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Live Your Best Life: Focus On What Matters Most

August 22, 2022 John Uncategorized No comments

You’re living a pretty good life. But there’s room for improvement.

Ratchet things up a bit with this GenuLines look at where you’re putting your focus. 

Live Your Best Life: Focus On What Matters Most

Have you ever noticed how fast our days seem to race by? We wake up, bombarded with an insane amount of things we have to get done.

Then, before you know it, the day’s done. Having the world at your fingertips doesn’t help to slow things down.
 
It only adds to the chaos.
 
Today, I want to focus on what matters most in our lives. That could mean different things for different people.
 
man living life
 
Still, each one of us has certain things we value more than others.
 
So, read ahead to find out how you can live your best life by focusing more on the things that matter.

The Most Important Things in Life

Having status and designer shoes are great and everything. But having them won’t make you any happier or healthier than the average person.
 
Another thing we tend to obsess over is what we don’t have. Sometimes, it becomes our driving force that can lead to negative habits and behavior.
 
Let me ask you this: do you want to live your best life today and every day? This is what you can do:

Identify What Matters the Most to You

First, take a step back and look at your life from a different vantage point. Next, try to dissect each aspect of your life.
 
Which areas should you pay more attention to? Which should you cut back on?
 
To lead a balanced, well-fulfilled life, consider having one, or all, of the following. You might even add a couple of our own to the list.
 
A healthy body and mind
 
Family and friends
 
Money in the bank
 
The drive to always learn new things
 
A place to call home 
 
Realistic goals and a purpose in life
 
So recognize that what matters most in life has nothing to do with material possessions. Better to appreciate what you have.
 
Reconnecting with these things can lead to a better, happier, fuller life. It can also boost creativity and lower stress.
 
It also gives you control over your happiness. This is much better than allowing external factors to affect your inner peace.

Listen and Pay Attention

While it’s important to listen to those close to you in life, it’s much more than that. It’s also about listening to yourself and paying attention to your likes and dislikes.
 
This is a measure of your true worth and how much you love yourself.
 
Self-love requires practice, but it gets easier with time. When you’re at peace with yourself, you love others in a healthy, mature way.
 
The takeaway: Show yourself the same kindness and compassion you show others. When you look in the mirror, focus on the good rather than the bad.
 
Treat yourself to nice things and be happy with who you are.
 

Be in the Present

Too often, we find ourselves regretting the past or worrying about the future. But, what matters the most is the moment we’re living right here and now.
 
Connecting with the world around you makes you appreciate what you have. The more you’re in tune with your ‘present,’ the more you’ll realize how precious life can be.
 
As Earl Nightingale said: “Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Think how very precious the time is you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.”
 
The takeaway: Being self-aware helps bring tranquility and happiness into your life. In turn, the happier and calmer you are, the more things you’ll find to be thankful for.

Find a Hobby

Hobbies are the things you do for fun in your free time. They can range from knitting to deep-sea diving to jumping from airplanes.
 
Your experiences in life are what make it worth living. They give it meaning and shape the way you see others around you.
 
Doing something you enjoy can be one of the very best stress reducers. You can also use it to push your boundaries a bit and step out of your comfort zone.
 
Sometimes, the idea of doing something new can be terrifying. If this happens to you, recognize your fear.
 
Then, tell yourself it’s okay to be nervous about something new.
 
The takeaway: Live your life. Be eager to try out new experiences. They’re what add fulfillment and richness to your life.

Practice Positive Habits

Identifying positive habits and carrying them out daily brings order to your life. Good habits also result in good physical and mental health.
 
Stay with routine. You can reduce distractions that stand in the way of your accomplishing things.
 
They also help steer you towards making better decisions.
 
Studies show that routines and good habits boost your life, health, and well-being. The trick is to be authentic to your values and beliefs.
 
Let’s be honest, that can be hard to do in this media-frenzy world we’re living in. Yet, having confidence in who you are can help shine the light on what matters most in your life.
 
The takeaway: Your words express your thoughts and, down the line, your actions. Those actions turn into habits, so make sure you stick to enforcing positive habits in your life.
 
Final Thoughts
These five things are some of the ways you can focus on what matters most in your life. At the end of the day, what it boils down to is that to live your best life, you have to focus on certain things over others.
 
Remember, what matters more to you may not be as important to others. So, stay true to your values and hold on to the things you treasure more in life.
 
JohnK 8-22-2022
 
stick figure hears about lifeOverheard:  “The best portion of a good man’s life is his little nameless, unencumbered acts of kindness and of love”
                                              ~Wordsworth
 
 
Article image by Aziz Acharki on Unsplash
 
 

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How to Develop Lifelong Excellence

July 18, 2022 John Uncategorized No comments

Targeting excellence in all you do is a wise decision. It’s a target you can reach. 

Keep reading for some GenuLines ideas on how to stay there once you reach it.

How to Develop Lifelong Excellence

Have you ever felt intrigued or even jealous of how some people seem to excel at everything they do? You have to understand that although nobody can be perfect, it is possible to be excellent. 
 
 
A great way to develop excellence is by directing your energy into your projects. As long as you acknowledge that you’re doing your best, you’re excelling. 
 
You can’t sit on the couch and at the same time become an excellent runner. You have to get out there and work on running by putting your best efforts into it. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Mastery
Another way to develop excellence is to learn how to master things. This applies to learning new skills, such as how to run a new software program, for example. 
 
You need to commit if you’re going to excel. Before taking on a project or committing to a goal, prepare to commit and follow through with it. 
 
Life is full of challenges
 
These can be the ones that you set for yourself, or they can be the kind that life throws at you. With any challenge you’re going to make mistakes, and there’s nothing you can do to avoid this.
 
What you can do is to learn from your mistakes.
 
Chin Up
When something goes wrong, don’t put yourself down. Instead think of what happened and learn from it. This way you’ll be more prepared the next time. 
 
Another way to challenge yourself is by setting high standards. Don’t feel satisfied with only doing those things that come easy to you.
 
Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone. 
 
To develop lifelong excellence you want to be open to learning. This may include learning from books or by taking courses.
 
But it also includes learning from life and adapting to things as necessary. Be open to becoming a reader of life! 
Know Thyself
Before you can develop your excellence you must understand what you are all about. Do you know what your strengths and weaknesses are? 
 
Developing a lifelong habit of excellence does not happen overnight. You need to be aware of your journey.
 
Take in your surroundings, as well as the people you surround yourself with. 
 
Be open to new experiences and be willing to learn from your mistakes. This will move you in the direction of fulfillment, happiness, and yes, excellence.
 
JohnK 7-18-2022
 
stick man hears about excellenceOverheard: “Excellence is a continuous process and not an accident”
                             ~ A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Focus On The Smaller Things to Find True Happiness

July 4, 2022 John Uncategorized No comments

Looking for happiness? Sometimes it’s found in the most unusual places. Or, as GenuLines points out today, it can be found in the small things. 

Focus On The Smaller Things to Find True Happiness

Happiness is many things to many people. It could be preparing to eat the meal you’ve waited for all day.
 
smiling faces of happinessOr sitting down on the couch and knowing you’re about to watch the new episode of your favorite TV show. Or getting a backrub from your partner.
 
These are all examples of what many of us would consider ‘little things. But that doesn’t mean that they can’t be instrumental in helping us to feel happier.
 
These are ‘creature comforts’ and pleasant asides. But they’re super powerful in raising our mood.
 
So the question is, how do you get to the point where little things make you happier? And how do you make sure you have a constant supply of such things to make you happy?
Little Things
The first thing to do is to find those little things and to make sure they keep coming. We have things that make us feel great, such as hobbies and activities that we enjoy.
 
The trick then is to identify how you can enjoy those things on a regular basis.
 
Next, you need to make plans to enjoy those things. A little ‘pleasure delay’ here can work wonders.
 
Spend your day at work looking forward to that thing that you want to do in the evening. But don’t indulge.
 
Instead build up the moment in your mind and look forward to it happening.
Great Things to Do
The problem is that many of us don’t know how to make the very most of our spare time. We spend all day watching TV shows we aren’t interested in.
 
And we call this our ‘down time’.
 
In fact though, there are countless great things you can be doing all the time. And the vast majority of them are free.
 
You could download a free computer game for instance. You could try out a new program or film on Netflix.
Head Outdoors
You could explore a local park. Or read that book you bought ages ago and forgot about.
 
You could try cooking something weird and ambitious. You could try to plant your own bonsai tree…
 
There are a million different possibilities.
 
So spend some time thinking about all the exciting things you could do at home. Make a habit of writing more ideas down as they come to you.
 
In time you’ll find your life filled with amazing little moments.
 
JohnK 7-4-2022
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Stick figure hears about happinessOverheard: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness”
                                  ~Eric Hoffer
 
 
 
 
 
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Make Better Personal Decisions

May 30, 2022 John Uncategorized No comments

You never know when one of your everyday decisions will turn out to be a life changer. It’s best to be prepared for whatever you face. 

So GenuLines has prepared some pointers to guide you in the decision making process.

Make Better Personal Decisions

man facing decisionYou’ll make countless decisions in your life. Some of these decisions are small. (What should I watch on TV?) and some of these decisions are big. (Should I take that job overseas?)
 
But, the outcome of a vast majority of these decisions, big or small, affects us in a very personal way.
 
These outcomes can have both a positive and negative effect on your life. So it makes sense that you take the time to learn how to make better personal decisions.

 

Under Construction

You use your brain to make decisions. That brain is the product of millions of years of development and evolution.
 
And it continues today.
 
Think of this development as the remodeling of an old house.
In the beginning, there was the original house.
 
Over time, you might add a garage.
 
Then, a family room. Then a second story.
 
Follow that up with a fireplace. The point is the skeleton of the old house is still there.
 
Over time it’s surrounded by all the new additions.

The Old and The New

Our brains evolve this way. Parts that developed a million years ago work alongside newer parts.
 
Newer as in those that developed ten thousand years ago.
 
It’s like the light sockets in the older part of the house. They’re designed for a different era, so to the older parts of our brains.
 
Yet, today the whole brain works to make decisions that have a direct affect on us.
 
Studies show that the average person makes a decision in less than ten seconds. When confronted by a life and death situation, you don’t have time to think about your next move.
 
Otherwise in less critical situations your best move is to take some time to think.

Easy Does It

A primary step in learning how to become a better personal decision maker is to teach yourself to slow down. Then think about the decision that’s facing you.
 
With any decision, big or small, you need to take the appropriate amount of time. You want to assess and weigh all the choices involved.
 
Look at all the angles and all the possible outcomes. Start making choices that increase you chances for positive results.
 
JohnK 5-30-2022
 
Stick figure hears about decisionsOverheard: “The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision”
                                ~Maimonides
 
 
 
 
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Happy Trails to Happiness..and A Look Ahead to Some Great Guests!

September 26, 2013 John Uncategorized No comments

If you didn’t get to hear Chi For Yourself guest Thomas Bien talking about happiness last week you can listen to the show by clicking on this player:

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Before we put the happiness topic away for awhile I want to tell you about some of the guests we plan to bring to you in upcoming episodes, and healing is definitely the operative word here..

  • October 24th at 1pm Pacific- Erica Tucci (Radiant Survivor) talking about healing from a serious illness.
  • November 13th at Noon Pacific time- Annemiek Douw shares her case histories of healing.
  • November 21st at 1pm Pacific- Dr. Bernie Siegel returns to CFY to talk about The Art of Healing.

All the interviews are scheduled to be streamed on the Chi For Yourself home page…should there be any changes, you’ll hear about them here in GenuLines.

Now, for that one last mention of healing..and it comes from a great source!

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Looking for Happiness in “All the Wrong Places”

By Marci Shimoff

 

Smiley Face BallI was 41 years old, stretched out on a lounge chair by my pool and reflecting on my life. I had achieved all that I thought I needed to be happy.

You see when I was a child, I imagined there were five main things that ensured a happy life: a successful career that helped people, a loving husband, a comfortable home, a great body, and a wonderful circle of friends. After years of study, hard work, and a few “lucky breaks,” I finally had them all. (Okay, so my body didn’t quite look like Halle Berry’s–four out of five isn’t bad!) You think I’d have been on the top of the world.

But surprisingly I wasn’t. I felt an emptiness inside that the outer successes of life couldn’t fill. I was also afraid that if I lost any of those things, I might be miserable. Sadly, I knew I wasn’t alone in feeling this way.

While happiness is the one thing that we all truly want, so few of us really experience a deep and lasting fulfillment that feeds our soul. Our Founding Fathers even guaranteed us the right to pursue happiness, so why aren’t we finding it?

Because we’re looking for happiness, in the words of the old country western song, in “all the wrong places.”

That week I threw myself into the study of happiness. The culmination for me was when I discovered a state I call Happy for No Reason, a neurophysiological state of inner peace and well-being that isn’t dependent on circumstances. I believe this is our essential state.

When you’re Happy for No Reason, you don’t need to manipulate the world around you to try to make yourself happy. You bring happiness to your everyday experiences rather than trying to extract happiness from them.

Most of us spend our time struggling to string together as many happy experiences as we can, like beads in a necklace, to create a happy life. We do our best to find just the right beads that will fulfill us. Being Happy for No Reason, in this analogy, is like having a happy string. No matter what beads we put on our necklace–good and not so good–our inner reality, the string that runs through them all, is happy, and we experience an unshakeable positive state inside.

So, how do we get there?

I found the answer in the lives of the 100 deeply happy people I interviewed as research for my book Happy for No Reason. The only difference between happy and unhappy people is that they have different habits. In fact, I identified 21 core happiness habits that anyone can practice to be happier.

One of the most important habits that happy people share is that they let love lead. Although they have the same fears, pain, and disappointments as the rest of us, they’re able to keep their hearts open and flowing. This is the key to making your life–and every relationship in it–successful and fulfilling.

How do you let love lead? Here are three tips to get you started:

1. Reach Out and Touch Someone. Schedule time every day to call or visit someone you love or care about. It doesn’t have to be a long call or an elaborate outing. Remember to focus on expressing your love or care for them, rather than looking for them to fill you up.

Taking the time to connect with someone from the level of your heart has been shown to make the actual rhythms of your heartbeat coherent, which is correlated with increased calmness, strengthened immune system functioning, normalized blood pressure, and improved general well-being. For some people, a much-loved pet can be a great heart connection. What’s important is focusing on the bond you feel radiating from within you that links you to the special beings in your life.

2. Spread Lovingkindness. One way to power up your heart’s flow is by sending loving kindness to your friends and family, as well as strangers you pass on the street. Next time you’re waiting for the elevator at work, stuck in a line at the store, or caught up in traffic, send a silent wish to the people you see for their happiness, well-being, and health. Simply wishing others well switches on the “pump” in your own heart that generates love and creates a strong current of happiness.

3. Hang with the Happy. We catch the emotions of those around us just like we catch their colds–it’s called emotional contagion. So it’s important to make wise choices about the company you keep. Create appropriate boundaries with emotional bullies and “happiness vampires” who suck the life out of you. Develop your happiness “dream team”–a mastermind or support group you meet with regularly to keep you steady on the path of raising your happiness.

“Happily ever after” isn’t just for fairytales or for only the lucky few. Imagine experiencing inner peace and well-being as the backdrop for everything else in your life. When you’re Happy for No Reason, it’s not that your life and your relationships always look perfect–it’s that however they look, you’ll still be happy!

Author’s Bio:

By Marci Shimoff. Based on the New York Times bestseller Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out, which offers a revolutionary approach to experiencing deep and lasting happiness. The woman’s face of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and a featured teacher in The Secret, Marci is an authority on success, happiness, and the law of attraction. To order Happy for No Reason, newly released in paperback, and receive free bonus gifts, go to http://www.happyfornoreason.com/mybook

 

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“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

JohnK 9/25/2013

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