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Change Your Beliefs – AND Your Behaviors, Too

August 17, 2020 John Uncategorized No comments

Your beliefs can and sometimes do change. The process of living has a way of forcing us to see things with new eyes.

If so, remember to consider these GenuLines points to bring your behavior in line with your beliefs.

Change Your Beliefs – AND Your Behaviors, Too

A powerful enough event can change even your closest held beliefs. It could have been something traumatizing.

Or something minor, like reading a blog post.

But a change in thinking doesn’t mean you’ll change your behaviors to match your beliefs. For example, you read how successful entrepreneurs master time management.

It sounds great, but you don’t act to change your disorganized behavior.

Or you might find a new way of dieting, and you start noticing the many unhealthy things people eat. Then again, you might not actually be eating the healthiest yourself.

And you might want better treatment, while still being a bit unpleasant to those around you.This kind of behavior can hurt your relationships with your friends and family.

And it can kick up your stress, too.

Practice what you preach or those around you will see you as a hypocrite. They’ll only accept your beliefs if you reflect them in an accurate way.

It can be difficult, though, to make these changes. When you realize that you’re not behaving as you believe you should be, it can be hard to change your actual behavior.

Spend time every day thinking about what changes you want to make. Then dedicate time to following through with those changes.

It won’t happen right away – it’ll take a few weeks for you to get used to changing your behavior.

In the meantime, ask a friend or family member to help you focus on this change and keep you on track.

When you start acting as you believe you should, you’ll find that you’re happier with who you are as a person. You’ll feel better about the quality of your personality.

And your social life will improve.

The accurate display of your beliefs will make you seem more trustworthy. Folks then show you more respect.

You did the hard yards. And now you’re actually following through on what you say.

JohnK 8-17-2020

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Overheard: “Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is”

~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Your Children May Not Trust Themselves

October 8, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

You say you don’t trust yourself? Did you know that the same feelings can filter down to your kids too?

Your Children May Not Trust Themselves

Lack of self-trust is far from uncommon. It’s possible that you developed this tendency while you were growing up.

You can pick it up as a kid and carry it into your adult life. You pass it on to your kids, and they do the same to theirs.

Your actions and exchanges may be subtle. Your kids will hear what you and your spouse talk about as well as discussions by, or with, other family members.

You may well do things that you’re not even aware of, but your kids will pick up on those, too.

It’s a difficult situation because you want your kids to be safe. But you don’t want to suggest that they give a pass to everyone without question.

A delicate balance

Trusting yourself requires trusting others. That’s where the difficulty can creep in.

You’ve likely been burned by a few people enough times to warrant your caution. But, these experiences can also resonate with your children.

Aim for a balance. You want them to trust certain people while remaining mindful through the process.

Of course, you want to teach your kids always to be trustworthy themselves, even if others don’t respond in kind.

Minus that, self-trust will be near impossible.

If they let others down, they won’t have any reason to develop an internal trust. So you and your partner will want to doublecheck your own trustworthiness.

You may be trustworthy toward kids but not to other people. That can send the wrong signals to kids if you tell them they should be trustworthy to others.

It will leave them confused and unsure of what to do. In the long run, they’ll be untrustworthy, and they won’t develop self-trust.

Be sure to talk to your kids to help them develop the balance between caution and trust. If they have questions, be open to answering them.

Try not to take offense if they say you’re sending mixed signals with regards to trust. Find a balance and your kids will likely find it too.

Your family will have the necessary means to trust each other and yourselves. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely worth the effort.

You just have to keep at it.

JohnK 1-8-2019

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