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Fixed vs. Growth Mindset- Which One Describes You?

June 12, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

Mindset matters. Is yours standing still or all about forward motion.

Let GenuLines take the brakes off of your mindset and point you toward success.

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset- Which One Describes You?

There are two mindsets that go a long way toward determining your personality. A fixe mindset assumes that your character, creative ability and intelligence are unchangeable.
 
It insists hat your basic abilities are those you’re born with.
 
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People with a fixed mindset often want to appear intelligent. But they don’t believe they can change their intelligence.
 
They’re afraid of looking dumb and that they’ll always look that way.
 

 

 

 

 

 

Common fixed mindset thoughts:

Either I’m good at something, or I’m not.
I can’t learn now; it’s too late.
There’s no point in trying if I’m going to fail.
I always struggle with…
I’m a procrastinator.
I’m not creative.
It’s hard for me to lose weight.
 
Growth mindset goes in a different direction. It’s the belief that abilities and intelligence can grow with time and experience.
 
That you can become smarter. that your efforts effect your success and with persistence you can learn.
 
A growth mindset sees basic ability as only the starting point for true potential. It creates a passion for learning rather than a constant need for approval.
 

Some common growth mindset thoughts:

I can always become better at something through practice.
I can learn whatever I want or need to, exactly when I need to learn it.
I see failures as opportunities to learn, to reassess, and to do better next time.
I can always do better at something if I want to, but it will take effort.
Determination and effort are the measures of my outcomes
I enjoy learning and growing, and learning is a lifetime pursuit for me.
 
There are key differences between a fixed and growth mindset. Challenge is one of them.
 
A person with a fixed mindset will shy away from a challenge, often from fear of failure. They may go into hiding to avoid responsibilities.
 
Challenge excites the growth mindset person.
 
They find valuable takeaways from their experiences. And they master the challenge and move to greater accomplishments.
 

Another key difference

A person with a fixed mindset sees mistakes as embarrassing.
They blame others or become defensive when criticized.
 
The growth mindset person sees mistakes as a lesson learned. They are less likely to take criticism personally.
 
They’re open to criticism, believing it helps improve their ability to do better next time.
 
If you find you have a fixed mindset but you want to change, you can. It’ll take practice, determination, and being more aware of your thoughts.
 
Then you’ll be able to expect that the reactions to situations you want you’re likely to have. With these efforts, you benefit by having a more open, growth mindset.
 
And an open path to success in every area of your life.
 
JohnK 6-12-2023
 
Stick figure hears about mindsetOverheard: “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
                                   ~Earl Nightingale
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Self-Sabotaging Thoughts That Hinder Happiness

March 20, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

It’s been said that thoughts are things. And things aren’t so good when your thoughts turn against you. 

We go deeper as GenuLines takes a closer look at this thoughts thing.  

Self-Sabotaging Thoughts That Hinder Happiness

At times you’ll struggle to get your thoughts to align with your intentions. These types of thoughts focus on what’s wrong.
 
Or on what’s missing. Or on the negativity of the situation instead of the positives.
 
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I Don’t Like People

Introverts can have a problem with this. They tend to base their decisions on how many people will be around to see the results..
 
They tend to make decisions that are not good for them because they are not comfortable being who they are. Turn that thought around.
 
Take action.
 
But focus on how you can give yourself care during anxious moments around people. It’s okay to be who you are.

I Am Too ____

Anytime you start a thought with, I am “too” you get into trouble. People often worry about things that no one else ever thinks about.
 
Yet sometimes they might worry about things that other people do think about.
 
For example, you find yourself saying you’re too fat, too dumb, too something. Turn that around by setting up steps that will get you to your goals.

I’ll Do That When I ______

You may have said it before to yourself. “I’ll do that when I go back to school.”
 
“I’ll do that when I clean the house.” “I’ll do that when I lose weight.”
 
You know the drill. Unless you need to do the thing in the blank, don’t allow that to get in your way.
 
If you do need to do it, make a step-by-step plan to get it done.

I Can’t Do _____

You may have heard your child, or yourself, or someone else say “I can’t do math.” Or “I can’t cook.”
 
The truth is, no one can do any of that without learning how to do it.
 
No one pops out of the womb knowing how to cook, write, read, or do math. Anyone can learn whatever they want to learn given the time and effort to do it.

Saying I Should ____

Have you ever heard that it’s important not to “should” all over everyone? Not only is it a bad idea to create “shoulds” for others, it’s a terrible idea to create them for yourself.

In the Past ___

You dwell on the past and what someone did to you then. Or you fixated on what things were like in the past.
 
This thinking isn’t going to help you overcome self-sabotage. While it’s okay to use the past as a learning example, it’s not okay to use it as an excuse not to move forward.
 
Remember you’re only in charge of yourself.

In the Future ____

You don’t want to focus on the past but you also don’t want to be too focused on what’s ahead. Focus on today and tomorrow will take care of itself.

If I Was More Like Them –

Never compare yourself to someone else in a negative way. It’s okay to look at what someone has accomplished.
 
Learn how to do it yourself, and follow their footsteps.
 
But don’t wish yourself away. Only you can be you.
 
Whenever you find you’re focused on a negative aspect of any situation, try to turn your mind around. Focus on the positives.
 
Yes, sometimes you’re going to have a sad or negative thought, that’s normal. It’s not about the ups and downs of life.
 
Those are natural. It’s about how you comport yourself the rest of the time.
 
That’s the better path to happiness.
 
JohnK 3-20-2023
 
stick man hears about thoughtsOverheard: “A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.”
                          ~James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
 
 
 
Articlle image by Miguel Á. Padriñán: https://www.pexels.com/photo/white-bubble-illustration-1111372/
 
 
 
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How Your Thoughts Influence Your Behavior

December 20, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Someone once said thoughts are things. Whatever they are thoughts thoughts play a big part in guiding your day to day activity. 

And GenuLiines wants to give you some insight into how that’s done. 

How Your Thoughts Influence Your Behavior

picture of thoughtsThere’s a universal secret to living a full life: you are what you think. Not what you were expecting, huh?
 
Many of the great minds of our time agree that thoughts are the building blocks of life experiences. They’re telling us that the quality of your thoughts reflects the quality of your life.
 
 
 
 
The problem is when you start to believe that material things can make your life better. You buy shiny, expensive things and go on trips to faraway, exotic places.
 
Some people even resort to mind-numbing substances to help them forget their reality.
The truth is that creating a better reality starts by creating change from the inside.
 
Your thoughts are the driving force behind why you feel and act the way you do. Once you understand the link between those three, you can start living the life you want in the way you want it.
 
Below, you’ll find three life-altering tips. Incorporate them into your day.
They’ll help you change negative thought patterns to positive ones. Let’s dive in

Recognize Faulty Thought Patterns

Most of our beliefs and thoughts tend to be more on the negative side. These faulty thought patterns can lead to mental disorders like anxiety and depression.
 
The author Earl Nightingale said, “We become what we think.” So, why are you letting your negative thoughts dictate how you live your life?
 
Below are some of the more common negative patterns of thought many of us suffer from. Get a pen and paper and write down which of them you most relate to.
 
Once you’ve identified them, you can start to transform them from the negative to the positive.
 
Minimizing achievements and maximizing simple errors
*Catastrophizing future outcomes All-or-nothing dichotomous thinking
*Generalizing people and situations
*Filtering out positive statements and focusing only on the negative

Foster Healthy Habits

When you do something often enough it becomes a habit. The more you do it, the more likely you’ll keep doing it in the future.
 
Thought patterns are the same way. The more you think in a certain way, the more you’ll likely keep thinking about it the same way over and over again.
 
Soon enough, it’ll start to consume your day-to-day living. The science behind it is that each thought ignites a chemical reaction in your brain.
 
This process then triggers a certain emotion.
 
As a result, your emotions send a signal to your body and then you react. This cycle repeats itself until you realize you’re not living the life you want for yourself.
 
You can’t even recognize who you are anymore.
 
Think Good Thoughts
Marcus Aurelius’ quote rings true here, “A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it.”
It’s then that you should decide to make a change.
 
Recondition yourself by recognizing negative thoughts and how they affect your emotions.
 
This thinking about your thinking is what psychologists refer to as metacognition. It’s one of the best ways to find out what’s causing your thought patterns.
 
As with most things, reconditioning your thoughts takes time. Brace yourself for a few bumps along the way but stick with it.
 
You’ll realize it’s the only way to become aware of the link between your thoughts, emotions, and behavior. Only then will you be able to regain control and live the life you deserve.

Seek Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is an effective tool for dealing with certain mental disorders. This type of therapy focuses on the idea that our thoughts, behavior, and emotions are all linked.
 
The best thing about CBT is it’s all about your present, rather than focusing on past events. After all, it was Ralph Waldo Emerson who wrote, “A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
 
Through CBT, you learn how to challenge negative thoughts and behaviors. CBT is also unique in that it assigns practical work outside each session.
 
It’s a great way to see first-hand how thoughts influence behavior. You’ll be able to start living with intention.

Check out some of the most common CBT strategies:

*Exposure: Coming face-to-face with your fears to confront and overcome stress and apprehension
*Mindfulness: Focusing on the present moment through steady breathing and your five senses
*Skills training: Practicing certain skills through role-playing, modeling, and mock scenarios

The Takeaway

Now, it’s time for a little challenge. Become more conscious of your thoughts, both the good and the bad.
 
Negative thoughts hold you back from living life to the fullest. They keep you shackled in a tiring cycle of self-doubt, fear, and panic.
 
On the flip side, positive thoughts make you feel good about yourself. They lift your mood, boost your motivation, and encourage you to work hard.
 
So, work on rewiring your brain to think happy, positive thoughts. Getting started may be difficult in the beginning, but it’s worth it in the long run.
 
Your future self will thank you!
 
JohnK 12-20-2021
 
 
Stick figure hears about thoughtsOverheard: “Our thoughts make us what we are”
                             ~Dale Carnegie
 
 
 
 
 
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