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Is Your Own Negativity Affecting Your Friendships?

July 29, 2024 John Uncategorized No comments

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Is Your Own Negativity Affecting Your Friendships?

You’ll find lots of information online about how to do away with negative friendships. But what if the source of negativity is coming from you?

It isn’t always easy to recognize when you’re being negative. Some people have no idea how their negativity is impacting others.

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Today GenuLines looks at how your negativity could be affecting your friendships. We’ll also look at what you can do about it.

 

 

 

Are You a Negative Friend?

It isn’t always easy to see the negativity in ourselves. You can be unaware that you’re projecting negativity onto others.

So, how can you identify if you’re a negative friend?

Here’s a few signs to look out for:

You find it hard to maintain friendships.

You make plans knowing you’ll cancel them.

You don’t check in first or see how your friends are doing

Most conversations are about you

They don’t come to you for advice or support

Now, some of these signs may not be down to your own negativity. For example, you may not check in first with your friends.

This is because it always used to be you initiating contact. That alone would not make you a negative friend.

Many people find it hard to keep friends. Yet, if you generally find it easy to make friends and not keep them, there may be a problem.

Assess your friendships, including those from the past.

Is there a pattern, and could it be due to your negativity? Life gets busy and it isn’t always easy to keep in touch with friends.

But if you never contact anyone first, this is a sign you may be a negative friend.

Remember, friendships are a two-way street. Your friends need to know you care about them too.

The Impact Negativity Has on Friendships

So, why is it important to be a more positive friend? For starters, negativity can kill friendships.

Nobody wants to be around someone who always spouts negativity.

It brings down their mood, leading them to feel more depressed or drained after being around you. Another way negativity impacts friendships, is that it’s bad for the heart.

Studies have shown that negative friendships affect heart health. So, you could be impacting your friends’ health issues with your constant negativity.

These are only some of the problems you can cause if you are a negative friend.

When you bring negativity into your friendships, you won’t have strong relationships. Healthy friendships are important for our health and wellbeing.

So, if you do identify as a negative friend, now’s the time to start working on adjusting your mindset. It might not be easy; but, doing this will help you have much healthier and happier friendships.

JohnK 7-29-2024
www.chiforyourself.com

stick man hears about negativityOverheard: “Positive anything is better than negative nothing.”

                                                          – Elbert Hubbard

 

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Why Communication Is Such An Important Life Skill

April 17, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

As you progress through life, communication plays a major role. You might say it gets you where you want to go. 

Get on board with GenuLines as we take a closer look at this thing called communication. 

Why Communication Is Such An Important Life Skill

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Your communication skills can help take you far in both your career and your personal life. Now, you might be thinking technology makes these skills outdated.
 
But in today’s world, they’re even more important.
 
Come along with GenuLines as we show you what good communication can do for you.
 
 
 
 
Improve Your Social Life
It’s obvious that being a good communicator can improve your social life. It impacts loved ones, from friends to significant others to family members.
 
When you communicate well, you also tend to listen well. The two go hand in hand.
 
You tend to have fewer disagreements, dramas, and fights. You’re better prepared to make your feelings known in a clear and concise way.
 
You’ll be more able to get to the source of your problems instead of letting them linger or spiral out of control.
Improve Your Professional Life
Successful people tend to blend good effective leadership with good communicating ability. Leaders at work are responsible for guiding, informing, and managing their workforce.
 
They have to be able to communicate what they need to do, how they need to do it, and then make corrections when necessary. It takes excellent communication skills to get that job done.
Make You a Better Person
As we said earlier, excellent communication skills help you to be a better listener. and have less conflict because you’re better prepared to resolve issues. This improves your friendships and relationships, making them stronger and longer-lasting.
 
You listen more and better and you don’t hold on to bad feelings. You communicate them and do it well.
 
You’re a good friend, employee, leader, and a better person all around.
Get things done
This includes how you work through problems, discuss issues, and finish projects. Constant electronic contact may cause you to neglect your communication skills.
 
But you need those same skills to succeed in electronic communication as you do in person. Work on these points to improve your relationships, your career, and your life on the whole.
 
Honing your communication skills can do a lot to improve your life and make you a better and happier person.
 
JohnK 4/17/2023
 
stick man hears about communicationOverheard: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place”
                            ~George Bernard Shaw
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Break Down the “Walls” and Give Life to Your Purpose

September 23, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikWanted to remind you that CHI FOR YOURSELF continues the series on finding your “why.” I hope you’re using some of the suggestions in each post to help you get to your genuine place. A place that’s waiting to yield your purpose and direction in life.

A few years ago on CHI FOR YOURSELF we heard from a guest who had to face some big challenges before her genuine life could flourish. Barbara Hofmeister is a refugee from former Communist Germany and knows first-hand what it’s like to be living in adverse circumstances. Hear the replay by clicking on this player:

 

 

Enjoy your weekend!

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JohnK 9-23-2016

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Got Resol-YOU-tions ?

January 1, 2013 John Uncategorized No comments

 

Ready..set..2013!

We’re off to the resolution races- lose 20 pounds, move to a nicer address, take that tropical vacation.

As we move into another year I know that many of us are asking: What is it that really matters this year?

Are your New Year’s resolutions about the small things–getting organized, losing weight, getting in shape, being a little kinder…or about something wider and deeper?

There’s nothing wrong with making small commitments, but are they enough for you and who you intend to become, what you know you must do in this world?

Or are you ready to step into something bigger and more radical–daring to fulfill your passion to evolve not only a better self, but a better world and a more enlightened future?

May I suggest some inward inspection to start the process? Ask yourself:

  • What is happening in my life?
  • How is my health?
  • How is/are my relationship(s)? Really, how are they?
  • How are my finances? Do I enjoy my work?

Just a few ideas to take care of the inner self so that the outer results might be more satisfying.
Happy New Year!

 

JohnK  1-1-2013

 

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