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How Reducing Distractions Can Build Stronger Relationships

February 20, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

Distractions in your life can hurt your relationships. There’s help for this. And today GenuLines will show you some ways to bring this about. . 

How Reducing Distractions Can Build Stronger Relationships

Spending undistracted time with people will build stronger relationships. You’ll have time to devote to each other in more effective and productive ways.
 
It doesn’t matter whether it’s a working relationship or a personal relationship. 

Enjoy Improved Communication

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Take time to talk to people minus distractions from screens or other activities. This is most conducive to real conversation.

You’ll learn each other’s communication styles better.
 
And you’ll start understanding each other more. Knowing what the other person means when they talk to you helps all aspects of the relationship.

 

 

Have More Fun 

It’s more fun to be with people when you’re not having to answer your phone or look at screens. The few times you get together will be exclusive and without distractions.

Build Positive Memories 

When you look back on your life you’re not going to with you had more time with gadgets or small concerns. Instead, you’ll focus on the memories you’ve built with those closest to you.
 
You can’t make memories if you aren’t focused on the event or person.

Discover More Shared Interests 

Remove distractions from your dealings with others and you’ll
learn more about who they are. You’re quicker to find common ground.
 
When you have more shared interests relationship satisfaction improves.

Foster a Sense of Commitment 

When we connect to our community and environment, we’re a lot more devoted to it. Human nature is that way, even if we don’t want to do the activity in question.

Feel Happier 

Studies using couples and families showed interesting results. They found that spending quality time minus distractions brought more happiness.
 
And they have longer-lasting relationships than those who don’t.

Reduce Stress 

Distraction causes stress, and stress causes so many other problems – even physical illness. If you want to reduce your stress level, consider making lifestyle changes.
 
Ones that allows you to focus only on each activity you’re in as you’re in it.
 
Do the same with relationships. If it’s at work, find an electronics free place to talk.
 
At your work meeting, ask everyone to turn off unnecessary distractions. If it’s your family and friends, make a concerted effort to spend this time together without an agenda.
 
And ditch the distractions. you’ll be happy you did.
 
JohnK 2-20-2023
 
stick man hears about distractionsOverheard: Happiness can only be found if you can free yourself of all other distractions.                                     
                                ~Saul Bellow
 
 
 
Article image by Breakingpic: https://www.pexels.com/photo/car-music-audio-controls-3102/
 
 
 
 
 
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How Changing Your Mindset Can Improve Your Life

January 2, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

Is it time to re-consider your mindset? The beginning of the year is a good time to give it some thought. 

While you think it over keep these GenuLines tips close at hand.

How Changing Your Mindset Can Improve Your Life

“See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it. It always works, it works every time, with every person.” – Bob Proctor
 
I’m guessing that you don’t often think about how your mindset affects your life. You’ve always thought this way.
 
Either because of your upbringing or other circumstances.
 
This in fact does affect your life. By changing how you think you can improve your life.
 
boy changes his mindset
 
 
Abundance mindset, scarcity mindset, fear mindset, fixed mindset, growth mindset, and confident mindset. These of some of the different types of mindsets we have.
 
Each unconscious and conscious belief affects our lives every moment.

Self Improvement

Here are some ways changing your mindset to an abundance or growth mindset can improve your life.
 
You aren’t afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Changing to a growth mindset allows you to see the many paths available to you in whatever you’re seeking.
 
These can include job advancement, creative outlets or something more personal. This allows you to move forward rather than being stuck in the same place.
 
When you make these changes, you see there are plenty of resources to go around. Now, there will be competition, but you’ll see the opportunities in every aspect of your life.
 
You become comfortable sharing ideas without feeling threatened or intimidated. This leads to better choices, environments and relationships.
 
You aren’t afraid of being a part of a team and participating in group situations.

Relationships

Setting your sights on growth helps you build better personal and romantic relationships. You realize people will always have differences.
 
You find that a relationship involves learning about and from each other. And you grow together and develop skills to work well together.
 
You’ll begin to judge yourself and others less. You won’t have time to waste on judging what others are saying or doing. Instead you’ll be focusing on making progress in your life.
 
The growth mindset has you accepting constructive criticism for what it is and using it for growth. It helps you be more confident because you won’t need validation to reassure you that you’re doing it right.

You Can Change 

And it will improve your life. You can cultivate, learn, practice and grow new skills.
 
You no longer worry about what will happen. Instead you’ll commit to the process of doing, finishing and learning along the way.
 
Your growth will help you become a better person. Your skills will grow and you’ll build relationships.
 
You’ll step out of your comfort zone to go after what you want and believe you’ll get it.
 
JohnK 1-2-2023
 
stick man hears about mindsetOverheard: “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other”
                                  ~Audrey Hepburn
 
 
 
 
 
 

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How To Make Wellness A Habit In Every Part Of Your Day

October 17, 2022 John Uncategorized No comments

You’re making positive changes in your habits. Have you included the wellness habit? 

You can make this second nature as GenuLines will show you today. .

How To Make Wellness A Habit In Every Part Of Your Day

You can become distracted by what life throws at you. This leads you to neglect your own well-being.
 
Days can be fast paced. But seldom do you slow down to think about the importance of maintaining your well being.sign urges good habits
 
Stress is commonplace in this scenario. Driving to work in gridlock traffic can make you a basket case.
 
But you can make better choices and develop good habits to make wellness a part of your every day routine…
Make a Decision and Stick to it
First, you’ll need to make the decision to live a healthy lifestyle. This is a step that many people avoid.
 
They end up giving up and reverting back to their original way of everyday living. Wellness is a decision (As simplistic as it seems) and it’s a necessary one.
How Can We Make Wellness a Habit?
Doing something over and over again until it becomes ingrained within makes it a habit. It’s like you’re rewired to now make choices without thinking.
 
So, here’s a few ways you can make wellness a habit every single day…
 
Set an alarm clock.
 
Make healthy diet choices.
 
Plan an exercise routine.
 
Make time every day to do one thing you enjoy.
 
Spend more time with friends and family.
 
If you do this every day as often as you can you’ll notice improved wellness. Being disciplined is the best way to go about it.
 
Especially in the fast-paced world we’re so accustomed to.
Alarm clock
Setting an alarm clock to wake up early is a good way to start your day. You’ll know exactly why you’re waking up early… to get things done!
Diet
The nutritional choices you make are crucial to physical wellness. Feeding your body live foods (Vegetables, fruits, lean meats, grains etc.) will make you feel good.
 
And they’ll give you energy for the days ahead.
Daily exercise
The benefits of exercise are wide ranging. From improving mental health to creating stronger and more capable bodies
 
And there’s more. Exercise helps prevent chronic disease like Type 2 Diabetes, Heart Disease and Osteoporosis.
Enjoy life
We tend to get too focused on things like work, personal issues, relationships etc. . But why can’t we take the time to laugh and enjoy being in the moment?
 
It’s so important to relieve stress by putting worry aside for a little bit each day to focus on leisure activity. We’re not meant to always be in fight or flight mode.
 
Having leisure time can bring down accumulated stress levels.
Have healthy relationships
The relationships we develop and maintain in life are essential for wellness. Having a sense of worth often comes from the love and appreciation of others.
 
We want to get along with others and function as a society. Friends and family can give a nice boost to our self-confidence and happiness, too.
 
Make Wellness a Daily Habit
Make a decision to live every day in a state of wellness.  At the very least, you’ll have a good start in creating healthy everyday habits.
 
Good habits can take you far. Wellness is a determining factor in your ability to be productive and effective.
 
JohnK 10-17-2022
 
stick man hears about habit formingOverheard: “All people are the same; only their habits differ”
                              ~Confucius
 
 
 
 
Article image by Drew Beamer on Unsplash
 
 
 
 
 
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What Exactly Is a Bad Habit?

August 30, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

Do you have a bad habit or two, or more? Let GenuLines help you as we take a closer look at them. 

See if any of these are holding you back. 

What Exactly Is a Bad Habit?

For the most part, a bad habit is something that you do again and again,. Something you can stop doing when you decide to, and that society has deemed to be bad.

 
picture of a bad habit
 
Often it breaks laws, customs, or some societal moral code. Most of us think that bad habits are something you should avoid.
 
This is because they can often affect your health and wellness. There are different categories of bad habits.
 
Let’s look at the most common ones.

 

 

* Time-Wasting Habits

These include not putting things where they go. Or not creating a home for everything you own.
 
And not keeping your stuff organized. Wasting time can end up affecting your downtime because you still have to make time for work.
 
* Unhealthy Habits
As an example there’s eating unhealthy snacks every night. Watching lots of TV instead of doing physical things.
 
And avoiding regular doctor visits. 

* Lost Productivity Habits 

Lack of a morning routine and some sort of schedule hurts your productivity. These types of bad habits are for the most part a lack of good habits.

* Habits That Harm Your Financial Health

Habits like gambling can ruin your financial health today. Overspending is often started by a bad habit of not minding your finances.
 
* Habits That Impede Your Social Life
For some people, bad habits can hurt their social life. Being late and slighting others are two examples.

* Habits That Harm Others

Some people develop habits that harm themselves as well as others. For example, a smoking habit can hurt you and those around you (especially kids).
 
* Habits That Ruin Relationships
Some people allow their habits to even ruin their relationships. Being sloppy, unclean, and not thinking of others can ruin many relationships.
 
Especially if you’re late a lot or gossip too much.
 
* Gross Habits
Smoking and nail-biting come to mind when it comes to gross habits. So does nose picking, picking your toes with your fingers, and other rude behavior.
 
It’s best not do them in public (and some not even in private). If you do have these habits, you can stop them with a plan.
 
Bad habits are those that are not good for you or anyone else around you – whether human, animal or the environment.
 
JohnK 8-30-2021
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stick man hears about bad habitsOverheard: “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.”
 
                                    ~Stephen R. Covey
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Tips To Help You Start (or maintain) A Healthy Relationship

April 11, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobik talking relationshipsSpring is a time that tends to be associated with relationships. (Love is in the air, etc) And maybe it’s time for you to think about your relationship. Naturally, CHI FOR YOURSELF doesn’t look at relationships in the usual, greeting card kind of way.

 

Bringing a special person into your life (or keeping someone in your life) involves mindfulness. 

There are some simple but important points to keep your attention on when a relationship is on your mind. So CHI FOR YOURSELF has put together a brief report on relationships. It’s free and you can get it by clicking on this FREE STUFF link. 

 

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And watch for more helpful offerings from ChiForYourself.com! 

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Your Relationship and Your SELF: And We Welcome Tatiana Jerome

April 3, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobik talking relationshipsYou may have noticed that our latest CHI FOR YOURSELF episode and recent GenuLines blog posts have been stressing relationships. Particular emphasis has been put on nurturing the “self.” 

CHI FOR YOURSELF wants you to have a special report on bringing love into your life. You can find the first chapter if you scroll down this page. You’ll get free access to the rest of the report in a coming GenuLines blog post. 

As for our latest episode of CHI FOR YOURSELF with Tatiana Jerome, you can hear it by clicking on the player–

 

 


 

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Tatiana Jerome

Tatiana Jerome is the author of LOVE LOSE, LOVE FOUND: A Woman’s Guide to Letting Go of the Past and Finding New Love.

 

 

 

Here’s a look at some of the takeaway points from the program:

  • Tatiana thought her relationship was fine
  • Knowing when it’s time to go
  • The relationship with your “self”
  • Actions are less important that patterns
  • Looking for love online
  • Attract rather than pursue

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Chapter 1: 
Basics of Attracting Love
Synopsis 
LoversSilhouette and relationships
For most people having a relationship that contains both respect for the other’s feelings and the ability to freely express affection would be important concerns.  
 
 
But with so many external pressures it’s often very hard to focus on creating the ideal relationship based on these two vital aspects.  
 
Making the intention to include this respect as part of your lives will give you the opportunity to maintain your relationship as one of meaning and purpose.  
 
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The Basics 
 
Understand that making a conscious effort to create a healthy partnership is a good starting point. This helps each person involved to do their best to ensure the relationship has the potential for strength and longevity.  
 
This may at times leave you feeling that you’re going “the extra mile” for your partner. Consider it a good opportunity to sharpen your giving skills. 
 
Attracting love may require some initial physical and spiritual contributions on your part. The reassurance of compassion or empathy or a well-timed touch (tasteful, of course!) can go a long way toward tilling the soil of a fertile relationship.  
 
JohnK 4-3-2017
 
 
 
Clipart image of overheard man and relationshipsOverheard: “No road is long with good company.”
                      ~Turkish Proverb

 

 

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Introverts And Extroverts: Who’s More Confident?

March 27, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments
 
 
 
When we think of introverts and extroverts, we might describe introverts as shy or antisocial and extroverts as outgoing. But this is not entirely accurate. Yes, some introverts may be shy, but being an introvert does not necessarily make you shy.
 
The real difference between introverts and extroverts is the location from which they get their energy. In other words, introverts draw their energy from and recharge by spending time alone in their thoughts. They still enjoy people. But they can find this draining and prefer quieter environments. Introverts prefer being with a few close friends. Extroverts, on the other hand, get their energy from being around others and often with large groups of people.
 
Extroverts tend to jump into things and talk out loud to problem solve while performing an activity. Introverts, however, think and reflect before taking action.
 
Although it would seem that extroverts are more confident than introverts, this is not necessarily the case. In fact, many extroverts and introverts feel the same way – apprehensive when in a new situation. Therefore, you cannot assume that just because someone is introverted, that he has less confidence than the extroverted person in the room.
 
Unfortunately, the outside world gives the impression that it’s better to be extroverted than introverted. We might even encourage this in young children. Most people have a combination of characteristics but are predominately one or the other.
 
So how can introverts demonstrate their confidence in a world that reveres extroversion?
 
1. Socialize for short periods
 
First of all, remember that there is nothing wrong with being introverted. However, there are times when you may find it’s necessary to get together with large groups of people.
 
An example of a situation where this might be necessary is your spouse’s holiday work party. You prefer quiet, small get-togethers with a few friends or a quiet evening of watching a movie. However, it means a lot to your spouse to have you attend, so the two of you decide to compromise – you will go, but only for a few hours. This means mingling and socializing with more people than usual. If you think it sounds like you have to be phony, that is not the case.
 
Consider this. If you’re feeling grumpy and you start smiling at everyone (the action), you soon start feeling happy (the feeling). It’s the same with this. Although it will feel weird at first, act like you enjoy mingling and socializing with a large group of people, and you will feel like you do.
 
Because you’re likely to be drained after several hours of interactions with others, plan to be there only for a short amount of time (ex. no more than three hours). Then you can go home where it’s quiet and you can recharge.
 
2. Don’t ignore people
 
Maybe you work as an accountant. It’s the type of position which might minimize interaction with others. However, parts of your workday may still involve human contact, as you have to interact with your receptionist or other employees. It would be a drain on your energy to act like an extrovert all the time when you’re at work. No one expects that, and it’s not realistic. But be a friendly and interactive introvert. Say “hello” to people you work with.
 
Ask them about their families, and offer information about yours. This allows your confidence to shine through too. People will respect you more and respond better to you if they feel that you’re interested in them. They’ll also see you as more approachable and they’re less likely to consider it weird when you say that you need to work alone or need some quiet time.
 
Another idea is related to lunchtime at work. You may not enjoy eating lunch in a group because you find that mentally draining. However, you may be able to compromise by spending ten minutes with the group, and the other 20 minutes on your own recharging. That way, people get to know the real you – the friendly, but introverted, person – and you still get quiet time to yourself to recharge before returning to work.
 
JohnK 3-27-2017
 

Lost Love, Found Creativity, and the Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

March 20, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobik on being happierRelationship break-up. You’ve probably faced it somewhere along the line. Maybe you’re going through it now. Our next scheduled CHI FOR YOURSELF guest had a bad experience with a relationship breakup.

 

But she faced her pain and challenges, even acknowledging what she did to contribute to the relationship’s failure.

Tatiana Jerome began to heal and move beyond a broken heart to a better understanding of what would make her happy, and, most of all, of the type of love she deserved.

Tatiana Jerome is the author of LOVE LOST, LOVE FOUND: A Woman’s Guide to Letting Go of the Past and Finding New Love.

 

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CHI FOR YOURSELF with guest Tatiana Jerome- Thursday March 30th at 4 pm Eastern, 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

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Many people seem to have the mistaken idea that only a select few are able to unleash a steady flow of creative genius. This probably comes from the idea of ‘personality types’ that leads us to think our personality and style of working are set in stone.
 
That is not true at all. Our so-called personality type is simply a set of behavior patterns that we adopted in order to meet the different challenges of our early lives. Those behavior patterns can be changed.
 
LIST OF CREATIVE IDEAS

 

JohnK 3-21-2017

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7 Days To A Better Happier You

March 13, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments
picture of john kobik on being happierStressful times don’t exactly churn out happier people. But, CHI FOR YOURSELF knows that happiness is an inside job. You can bypass society’s noise if you keep some points in mind. These will help you get to your “happy place.”
 
 
7 Days To A Better Happier You
 
So what is the aim of personal development? To make you a better person, or to make you a happier person? Hopefully, it’s both.
 
One of the most important things to realize is that happiness is not something that other people bring you like a birthday gift. It comes from living in line with your own ethical values in a way that brings you closer to your personal goals. 
 
So here are 7 steps you can take to bring you closer to happiness over the next week.
 
1. Know your purpose 
 
Are you wandering through life with little direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health, and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.
 
This may seem tricky at first when you find yourself in a tight corner or facing a dead end. But identifying your purpose will help you to find the way out, even when it seems there isn’t one.
 
2. Know your values 
 
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for the year, check your goals against your values. If a goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values, you may want to reconsider it or revise it.
 
3. Know your needs 
 
Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be heard, to be fed, to be loved in some way that is not being met right now? There are so many people who live their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed. List your top five needs and be creative in thinking of ways you could have them be met. It’s never too late!
 
4. Know your passions
 
You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm may hinder you, but need not prevent you from becoming the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become who you are.
 
5. Live from the inside out 
 
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. At times it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want, even in our own home. You may choose to meditate, to walk in a quiet place or to sit and listen to gentle music. Silence does not necessarily mean no sound at all but it does require a certain inner silence.
 
6. Honor your strengths 
 
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List five of them – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you recognize your skills and use them to teach or share with others.
 
7. Serve others  
 
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop a sense of being connected with all forms of life. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you are expressing your spirit, your essence. At the same time, you are able to connect with the essential good in others. At this point, serving others is no longer a chore.
 
We can’t change others. We can only change ourselves and thus live more peacefully and happily with the circumstances of our lives. 
 
JohnK 3-13-2017
 
 

Clipart image of overheard on happier lifeOverheard:   “To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”                                 ~Albert Camus

 
 
 
 

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done: Day 5

February 24, 2017 John Uncategorized No comments


picture of john kobik for how to get things doneThis Day 5 of our “Get Things Done” series wraps up the week’s offerings. As promised there are some actionable steps, too. And some reading for you if you want to look further into this topic. 

Your transformation is what CHI FOR YOURSELF is all about. So, use this information. And know that you’ll be seeing more in the weeks to come. If you subscribe to GenuLines you’ll get these types of posts along with info on CHI FOR YOURSELF guests and show details. Just go to the top right side of this page and leave your email address in the box provided. 

Be well!

 

TOP TIPS

Do you want to be more productive? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly.

 

9. Relax: This may sound counter-intuitive but relaxing does help increase your productivity! Learn how to relax and spend regular periods of time out during the day. This personal time will give you the opportunity to focus on yourself and your needs. They will lessen stress and anxiety.

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10. Be an Early Riser: The most successful people tend to be early risers. They have discovered that by getting up earlier they not only achieve more in their day, the day
starts in a more controlled and productive manner. Use the time to meditate, exercise, read or learn something.

You can become more productive if you use the tips above. If you’re not sure where to start, then complete the action points below right now.
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FURTHER READING

 

1. The Productivity Project: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0345815777/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=0345815777&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

2. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00KWG9M2E/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin _il_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=B00KWG9M 2E&linkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

3. How to be a Productivity Ninja: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1848316836/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=1848316836&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

4. Extreme Productivity: Boost Your Results, Reduce Your Hours: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062188534/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=0062188534&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20


5. The 5 Choices: The Path to Extraordinary Productivity: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1476711712/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=1476711712&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

 

JohnK 2-24-2017

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