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Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

April 24, 2023 John Uncategorized No comments

Your life can change when you change your mindset. But it’s not always easy to see how this is so.

Today GenuLines opens your eyes to some of the indicators.

Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

“The key to abundance is to stop needing more, and to start appreciating what you already have.” – Anonymous

Everyone is talking about changing your mindset to attract what you desire. How do you know when it’s time to change your mindset?

After all, you’ve been thinking the same way for as long as you can remember.

Or maybe you’ve had a rough patch and your attitude has gotten out of whack.

The Good and The Bad

When you start having more bad days than good ones, then it’s time to change your mindset. These are some of the reasons you may want to change your mindset.

Our mindset is what produces the thoughts we have. It shapes our thinking, which controls our actions and how we process things.

If you have a negative attitude, then you start blaming and thinking the worst. Positive or healthy thoughts create a better environment.

For you and those around you.

Six Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

1. You’re always focused on failure

You get angry and disappointed over every failure without celebrating your success. You see yourself as a failure.

This sends messages to your mind that you’ll fail at whatever you try to do. Instead: Keep a success diary.

Acknowledge every success every day, no matter how small.

2. You have a victim mentality

You’ve had bad experiences or others you love hurt you. It could be an event that traumatized you and you’re still holding onto those moments.

Instead: Forgive and let go of the past.

3. You have social media envy

You’re see glamorous lifestyles of people online, and it makes you feel worse about yourself. You devalue what you have.

You focus on what you don’t have or aren’t doing.

Instead: Think about what you do have and show gratitude for it.

There are billions of people on this planet and at least a billion would love to have your life.

4. You see work as a chore

You dread going to work, complain about doing the work, or think it’s a burden. Instead, see your job as a way of providing value to others and having an impact on you and others around you.

Being able to work gives you the opportunity to contribute to society.

5. You obsess about things you can’t control or change

You complain about what you can’t control. Things like the weather, government, traffic and other people.

Your mind fills with everything you don’t like, rather than what you can control, which is yourself. Identify ways to change and control your own actions and thoughts.

You’ll make your experiences more positive.

Stop complaining. Start taking action that will bring you a greater sense of accomplishment and plenty.

6. You lack gratitude for what you have

You focus on what is wrong with things or the world, or the inadequacies in yourself and others. Instead, acknowledge that no one is perfect, and everyone learns lessons as they go.

Focus on identifying the positive things you’re grateful for every day.

Know that the reason you rarely feel happy and content is because of a negative mindset.

Know that it’s time to change your mindset to feel better about yourself.

Then be ready to attract more of the good stuff into your life.

JohnK 4-24-2023

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Overheard: ‘Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.’

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Complainers Can Learn to Appreciate Small Things

April 2, 2019 John Uncategorized No comments

Complainers complain. It’s what they do. Are you dealing with such a person? If you are, consider the points in this GenuLines post and apply them to your situation.

Complainers Can Learn to Appreciate Small Things

Do you know a chronic complainer? Someone who never seems to be happy about anything.

They find everything wrong with what others do. If there’s a new idea, they’ll knock it down.

They’re also the type of person who will interrupt others to make their point. They’ll do that because they know best.

But at some point, people start to ignore them. And they’re high on the list if cutbacks should ever hit the company, too.

Complainers have forgotten how to appreciate the small things in life.

They don’t realize that it’s difficult to get a new job and it takes much more time than it used to.

They don’t appreciate that they have a job.

Sometimes, chronic complaining can be a result of complacency. Since no one is listening to what the person says, it’s just easier to complain.

No company or situation is perfect, and sometimes it’s best when problems are out in the open. But there is a time and place for complaints and a correct way to air them.

If you have to complain offer up several solutions to the problem. That’s a productive use of complaining energy.

Call it problem recognition with applicable solutions.

There’s a critical difference between you and a chronic complainer. You appreciate your job or your situation.

Help the complainer

If you want to help a chronic complainer, point out the problem using a subtle approach. Instead of telling the person they complain too much, show them how to be grateful for the little things in life.

Remind them that you feel appreciative of the fact you have a job, etc.

Relate a story- may be about how your last job search was difficult. It took you months, and it made you realize that jobs are not easy to find.

Also, talk about how you appreciate your home life and your family and what it means to you. That’s a subtle approach.

The person may start to understand there is much to appreciate in everyday life. You can show that complaining is ineffective and may lead to problems down the road.

Aim to get friends and colleagues to relate to the same gratitude for work and family.

The chronic complainer may start to see it pays to be appreciative.

JohnK 4-2-2019

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Overheard: “Instead of complaining that the rosebush is full of thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses.”

~Proverb

Boost Your Confidence by Making Better Decisions

April 2, 2018 John Uncategorized No comments

You’re starting another week. Another week of decisions you’ll need to make. But somehow those decisions don’t get made.

It’s one of the more frustrating situations you (and those around you) can face. You can’t seem to make a decision and stick to it.

There can be many reasons why you lack the confidence to make decisions in your life.

As a child your parents may have made all your decisions for you. And you weren’t supposed to question them..

Or it could be that you don’t like the pressure decision making puts on you. You question whether you’re making the right decision. And you’re fearful about how your decision will affect others.

You may feel very anxious at the thought of having to make a decision.

Here are a few ways to recognize if you’re someone who lacks the confidence to make decisions:

You would rather have someone else make the decision for you –

Passing the decision-making process to another could show a lack of confidence.

You never make a decision –

Other people may be relying on you for a decision, but you let weeks or months slide by without deciding.

When you do make a decision, you second-guess yourself –

This is another demonstration of lack of confidence in your abilities.

Regardless of what led to an inability to trust yourself you can become better if you work at it.

Here are some ideas for improving your confidence and making good decisions.

Make an “unofficial” decision –

This is a decision that’s not yet set in stone. Make a decision, and live with that decision for a day.

For example, you’ve decided to upgrade to a bigger house, and you have the money saved up. You find a house that you really like that fits all the criteria you want in a bigger house.

It has a big yard, a deck, and an attached garage. But, you have trouble making decisions.

You may find that you try to talk yourself out of it. You begin to worry how you’ll afford it, the increased heating and cooling costs, and so forth.

This is where it can help to make an “unofficial” decision. You have to decide that you will or will not move.

Pick one, and live with that decision for a day. Convince yourself that the decision is a real one.

Then see how your decision makes you feel. This can be a good way to test decisions before making them official.

Knowing that you can still change your mind, if it doesn’t feel right, can be comforting.

Recognize decisions that are reversible –

For example, you’re having a tough time choosing a color of house paint. Start by picking some swatches. Then make a decision rather than fretting over the perfect color.

If you start painting and don’t like the color you can just reverse course and choose another color.

Ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen? –

Not all decisions are life altering. If you begin by making small decisions (like choosing which movie to go to) your confidence can grow as time goes on. You’ll be better positioned to make bigger decisions as time passes.

Write down the pros and cons of each decision you are considering –

It might help if you put your ideas on paper. List what you like and don’t like about them.

Seeing rather than only thinking about the options can make it easier to come to a decision.

JohnK 4-2-2018

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Overheard: “To change a habit, make a conscious decision, then act out the new behavior.”

~Maxwell Maltz

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Put The Brakes on Complaining

March 26, 2018 John Uncategorized No comments

Another Monday morning, and it’s a great time for complaining. Gotta wake up so early. Traffic is always a mess. This job is the worst.

You may not have a lot of options for improving your situation right now. But, you can change how you look at it

This is especially true if you’re a complainer. Let’s look at some ways to ratchet down the tendency to complain.

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How To Avoid Complaining

Remember the phrase from the poem Solitude, by Ella Wheeler Wilcox? The line is, “Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep and you weep alone”.

The same can be said for complaining. If you’re a chronic complainer, you may want to rethink that tendency.

One problem with complaining is that too much of it becomes less effective over time. Are you really unhappy with every situation you’re presented with?

It could be a sign that you have other negative situations going on in your life. You need to choose your battles, as they say.

Let’s say you have several situations that make you unhappy. Pick the one you most want to focus on for improvement.

It will be easier to get your point across if you limit the frequency of your complaints.

There’s a right time to complain. But it should be done in the context of offering up alternatives.

Be part of the solution and not part of the problem. If you only offer a complaint, how is that helping solve the problem?

Offering solutions will show your willingness to have a stake in solving the problem.

A good approach is to come up with more than one solution whenever possible. This will help get more people to see your side of the story.

If you’re someone who complains a lot, take a step back. Think about others who are chronic complainers as well.

How did you react to their constant stream of complaints? Did you think to yourself that the person should try to help solve the problem?

If you answered yes to this last question, this is how others are thinking when you complain.

Complainers often feel like no one’s listening to them, usually with good reason. And the increased frustration could lead to their alienation from the group.

This is not a good situation. Management could be more likely to let the complainers go. Or the complainers might take it upon themselves to leave.

Complaining is considered negative thinking, but it’s a changeable habit.

Begin that change by shifting from negative to positive thoughts.

Your peers will likely find fewer faults with you. And they won’t go out of their way to avoid you if you maintain a positive attitude.

If you find that you complain a lot and people are avoiding you it may be time for some changes.

JohnK 3-26-2018

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Overheard: “When you change the way you look at things, the things

you look at change.”

~ Max Planck

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Signs It’s Time to Change Your Mindset