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Self-Doubt And What You Can Do About It

March 5, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

Have you ever wrestled with self-doubt? That might seem like a silly question.

Most people doubt themselves at some point in their lives. Scroll down for some good words from GenuLines on dealing with self-doubt.

Self-Doubt And What You Can Do About It

Why do people engage in self-doubt? The reason is that it’s easier to doubt yourself than it is to believe that something is possible.

You may believe in your concept, but it’s something that hasn’t materialized yet. It’s unfamiliar territory for you.

Our protection mechanisms tell us to reach for something that’s familiar. We use this as a reason to quit.

The unknown also helps us to come up with excuses. It’s easy to say it won’t work because, and then insert whatever reason can set your mind at ease.

You can even find help from others in coming up with excuses. They have plenty of them for you to choose from.

If they didn’t, they would be succeeding at their goals.

A survival mechanism

Sometimes self-doubt can help us survive. For instance, someone tells you that you can jump off a cliff and survive.

Your self-doubt probably jumps in and tells you this is a bad idea. Self-doubt can sometimes keep you from making bad financial decisions.

This might be an opportunity that sounds too good to be true.

In most cases, self-doubt is not something that will advance your life. It will hold you back, and you need always to be aware of that.

Don’t take the easy way out. Do prepare yourself as much as possible for unfamiliar situations.

But, go forward with a strong belief that you can complete what you set out to do.

Try to structure your life so that you have more positive than negative energy. Flush out as much negative energy as possible.

Use affirmations, support groups, or whatever works for you.

Negative energy is what self-doubt is all about. Two forces are opposing each other.

If you have 100% negative energy that means you have 0% positive energy. Try to tip the scale toward as much positivity as possible and push away the negativity.

No shortage of negative energy

It’s unlikely that you can ever have 100% positive energy. But, you can work towards exposing yourself to positive energy.

You can stop listening to or reading the news, and you can reduce your exposure to negative people. Positive people do exist.

You just need to find them.

JohnK 3-5-2019

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Overheard: “Every time I start a picture I feel the same fear, the same self-doubts, and I have only one source on which I can draw. Because it comes from within me”

~ Federico Fellini

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Happy Ways Are Here Again: Happiness as a Matter of Choice

May 29, 2014 John Uncategorized No comments

Be with us for today’s Chi For Yourself and guest Daniel Parmeggiani. Daniel is the author of The Magnificent Truths of Our Existence: Unlocking the Deeper Reality of Permanent Happiness.

Daniel Parmeggiani

The interview can be heard live at 1pm Pacific time at www.chiforyourself.com

Overheard

” Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared”

Buddha

Article: The Simplicity of Choosing Happiness
In our new age of spirituality, where east meets west in the modern labyrinth of mental and spiritual healing, two clear definitions to happiness remain; (1) that happiness is a value synonymous with well-being and thriving, and (2) as opposed to depression, it is something we as humans seek. In essence happiness itself remaining the primary goal – and more elusive.

Psychological research suggests that each individual has what is called a ‘Happiness Set-point’ (HSP) determining overall well-being; happier when things balance our inner HSP and quite unhappy (even miserable), when things go against us, or fall short of it. We alone draw that line and in so doing compound our intrinsic belief, that sentience has a right to happiness, no matter what. Even an animal (and our basic survival instincts) will seek comfort against pain, to find it.

Evidence from research shows that 40% of our happiness is within our control and a voluntary choice we make. Psychologist William James, adds that it is our attitude that hinders or helps us reach our HSP. It seems that it is a natural human reflex to alter our attitude to achieve it. We want to maintain our HSP at all costs. Ironically, the indifference of the depressed, is a matter of ongoing research on lower HSP levels as per socio-economic standards, environmental and chemical imbalance.

Biblical and Buddhist philosophy maintain that all happiness comes from seeking it, yet ironically, a principle point of Buddhism is that all striving is suffering. This would explain why realistic goals are paramount, as true happiness may only be achieved through the balance of effort and suffering, and not the eternal ‘good-time’ that modern pop-psychology would have us believe. Being happier takes effort, especially if it’s a choice we make and maintain with mindfulness. Without effort, one can argue that happiness is hollow and not happiness at all.
Transformation might well be as simple as ‘Seek and ye shall find’ and no matter your labour to your HSP (health, diet, supplements; yoga and exercise; meditation, gratitude, education, journals, self-help, new-age, and/or new-thought mindfulness); the bottom line is that you are still only partaking in the most natural human birth-right of our species. Best to keep it simple.

JohnK 5-29-2014

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