We’ve heard a lot about getting out of our comfort zone. But have you ever thought about why you should?
After all, it’s a place where we feel safe and in control.
It’s where we can predict what will happen and how we will feel. There won’t be any surprises that we can’t deal with.
So why would you feel compelled or even want to get out of your comfort zone? You need to do it because that would be key to your personal growth and happiness.
The benefits
Stepping out of that zone helps you build up your self-confidence and the way you view yourself.
Is being there holding you back from living a fulfilled life and growing in your career? The answer is yes.
It can also keep you from realizing and achieving your desires. You avoid challenges and you don’t have to rise to any new levels.
Here are 3 ways this is holding you back.
1. It’s keeping you from personal growth
When you’re afraid of something, staying in your comfort zone keeps you from facing that fear.
Then you suffer from it forever or until you do face it. You sidestep situations that would force you to face the fear as a way of overcoming it.
For example, say you have a fear of public speaking. It could keep you from taking a job that requires you to speak in front of others.
You hesitate even though it’s a step up on your career ladder.
2. Your happiness suffers
You might be prone to struggle with self-confidence and self-esteem issues. These problems can grow unless you begin to address them.
Stepping outside your comfort zone helps you build self-confidence. You see yourself in a better light.
When you’re confident and have good self-esteem, you’re happier. For example, if you’re not confident in your abilities, you may fear trying something new.
This drags down your confidence. You feel less competent and it’s making you unhappy.
3. Your comfort zone can make you feel trapped and unhealthy
Often our comfort zone keeps us doing bad habits out of fear. You might want to be more active, run a marathon, feel fewer aches and pains and go on adventures.
But to do any of these things means doing something that is outside your comfort zone.
For example, you want to run a short marathon. It’s always been a dream of yours, but you procrastinate and make excuses why you can’t.
You’re too out of shape. You don’t have time. You’re too old.
But the real reason is that you’re afraid to get out of your comfort zone and begin working with a trainer. As a result, you continue to eat unhealthily and you gain weight.
You lose muscle tone and put your dream on the back burner. At some point, your health takes a hit.
Staying in your comfort zone holds you back from living a life you love, from being happy, and from growing. You end up letting your fears rule.
If you’re having a hard time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. Trust in this case is near impossible without confidence.
Lacking Confidence Feel secure in your abilities and be strong in your convictions. But, know when you’re wrong, too.
This may seem scary to you.
But it’s not as difficult as you think. No one is born with confidence. It’s something people learn and develop during their lives.
It’s the same for you. Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.
Fear Sabotages Confidence When you give in to your fears, you’ll diminish the chances of building up your confidence. This can get out of hand if you don’t deal with it right away.
You need to face your fears head-on. That doesn’t mean you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless.
You can take chances but only if they won’t put your life or others’ lives in danger. You wouldn’t jump out of a plane without a parachute.
Don’t make frivolous decisions, either. Confidence is about knowing the difference.
Start out with small tasks that you have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than you imagine.
If you try to project what will happen, and it is always a negative outcome, you will never make any decisions. Take on those small tasks without thinking too much about what’s going to happen.
That will build up your confidence as you’ve never seen before.
Don’t Be Afraid To Ask Questions You should ask questions when you aren’t sure about the situations you face. Confidence isn’t about having all the answers.
It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the knowledge that you need. It’s also about pulling the trigger when you’ve gathered enough information.
Confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you’re doing, you can convey that belief to the people affected by your decisions.
If you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned you’ll come across as weak.
Once this happens, others will lose faith in you. Your confidence will erode, and self-doubt will take over.
When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out. Increase your confidence and you’ll increase self-trust.