn New Skills

No matter how many great skills you already have, it’s always nice to learn something new. Whether it’s soft skills or hard, think about what you’d like to learn.

Look for places in your community or online where you can take classes.

For example, you want to learn more about graphic design. You may consider applying to an art program.

Or you could be interested in gardening. You can take a class in gardening and plants, then apply for a job at a garden center or arboretum.

Whatever ever you do remember to set short-term goals that follow the SMART plan. This framework ensures that your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-based.

Let Go of What Could Be

Change is scary because you don’t know what to expect from your decisions. This fear keeps you in a state of inaction and apprehension.

But what if you could let go of all that worry just for a few minutes?

To do that, you need to trust yourself and maintain a positive mindset. Have faith that whatever comes along, you’ll find a way to handle it.

Stop thinking of change as something to be dreaded and feared. Instead, you can begin to think of it as something stimulating that adds a layer of excitement and intrigue to your life.

Be open to whatever life brings your way. It may surprise you with an even better outcome than the one you first imagined.

Final Thoughts

These five steps can help your personal and professional life short term and long. It’s a tough journey, but if you’re determined to make it, it can also be extremely rewarding.

Now, all that’s left to do is take that first step to discover your purpose and get back on your life’s path.

JohnK 1-27-2025
www.chiforyourself.com

 

stick man hears about life decisionsOverheard: “The purpose of life is a life of purpose”

~Robert Byrne
 

 

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Moving On Might Be Exactly What You Need

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Moving On Might Be Exactly What You Need

It may be hard to believe, but there’s tremendous strength in releasing the past and moving forward. I understand it doesn’t feel that way.

Right now it’s easy to get caught up in what’s already happened.

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But there’s a lot of power in letting go and moving on. I know it doesn’t feel like it.

And GenuLines knows that at this point, you’re focusing on what happened in the past.

 

 

 

You’re thinking that if you keep dwelling on what happened, you might be able to figure it out. You think that with enough contemplation, things would fall into place.

And you’d see the rhyme and reason for the negative things that happened in the past.

This isn’t the first time you’ve thought this way. In fact, this might be the thousandth or so time you’ve entertained that idea.

What happened the previous days when you thought this way? How about the days before those?

Focusing on the past isn’t going to help you. And understand that past misfortunes don’t make your life a complete disaster.

You do want to map out a more clear path for your life. You’ll see that things are not so bleak.

There are very promising possibilities

Understand that these areas of light are areas of hope in your life.

You haven’t completely dropped the ball in those areas. You haven’t completely screwed up.

There’s your cause for optimism. It’s something to feel good about.

Focus and move on.

Focus on the fact that you have control. Given time, that area of control in your life could grow.

But these areas of control can’t grow if you don’t focus on them. As the old saying goes, “Where attention goes, energy flows.”

How can you take full ownership of your life if your attention stays on the things you can’t control? I’m talking about people from the past.

I’m talking about situations in the past. And I’m talking about people in your present you can do nothing about.

Focus on your area of competency, which is your choice to respond to things going on in your life.

This is your area of control. It’s the only area of control.

But the good news is the more you focus on it, the more competent and self-confident you become.

This helps you to become a more responsible and powerful person. Focus on these and move on from things that waste your time, attention, and emotional energy.

JohnK 1-13-2025
chiforyourself.com

 

stick man hears about moving onOverheard: “There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind”

C.S. Lewis
 

 

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Time For New Beginnings and Final Endings

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Time For New Beginnings and Final Endings

There has to be endings to create new beginnings. An old year ends and a New Year begins, full of promises of change and new experiences.

It’s a good time for GenuLines to look at the endings in your life. For example , the death of a loved one, will leave you sad.

But if you accept the loss and focus on the good memories the person brought you can move on.

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Each step in your life

These are necessary for you to continue growing. The end of high school or college signifies the beginning of adulthood.

This might give way to a career that you’ve studied for.

Every New Year is an opportunity for you to sit down and figure out what you want to change in the coming year. What will make you a better and happier person.?

Do you want to lose weight, quit smoking, move on to another job? Now is the time to rethink and reset your goals and make the necessary changes in your life.

Endings can only come when you let go of thinking about the negative events. When bad things go beyond your control you’ve got to distance yourself.

Make space for the positive 

Get a grip on the reality of endings. You don’t like all endings, but you do need to accept their reality.

If you don’t learn to accept endings to allow for new beginnings, you might give up. That could open the door to a lifetime of regrets.

Think about things in a new way. You may think of yourself as “set in your ways,” about certain things.

But you have the right to change your mind if something changes, like more facts about what happened. Sometimes it helps to gain a fresh perspective on life and let go of old beliefs.

Remember, if you don’t take chances, change isn’t possible. You can hold on to the good things in your life, but if a new idea triggers excitement and fulfillment in your life, try it.

If you don’t, you may regret it.

JohnK 12-30-2024
chiforyourself.com

stick figure hears about new beginningsOverhead: “You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down”

                                                                    ~Mary Pickford

 

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