Stop Letting The Past Dictate Your Future
On one level you know that clinging to the past is a bad option and that you need to progress in life. But have you taken a moment to reflect on this?
Why should you move on from the past? Let GenuLines show you how not moving on from your past can affect most every other aspect of your life.
What’s so bad about focusing on the past?
First, we look at a negative aspect: holding grudges. This can stunt your emotional and mental growth.
The more you focus on that, the less attention you have to give to what’s happening in the present.
Now flip the script to the positive side of things. Fixating on a positive event from your past steals attention from your future.
You also run the risk of comparing everything that happens from then on to that one “perfect” event.
This fixation can lead to negative outcomes in your future. The more you focus on the past, the less you witness the present.
You have a tendency to miss special occasions or important events.
You move through life in a more distracted way. Worst of all is that you stunt your development and growth.
How can focusing on the past dictate your future?
You could get distracted when you need to pay attention to the present. And you start making comparisons to another moment in time
Plus, you risk turning down new opportunities. You’re afraid they won’t live up to the past experience.
How do you stop focusing on the past?
The first step in putting an end to this behavior is to resolve to let it go. Yes, it’s easier said than done.
But you have to make a conscious decision to let go and move forward with your life.
Fixated on a positive past event
This is different than letting go of a grudge. Letting go in this sense is to stop comparing other events to this one.
It doesn’t mean that you have to forget the moment you’ve valued for so long. But it does mean that you continue to experience and enjoy each new moment.
Fixated on a negative past event
When you let go of a grudge you forgive the person and move on from the event. You don’t condone what happened.
But don’t let it live rent-free in your head or you’ll only hurt yourself.
JohnK 10-7-2024
chiforyourself.com
Overheard: “Only you can control your future”
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