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Ira Israel on CHI FOR YOURSELF And A New “Freebie”

Ira Israel pictureLast week’s CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Ira Israel ran into some “technical difficulty” as they say. So it was not available to you live. But my conversation with Ira was recorded.

Ira Israel is the author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening.

 

First, a look at some of the show’s talking points:

  • The central theme of the book
  • The meaning of “negativity bias”
  • A definition of authenticity
  • The part resentment plays in our lives
  • Is there such a thing as the “mid-life crisis?”
  • The myth of romance
  • Beginning the process of forgiveness

…and, the show itself. Listen by clicking on below–

 



 

 


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JohnK 2-13-2018

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Ira Israel on CHI FOR YOURSELF And A New “Freebie”

Ira Israel pictureLast week’s CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Ira Israel ran into some “technical difficulty” as they say. So it was not available to you live. But my conversation with Ira was recorded.

Ira Israel is the author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening.

 

First, a look at some of the show’s talking points:

  • The central theme of the book
  • The meaning of “negativity bias”
  • A definition of authenticity
  • The part resentment plays in our lives
  • Is there such a thing as the “mid-life crisis?”
  • The myth of romance
  • Beginning the process of forgiveness

…and, the show itself. Listen by clicking on below–

 



 

 

 


A new CHI FOR YOURSELF “freebie” is up and available. Get this free report on dealing with stress when you click here–

 

FREE Stuff

 

 

JohnK 2-13-2018

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A Grown-up Look At Childhood: Ira Israel on CHI FOR YOURSELF

It’s our first (first run) CHI FOR YOURSELF episode of 2018! 

Ira Israel pictureOur guest will be psychotherapist and counselor Ira Israel, author of How to Survive Your Childhood Now That You’re an Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening.

Ira offers a step-by-step path to recognizing the ways of being that we created as children and transcending them with compassion and acceptance.

Hear the CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Ira Israel on Friday, February 9th at 4 pm Eastern, 1 pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com

 

JohnK 2-8-2018

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Adventures In Solitude With Robert Kull

Although many cultures have long recognized solitude as an opportunity to look inward, in our culture we sometimes think that spending time alone is unhealthy.

In the 2009 CHI FOR YOURSELF interview with Robert Kull, we learned that spending time alone can actually soften our sense of alienation from others. Kull used his journey to deep wilderness solitude to drive that point home.

Robert Kull talking solitude

Robert Kull is the author of SOLITUDE: Seeking Wisdom in Extremes- A Year Alone in the Patagonia Wilderness.

Listen to the interview by clicking on below-

 

 

 

 

 

JohnK 2-2-2018

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Eating To Live And The Signs That You Eat Too Much

 
 
Eating is a fundamental pillar of life. Most of us enjoy it, especially when we’re savoring some great tasting food!
 
eating bad food Unfortunately, we also don’t always have the best sense of when to stop eating. Especially when we have access to good-tasting foods in immense quantities.
 
We poke fun at humorous situations such as Homer Simpson eating until he can’t move. But, there are consequences to this. They range from a mild stomach ache to cardiovascular disease or diabetes.
 
 
 
 
Plus, overeating is not as dramatic as eating until our pants are about to burst. It’s subtle. It’s more like eating more than we need in one sitting. Or eating until we’re full rather than eating until we’ve gotten the nutrients we need.
 
We don’t have the natural constraints our ancestors did to prevent us from overeating. In evolutionary terms, most humans couldn’t overeat. Large-scale agriculture and food processing are fairly recent developments.
 
Most humans (especially Americans) have access to more food and convenience than ever.
 
So, what drives us to eat more than we need?
 
One key insight is the emotional connection to food many people have. Research has shown that they tend to eat more or overeat when they’re feeling sad. Or depressed. Or if they’re struggling with an issue.
 
A study in the Journal of Adolescent Health looked at eating disorders like binge eating. It found that “it’s important to consider depressive symptoms in overeating.”
 
Are we eating because we’re hungry, or because of an emotional issue we’re dealing with?
 
Another consideration is symptoms of Hypoglycemia or low blood sugar. The Medical University of Warsaw found that these symptoms can lead people to eat more. Why? To satisfy urges to increase insulin. So, it’s important to practice moderation when eating sweets. They cause us to eat far more than we actually need.
 
Finally, your body is your best warning system. Warnings come when you experience constipation, blockage, vomiting or stomach aches. Your body is telling you it’s had enough.
 
If you feel a constant need for laxatives or antacids it’s most likely your body’s alarm system at work. It’s telling you that you’ve taken in far more food than you need.
 
Your body’s energy level and mental alertness also are signs of eating too much.
 
We all enjoy a well-prepared meal or delicious healthy snacks. Yet as far as biology is concerned food is no more than fuel for our body to consume and turn into energy.
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But when you bog your system down with excess or poor quality food (A.K.A. junk food) your energy will decrease. You’ll feel sluggish and less alert. Rather than boost energy, it will make your digestive system feel overloaded.
 
Your brain and your emotions work together to send you the warnings. These can come in the form of depression or stress.
 
 
 
 
Be mindful with this. Be aware of your current state. Your body tells you through your energy levels and digestion system when you’ve had too much.
 
The signals are there. Are you listening?
 
JohnK 1-31-2018
 
 
Image for overheard for eatingOverheard: “It’s not that some people have the willpower and some don’t. It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.”
                    ~Carl Sandburg
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Build Self-Esteem: The First Step Toward Self-Development

 

 
If you’re interested in self-development but have low self-esteem, the first thing you need to do is change that. Until you do, it’s much harder to assess what you need to learn and change to achieve your goals. In fact, if you have low self-esteem it can be difficult to even see what your goals are.
 
dartboard of self-esteem
 
Imagine yourself as a dart board. At times anything and anyone can become a damaging dart pin at one point or another.
 
These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you may not even be conscious of. It’s important not to let them destroy you, or get the best of you.
 
 
 
 
So what are the dart pins to avoid, and how can you keep them from hurting you?
 
Dart Pin #1  Negative Work Environment
 
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive.
 
No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. You may find you are working harder and harder for less and less return.
 
Stay away from this since it can ruin your self-esteem. Find ways to manage your work within the normal working day at least 90% of the time.
 
If you have to compete with others, compete on your own terms. Don’t fall into power games or negative behavior that could hurt your self-image.
 
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
 
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, the walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers … all these negative behaviors in others can damage your self-esteem.
 
And, they’ll push back your self-development program. But remember, it’s not the person who is the problem: it’s their behavior.
 
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
 
Changes challenge our paradigms. They test our flexibility, adaptability, and they alter our thought process.
 
Changes will make life difficult for a while and often cause stress. But when we look back we’ll see that change is often the catalyst or cause of self-development. Decide not to resist it.
 
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
 
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when you experience pain. But don’t let past hurts turn pain into fear.
 
Dragging the issues of your past relationship into your new one is a road to failure. Don’t expect your partner to be a mirror image of your last partner.
 
Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson, and move on.
 
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
 
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
 
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
 
Your behavior is said to be the result of a mixture. The ingredients include your inherited traits and your upbringing.
 
Other factors include your environment, such as friends, work situation, and the economy. You can even throw in the climate in your country.
 
Know that your genetics or upbringing don’t determine your life path. Failures among your family members don’t rub off.
 
Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
 
In life, it can be hard to stay true to your code. Especially when things and people around you seem to keep pulling you down.
 
Yet, building self-esteem will lead to self-development if you become responsible. Be responsible for who you are, what you have, and what you do.
 
man raising self-esteem
 
When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values, and discipline. Self- esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment, and determination.
 
So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment.
 
A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem and set you on the path to positive self-development.
 
JohnK 1/24/2018
 
 
self-esteem image of stick manOverheard: “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your handbrake on.”
                       ~ Maxwell Maltz
 
 
 
 
 
 

What You Nееd tо Knоw Abоut Crеаting Chаngе in Your Life

 

man with check signChаngе can be diffiсult.  Okay, we got that out of the way.  It can be even more diffiсult whеn thе сhаngе is big. Again, no surprise. Let’s say уоu wаnt to brеаk uр with someone you love. You may be thinking оf lеаving уоur old job tо mаkе a transition tо a different job. Maybe you’d love to start your own business.
If уоu саn оvеrсоmе thе fear of fаilurе whеn you set out to make change, thеn a huge portion of the job is done.  Bеlоw wе’ll look аt some hеlрful tiрѕ to guidе you through trаnѕitiоn.

 

You Nееd tо Truѕt Yоurѕеlf
Trusting yourself iѕ vеrу imроrtаnt in making аnу mеаningful change. It’s оnе оf the bеѕt things you саn do for уоurѕеlf in any area of life. Sеlf belief рuѕhes you to dо what nееds tо bе dоnе.
Bеliеvе thаt you саn dо it.  You’ve done thingѕ оn уоur оwn that уоu (and maybe others) never thought уоu соuld.
Onе Chаngе аt a Timе
Thiѕ iѕ whаt I call change mаnаgеmеnt.  Lifе сhаngе can be vеrу stressful if уоu attempt multiple changes at one time. You may еnd uр nоt асhiеving аnу. Focusing on a ѕinglе tаѕk makes success more likely when you take up your next lifе changing project.
Think of the  сhаngеѕ thаt уоu nееd to make. Write them down if you have to. Then choose to work on them in sequence. This will leave you with mоrе drivе. And it will еliminаtе any роtеntiаl blосks to сhаngе уоu may encounter.
Mаkе Time tо Wоrk оn Chаngе
Take thе timе that you need tо work оn the сhаngе(ѕ) you рlаn tо mаkе. Remember the old saying “failing to plan is planning to fail”.  Allowing enough time lets you take care of all the details involved with less stress.
You made a list of the changes you want to make. Very good.  Now уоu саn also writе dоwn thе ѕtерѕ to tаkе to achieve your best rеѕult.  Cоnѕult experts or mentors.  Aѕk questions. Plаn the wауѕ you’ll асhiеvе уоu aim.
This is by no means the only list of tips. But it can help you start out with more confidence as you begin to mаkе important сhаngеs in your lifе.

 

JohnK 1-18-2016

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“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself”

˜ Andy Warhol

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chаngе can be diffiсult. Okay, we got that out of the way. It can be even more diffiсult whеn thе сhаngе is big. Again, no surprise. Let’s say уоu wаnt to brеаk uр with someone you love. You may be thinking оf lеаving уоur old job tо mаkе a transition tо a different job. Maybe you’d love to start your own business.
If уоu саn оvеrсоmе thе fear of fаilurе whеn you set out to make change, thеn a huge portion of the job is done is done. Bеlоw wе’ll look аt some hеlрful tiрѕ to guidе you through trаnѕitiоn.

You Nееd tо Truѕt Yоurѕеlf
Trusting yourself iѕ vеrу imроrtаnt in making аnу mеаningful change. It’s оnе оf the bеѕt things you саn do for уоurѕеlf in any area of life. Sеlf belief рuѕhes you to dо what nееds tо bе dоnе.
Bеliеvе thаt you саn dо it. You’ve done thingѕ оn уоur оwn that уоu (and maybe others) never thought уоu соuld.
Onе Chаngе аt a Timе
Thiѕ iѕ whаt I call change mаnаgеmеnt. Lifе сhаngе can be vеrу stressful if уоu attempt multiple changes at one time. You may еnd uр nоt асhiеving аnу. Focusing on a ѕinglе tаѕk makes success more likely when you take up your next lifе changing project.
Think of the сhаngеѕ thаt уоu nееd to make. Write them down if you have to. Then choose to work on them in sequence. This will leave you with mоrе drivе. And it will еliminаtе any роtеntiаl blосks to сhаngе уоu may encounter.
Mаkе Time tо Wоrk оn Chаngе
Take thе timе that you need tо work оn the сhаngе(ѕ) you рlаn tо mаkе. Remember the old saying “failing to plan is planning to fail”. Allowing enough time lets you take care of all the details involved with less stress. You made a list of the changes you want to make. Very good. Now уоu саn also writе dоwn thе ѕtерѕ to tаkе to achieve your best rеѕult. Cоnѕult experts or mentors. Aѕk questions. Plаn the wауѕ you’ll асhiеvе уоu aim.
This is by no means the only list of tips. But it can help you start out with more confidence as you begin to mаkе an important сhаngеs in your lifе.