Tag Archive for the shift

Tips To Help You Start (or maintain) A Healthy Relationship

picture of john kobik talking relationshipsSpring is a time that tends to be associated with relationships. (Love is in the air, etc) And maybe it’s time for you to think about your relationship. Naturally, CHI FOR YOURSELF doesn’t look at relationships in the usual, greeting card kind of way.

 

Bringing a special person into your life (or keeping someone in your life) involves mindfulness. 

There are some simple but important points to keep your attention on when a relationship is on your mind. So CHI FOR YOURSELF has put together a brief report on relationships. It’s free and you can get it by clicking on this FREE STUFF link. 

 

Free Stuff
 

And watch for more helpful offerings from ChiForYourself.com! 

Problems with FREE STUFF button? Copy & paste link– https://www.payhip.com/b/jsmb

 

JohnK 4-11-2017

chiforyourself.com

 

Subscribe to GenuLines and get CHI FOR YOURSELF updates and more!

 

 

 

 

Your Relationship and Your SELF: And We Welcome Tatiana Jerome

picture of john kobik talking relationshipsYou may have noticed that our latest CHI FOR YOURSELF episode and recent GenuLines blog posts have been stressing relationships. Particular emphasis has been put on nurturing the “self.” 

CHI FOR YOURSELF wants you to have a special report on bringing love into your life. You can find the first chapter if you scroll down this page. You’ll get free access to the rest of the report in a coming GenuLines blog post. 

As for our latest episode of CHI FOR YOURSELF with Tatiana Jerome, you can hear it by clicking on the player–

 

 


 

picture of relationship author Tatiana Jerome

Tatiana Jerome

Tatiana Jerome is the author of LOVE LOSE, LOVE FOUND: A Woman’s Guide to Letting Go of the Past and Finding New Love.

 

 

 

Here’s a look at some of the takeaway points from the program:

  • Tatiana thought her relationship was fine
  • Knowing when it’s time to go
  • The relationship with your “self”
  • Actions are less important that patterns
  • Looking for love online
  • Attract rather than pursue

______________________________

 

Chapter 1: 
Basics of Attracting Love
Synopsis 
LoversSilhouette and relationships
For most people having a relationship that contains both respect for the other’s feelings and the ability to freely express affection would be important concerns.  
 
 
But with so many external pressures it’s often very hard to focus on creating the ideal relationship based on these two vital aspects.  
 
Making the intention to include this respect as part of your lives will give you the opportunity to maintain your relationship as one of meaning and purpose.  
 
 – # – 
The Basics 
 
Understand that making a conscious effort to create a healthy partnership is a good starting point. This helps each person involved to do their best to ensure the relationship has the potential for strength and longevity.  
 
This may at times leave you feeling that you’re going “the extra mile” for your partner. Consider it a good opportunity to sharpen your giving skills. 
 
Attracting love may require some initial physical and spiritual contributions on your part. The reassurance of compassion or empathy or a well-timed touch (tasteful, of course!) can go a long way toward tilling the soil of a fertile relationship.  
 
JohnK 4-3-2017
 
 
 
Clipart image of overheard man and relationshipsOverheard: “No road is long with good company.”
                      ~Turkish Proverb

 

 

 Subscribe to GenuLines and get CHI FOR YOURSELF guest information and more!

Introverts And Extroverts: Who’s More Confident?


picture of john kobik on being an extrovertThis week’s scheduled CHI FOR YOURSELF guest is Tatiana Jerome, author of Love Lost, Love Found: A Woman’s Guide to Letting Go of the Past and Finding New Love. Tatiana began asking questions many women ask when sweeping up the shards of a broken relationship.  picture of extrovert Tatiana Jerome
 
Her book is a woman-to-woman conversation that nurtures each hurting woman over her breakup but also empowers them to hold themselves accountable and to move forward toward more fulfilling and lasting love.
 
Hear the interview with Tatiana Jerome this Thursday,  March 30th at 4 pm Eastern, 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com
 
________________________________________________________________
 
 
 
When we think of introverts and extroverts, we might describe introverts as shy or antisocial and extroverts as outgoing. But this is not entirely accurate. Yes, some introverts may be shy, but being an introvert does not necessarily make you shy.
 
The real difference between introverts and extroverts is the location from which they get their energy. In other words, introverts draw their energy from and recharge by spending time alone in their thoughts. They still enjoy people. But they can find this draining, and prefer quieter environments. Introverts prefer being with a few close friends. Extroverts, on the other hand, get their energy from being around others and often with large groups of people.
 
Extroverts tend to jump into things and talk out loud to problem solve while performing an activity. Introverts, however, think and reflect before taking action.
 
Although it would seem that extroverts are more confident than introverts, this is not necessarily the case. In fact, many extroverts and introverts feel the same way – apprehensive when in a new situation. Therefore, you cannot assume that just because someone is introverted, that he has less confidence than the extroverted person in the room.
 
Unfortunately, the outside world gives the impression that it’s better to be extroverted than introverted. We might even encourage this in young children. Most people have a combination of characteristics but are predominately one or the other.
 
So how can introverts demonstrate their confidence in a world that reveres extroversion?
 
1. Socialize for short periods
 
First of all, remember that there is nothing wrong with being introverted. However, there are times when you may find it’s necessary to get together with large groups of people.
 
An example of a situation where this might be necessary is your spouse’s holiday work party. You prefer quiet, small get-togethers with a few friends or a quiet evening of watching a movie. However, it means a lot to your spouse to have you attend, so the two of you decide to compromise – you will go, but only for a few hours. This means mingling and socializing with more people than usual. If you think it sounds like you have to be phony, that is not the case.
 
Consider this. If you’re feeling grumpy and you start smiling at everyone (the action), you soon start feeling happy (the feeling). It’s the same with this. Although it will feel weird at first, act like you enjoy mingling and socializing with a large group of people, and you will feel like you do.
 
Because you’re likely to be drained after several hours of interactions with others, plan to be there only for a short amount of time (ex. no more than three hours). Then you can go home where it’s quiet and you can recharge.
 
2. Don’t ignore people
 
Maybe you work as an accountant. It’s the type of position which might minimize interaction with others. However, parts of your workday may still involve human contact, as you have to interact with your receptionist or other employees. It would be a drain on your energy to act like an extrovert all the time when you’re at work. No one expects that, and it’s not realistic. But be a friendly and interactive introvert. Say “hello” to people you work with.
 
Ask them about their families, and offer information about yours. This allows your confidence to shine through too. People will respect you more and respond better to you if they feel that you’re interested in them. They’ll also see you as more approachable and they’re less likely to consider it weird when you say that you need to work alone or need some quiet time.
 
Another idea is related to lunchtime at work. You may not enjoy eating lunch in a group because you find that mentally draining. However, you may be able to compromise by spending ten minutes with the group, and the other 20 minutes on your own recharging. That way, people get to know the real you – the friendly, but introverted, person – and you still get quiet time to yourself to recharge before returning to work.
 
JohnK 3-27-2017
 

Lost Love, Found Creativity, and the Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

picture of john kobik on being happierRelationship break-up. You’ve probably faced it somewhere along the line. Maybe you’re going through it now. Our next scheduled CHI FOR YOURSELF guest had a bad experience with a relationship breakup.

 

But she faced her pain and challenges, even acknowledging what she did to contribute to the relationship’s failure.

Tatiana Jerome began to heal and move beyond a broken heart to a better understanding of what would make her happy, and, most of all, of the type of love she deserved.

Tatiana Jerome is the author of LOVE LOST, LOVE FOUND: A Woman’s Guide to Letting Go of the Past and Finding New Love.

 

picture of Tatiana Jerome

CHI FOR YOURSELF with guest Tatiana Jerome- Thursday March 30th at 4 pm Eastern, 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

Dividing line

Many people seem to have the mistaken idea that only a select few are able to unleash a steady flow of creative genius. This probably comes from the idea of ‘personality types’ that leads us to think our personality and style of working are set in stone.
 
That is not true at all. Our so-called personality type is simply a set of behavior patterns that we adopted in order to meet the different challenges of our early lives. Those behavior patterns can be changed.
 
LIST OF CREATIVE IDEAS

 

JohnK 3-21-2017

Subscribe to GenuLines and get CHI FOR YOURSELF guest information and more!

7 Days To A Better Happier You

picture of john kobik on being happierStressful times don’t exactly churn out happier people. But, CHI FOR YOURSELF knows that happiness is an inside job. You can bypass society’s noise if you keep some points in mind. These will help you get to your “happy place.”
 
 
7 Days To A Better Happier You
 
So what is the aim of personal development? To make you a better person, or to make you a happier person? Hopefully, it’s both.
 
One of the most important things to realize is that happiness is not something that other people bring you like a birthday gift. It comes from living in line with your own ethical values in a way that brings you closer to your personal goals. 
 
So here are 7 steps you can take to bring you closer to happiness over the next week.
 
1. Know your purpose 
 
Are you wandering through life with little direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health, and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.
 
This may seem tricky at first when you find yourself in a tight corner or facing a dead end. But identifying your purpose will help you to find the way out, even when it seems there isn’t one.
 
2. Know your values 
 
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals for the year, check your goals against your values. If a goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values, you may want to reconsider it or revise it.
 
3. Know your needs 
 
Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be heard, to be fed, to be loved in some way that is not being met right now? There are so many people who live their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed. List your top five needs and be creative in thinking of ways you could have them be met. It’s never too late!
 
4. Know your passions
 
You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm may hinder you, but need not prevent you from becoming the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become who you are.
 
5. Live from the inside out 
 
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. At times it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want, even in our own home. You may choose to meditate, to walk in a quiet place or to sit and listen to gentle music. Silence does not necessarily mean no sound at all but it does require a certain inner silence.
 
6. Honor your strengths 
 
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List five of them – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you recognize your skills and use them to teach or share with others.
 
7. Serve others  
 
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop a sense of being connected with all forms of life. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you are expressing your spirit, your essence. At the same time, you are able to connect with the essential good in others. At this point, serving others is no longer a chore.
 
We can’t change others. We can only change ourselves and thus live more peacefully and happily with the circumstances of our lives. 
 
JohnK 3-13-2017
 
 

Clipart image of overheard on happier lifeOverheard:   “To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.”                                 ~Albert Camus

 
 
 
 

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done: Day 5


picture of john kobik for how to get things done
This Day 5 of our “Get Things Done” series wraps up the week’s offerings. As promised there are some actionable steps, too. And some reading for you if you want to look further into this topic. 

Your transformation is what CHI FOR YOURSELF is all about. So, use this information. And know that you’ll be seeing more in the weeks to come. If you subscribe to GenuLines you’ll get these types of posts along with info on CHI FOR YOURSELF guests and show details. Just go to the top right side of this page and leave your email address in the box provided. 

Be well!

 

TOP TIPS

Do you want to be more productive? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly.

 

9. Relax: This may sound counter-intuitive but relaxing does help increase your productivity! Learn how to relax and spend regular periods of time out during the day. This personal time will give you the opportunity to focus on yourself and your needs. They will lessen stress and anxiety.

relax but get things done

10. Be an Early Riser: The most successful people tend to be early risers. They have discovered that by getting up earlier they not only achieve more in their day, the day
starts in a more controlled and productive manner. Use the time to meditate, exercise, read or learn something.

You can become more productive if you use the tips above. If you’re not sure where to start, then complete the action points below right now.
tips to get things done

FURTHER READING

 

1. The Productivity Project: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0345815777/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=0345815777&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

2. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00KWG9M2E/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin _il_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=B00KWG9M 2E&linkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

3. How to be a Productivity Ninja: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1848316836/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=1848316836&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

4. Extreme Productivity: Boost Your Results, Reduce Your Hours: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062188534/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=0062188534&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20


5. The 5 Choices: The Path to Extraordinary Productivity: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1476711712/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_i l_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=15121&creative=330641&creativeASIN=1476711712&l inkCode=as2&tag=chiforyoursel-20

 

JohnK 2-24-2017

chiforyourself.com home

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done: Day 4

picture of john kobik for how to get things doneReady for day 4 in our Get Things Done series? Today we quiet your environment and clarify your intentions. This can be tough to do given all the distractions that surround us. And it’s one reason why you’re getting these tips in “two’s.”

Keep in mind that on Day 5 you’ll have a total of 10 Get Things Done tips. You’ll also have several actionable steps you can put into place right away!

 

TOP TIPS

 

Do you want to be more productive? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly.

                                                                                                                                     suggestion to get things done 

7. Remove Distractions: If you want to become more productive then you need to remove distractions. Turn off the television and your mobile phone, shut down all social media and email. Set a specific time aside each day when you can you use those things and for the rest of the time, you’ll be more productive as you won’t be constantly disturbed by messages and notifications.

8. Prioritize: Sort your tasks by importance. Do the most important ones first as they are the ones that will play on your mind the most if they are not completed. In business, those tasks that earn you money are considered to be the most important and should be given top priority.

 

JohnK 2-23-2017

chiforyourself.com home

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done: Day 3

picture of john kobik for how to get things doneI trust you’re having a good (and productive) week! “Get Things Done” is our theme for this week. Today you’re getting two more of the 10 tips to boost your productivity. A quick count finds that 4 more tips will be coming your way, giving you 10 in all.

 

You’re getting these as a kind of “drip feed” so you can put your full attention on each one. I like to say that what you think about is what you bring about!

 

TOP TIPS

 

Do you want to be more productive? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly.

 

5. Time Block: Identify when you are at your most productive. Are you at your best firstthing in the morning? Whatever time of day it is, schedule your most important tasks for that time. 

woman working to get things done

Photo Courtesy Jan Willem Geertsma

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6. Use an Accountability Partner: Make yourself accountable by telling someone else what you want to achieve. Make sure you give them a target date. Report your progress regularly. By making yourself accountable you are increasing your chance of success. You’ll also have someone to talk to should things go wrong.

 

JohnK 2-22-2017

chiforyourself.com home

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done: Day 2

picture of john kobik for how to get things doneBack with another couple of easy to implement tips to boost your productivity so you’ll get things done. We’re taking it slowly so you can think about each one- pretty easy to do on a cold, dark winter day!  

 

As you put your attention on them you’ll keep yourself open for ways to carry them out. By the end of the week, you’ll have 10 tips in all. 

TOP TIPS 

Do you want to be more productive and really get things done? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly. 

3. Delegate or Outsource: Having too much to do can hinder progress as you will focus on those items that aren’t getting done which will cause stress and anxiety.overloaded for get things done articler Wherever possible delegate or outsource anything that is inessential or that you are not interested in completing. Paying a cleaner to look after your housework will save you time, energy and stress. 

4. Plan: You can’t achieve anything without knowing what it is you want to achieve. You need to know your goals. It’s also important to create a plan on how to achieve them. Set yourself daily goals and use a to-do list to help you identify what you need to achieve each day. Tick things off as they are completed.

JohnK 2-20-2017

chiforyourself.com home

Tips to Get Through Winter and Get Things Done

get things done with john kobikWe’re well into another year, and the big holidays are behind us. Days can feel longer, especially if you live in a colder climate and you’re looking forward to Spring. I know how that feels. I grew up in snow and ice in the industrial northeastern US. But you still have to get things done, both at home and in the workplace. How do you keep your focus on the tasks at hand? 

This week GenuLines will suggest ways to stay in that “good energy” toward making it through the dark winter days and functioning at your best. 

Starting today and all this week you’ll receive a couple of “reminders.” They’re designed to get your attention on simple ways to help your productivity, even when your mind checks out and wants to hang out somewhere in the tropics! 

beach chairs in the sand won't get things done

At the end of the week, look for some actionable steps you can put into practice right away.

 

TOP TIPS

Do you want to be more productive? The following tips are easy to implement and can help you increase your productivity immediately. Being more productive will help you achieve your goals and success more quickly.

 

1. Don’t Multi-Task: Focus on one task at a time. This will ensure that you are giving your full attention to what you are doing and increase your ability to utilize the power of the flow state. Use your to-do list and pick off one item at a time.

2. Stay Hydrated: Make sure that you drink water at regular intervals throughout the day. You can, of course, drink other beverages that contain water such as regular or herbal teas but don’t consume too much caffeine. Maintaining proper hydration will ensure that your brain and energy levels are optimal.

 

JohnK 2-19-2017

chiforyourself.com home