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Stop Relying Too Much on Others

May 21, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

If you have difficulty trusting yourself, you may be too dependent on others. The situation can grow and you become dependent on more and more people.

GenuLines knows that can present problems when called upon to handle situations on your own, so read for some helpful ideas.

Stop Relying Too Much on Others

Have you ever let someone else take over a part of your job? You may feel relief when this happens.

But you could be setting yourself up for future failure. The reason this happens is that you didn’t trust that you could do the job yourself.

In the above scenario, you’re taking on something outside of your comfort zone. It may be that your boss wants to test how you will handle a new situation.

He or she gives you an assignment knowing that you have never dealt with it before.

It’s natural to ask others for help when you find yourself in unfamiliar territory. There’s nothing wrong with doing this.

But there’s little growth in letting others solve problems for you. You won’t develop the self-trust for handling new situations.

And your manager will see that you, for the most part, passed the assignment to someone else.

Positivity helps
Face your new challenges with positivity. Be willing to make an attempt even if you make mistakes.

The mistakes are the tools for you to learn. When you do make those mistakes, ask what you did wrong.

Over time, those mistakes will get less and less, and you’ll begin to trust that you can handle the situations.

There’s a subtle result of trying something new. You’ll prove that you can handle new tasks and develop new skills.

That’s enlightening and it’s a big factor in developing trust in yourself.

Every skill you are now good at and find easy you probably struggled with at the start. If you keep this in mind, you will give yourself over to trusting that you can handle anything that comes your way.

You’ll need less reliance on others. But you still should ask questions when you are unsure about something.

That’s another part of learning.

Some people may give you a hard time because it’s inconvenient. But, you’ll find most people want to help you succeed.

It helps them when you get up to speed with new skills.

JohnK 5-21-2019
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Show Others How to Appreciate the Small Things

May 7, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

Life gives us lots to appreciate. People who forget that can become bitter over time.

But you can set an example for them. Today GenuLines looks at some ways to do it.

Show Others How to Appreciate the Small Things

Your gratitude for life’s gifts can help you show others how to do the same. You don’t have to go overboard.

You can make occasional references to how you enjoy your life and give reasons why. Relate experiences about your weekend to your colleagues.

Then tell why you appreciate them.

Stay as positive as you can, even if the bitter people are negative. That’s not easy since negative people can sour the moods of the people around them.

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But, your positive outlook can cancel out that negative behavior.

People appreciate listeners

They haven’t been able to get their problems off their chest. These problems often build, which stokes their bitterness.

They feel as though no one is listening and no one cares about them. But playing the role of advisor can be the wrong tactic to use.

Be a listener. It’ll make a world of difference.

Invite them to events after work. Understand that it may take some time before they say yes to your invitations.

Bitter people often become reclusive. Keep inviting them, and over time you may break down their barriers.

Don’t pressure them. That will make them more reclusive.

Talk activities

Get them talking about their hobbies or their favorite sports. Even if they aren’t active in these events, ask about past experiences.

When they start talking it may re-ignite a spark. That can be a great starting point in helping them get through their issues.

Some people will never let down their guard, and that’s unfortunate. They’ve stopped living life, and they don’t appreciate any aspect of it.

But there’s hope for some. Even changing one life is a force for good.

They’ll become more pleasant to be around. And they may get to the point where they’ll help others who’ve lost their way.

JohnK 5-7-2019

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Overheard: When the crowd appreciates you, it encourages you to be a little more daring, I think.
~ Julius Erving

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Helping Others Deal with Adversity

April 30, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

At some point in your life, you’re going to experience adversity. It teaches you that you have the strength to overcome most anything that comes your way.

Sometimes, others you know may need help when dealing with their adverse situations. GenuLines reminds you that your experience of self-help puts you in a good position to offer them help.

Helping Others Deal with Adversity

The people you’re trying to help may need to open up about their situation. If they’re denying that it’s occurring, it’s going to be difficult to help them.

They won’t accept your offers of help because they don’t believe anything is wrong. Or worse, they’ll get angry with you for even suggesting something is wrong.

A helpful approach

There’s a way to help them realize they have a problem. Ask them how they would handle a similar situation if they needed to help someone else.

This gets them to focus on an outside entity, even if fictitious. This lets them start the process of identifying the problem.

It doesn’t guarantee that they’ll come around. But it can get the process started.

Helping people to recognize the problem helps them take action.

You may want to search for help online. Research before they do so that you can help them when they get to that point of doing the research themselves.

It’s not a bad idea to learn more about the situation. You’ll be better able to help them.

Your adversity experience

If you’ve dealt with the specific situation before, that will speed the process. The person you’re helping can ask questions about your experiences and what you did to cope or get through it.

You will likely have a list of resources prepared from your experiences. You can volunteer to go with them to any support groups or meetings.

But once they get started they may be able to do it alone.

Helping others deal with adversity is not an easy task. You should expect to get resistance, especially in the beginning.

But, if you can get them to see the problem, they may be ready to take action towards the recovery process. It can be rewarding to know that you helped people start on their road to recovery.

JohnK 4-30-2019

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