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Horse Sense For a Complex World: Linda Kohanov on CHI FOR YOURSELF

On the next CHI FOR YOURSELF, we’ll hear about a new approach to the changing role of leadership.

Linda Kohanov leadershipLinda Kohanov adapts horse-inspired insights into powerful tools for developing collaborative leadership and managing change.

Linda Kohanov is the author of The Five Roles of a Master Herder: A Revolutionary Model for Socially Intelligent Leadership.

Join us on Thursday, February 22nd, at 1 pm Pacific, 4 PM Eastern time at chiforyourself.com

 

 

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Mass Shootings, Boys, and Feeling The Feelings

It’s been a tough week in the U.S. with another school shooting capturing the country’s  attention. CHI FOR YOURSELF usually doesn’t discuss these types of events. Certainly not from a political perspective or one that whips the populace into a frenzy. 

 

Boy shows feelingsBut it’s worth noting that these shootings tend to have one thing in common. They’re committed by males. Young males. The nation asks “why?”

 

 

 

 

Today we look back to a 2013 CHI FOR YOURSELF episode with guest Cynthia Gill. She told us about ways in which boys are educated, conditioned, and often left with feelings of hopelessness.

 

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Cynthia Gill is the author of Jump-Starting Boys: Help Your Reluctant Learner Find Success in School and Life.  Hear the show by clicking on below–
 

 


 
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Down But Not Out: Feel the Feelings and Keep Going

 

The other day I was reminded of the waves of emotions that can roll through our lives unannounced. These can range from down days to the darker depression-like moods.

I dealt with those heavy feelings earlier in my life. I referred to those as “situational” since there were some troubling issues that had to be faced.

When I ran a search on the definition of emotions I found: A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.

Definition 2 read: Any of the particular feelings that characterize such a state of mind, such as joy, anger, love, hate, horror, etc. The key word in the first example is ‘natural’.

Your first reaction might be to turn your feelings away. You might push the feelings down, put them on hold until later, or use distractions to get your mind off of things.

You can deny them or indulge in them (often called wallowing). And there’s a cliche to match every situation- ‘I don’t have time to think about that now’, ‘It’s always something’, or ‘I’ll take care of it later.’

But what you’re feeling is neither positive nor negative. It’s all part of being human.

If your choice is not to experience intense feelings they could become embedded in your physical body. When they set up shop deep inside you they can have an effect on the way you look at the world.

The worst case scenario is that they can be so troubling as to cause illness. This is a good time to monitor your thinking, too.

One of the greatest figures in the Human Development field is Louise Hay. She put it this way, “The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives.”

You can bring out the feelings, front and center, to experience them in a safe and enriching way. When I feel the need to do this I pretty much drop whatever was planned for the day, if possible, and get to the feeling place.

You may have a more demanding schedule, so how about a date- with yourself? Pick a safe, secure, and comfortable place along with a time when you can be alone.

Start by remembering the circumstances that touched off the emotions you’ve been putting off. When you’ve stirred up the emotions let yourself FEEL them. Don’t block them.

Cry if you feel like it. Let any thoughts that come up come through.

And be gentle with yourself. This is not a good place to judge what’s happening.

Recognizing your emotions instead of pushing them away helps you to stay emotionally healthy and goes a long way toward truly conscious living.

 

JohnK 2-16-2018

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Image for overheard for feelingsOverheard: Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings – always darker, emptier and simpler.”

                       ~ Friedrich Nietzsche 

 

 

 

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“Big Love” On The Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

What happens when you fully commit yourself to love? Our guest on the next CHI FOR YOURSELF says the result is endless good.

Scott Stabile found that out by overcoming plenty of bad, including the murder of his parents. 

Scott’s intention is to show us that growth and healing are possible, regardless of the circumstances.

Be with us for Scott Stabile on CHI FOR YOURSELF. Thursday, December 14th at 4:30 Eastern, 1:30 Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

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Scott Stabile is the author of Big Love: The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart

 

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A few “de-Stressing” Tips For a More Relaxed You

picture of john kobikCHI FOR YOURSELF wants to help you reduce your stress levels. This week in GenuLines we looked at some “stress-busting” tips. Today we get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂



***Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following actionable ideas to help reduce your stress:

 

 

  • Woman3dWrite down two places that you consider your happy places. Think about these whenever you feel stress is getting the better of you.
  • Plan your next vacation even if you have a bit of time before you can take it. Just the act of doing research for it can put you in a better mood.
  • Find an organization that will allow you to give your time as a volunteer. Try to do it at least once a week or if you can’t swing that, do it twice a month.

 

JohnK 7-8-2016

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. “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
~ William James

“The Stress Solution and More “De-Stressing Tips

picture of john kobikTodays CHI FOR YOURSELF scheduled guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels. This week is a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines is posting several “stress-busting” tips. Tomorrow, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂

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Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 

 

7. Diet:
Because stress is an energy-robbing force, maintaining a diet that can
replenish our energy is an important part of combatting it. Avoid foods that
make you sluggish and sleepy. Eating fruits and nuts are great energy foods.
Drink lots of water to stay hydrated as well.

8. Take a Vacation:
Companies offer vacations to their employees for a reason. It gives the
employees the ability to live life outside the company. It also helps the
employees get away from the situation that may be causing stress and lets
them see that there is more to life than just work.

9. Visit with Family:
Even if you choose not to take a vacation, spend more time with your family.
You can plan day trips here and there or you can just all be with each other for
short periods of time each day. If schedules are scattered, try to set up, at
least, two days a week where the whole family must be together for dinner.

 

JohnK 7-7-2016

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“Keep your temper,” said the Caterpillar.”
~Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the   Looking-Glass  

 

 

Saying NO to Stress: More Ways You Can Do This

picture of john kobikTomorrow’s CHI FOR YOURSELF scheduled guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels. This week is a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines is posting several “stress-busting” tips. At the end of the week, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂

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Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 
 
 

4. Connect Socially:
We need contact with each other. Face-to-face contact is the best but if that is
not available connect with people on social media. Strive to stay off business
and political topics when you are stressed out. These will only add to your
stress. Consider talking about music, funny stuff, or whatever you and your
friends would like to talk about.
 
5. Volunteer:
Volunteering can help people see that their lives aren’t always as bad as they
thought. When they see others that are worse off and have the ability to help
those people, the stress levels can be drastically reduced.
 
6. Exercise:
Exercise is a proven stress reducing activity. If you are extremely stressed out,
consider upping the ante and going for higher impact type of activities like
Kickboxing or some kind of boot camp. Exercise can actually help prevent
onsets of stress from happening in the first place and can reduce the effect
when it does.

 

JohnK 7-6-2016

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“Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”

~Hans Selye

 

This week: CHI FOR YOURSELF Helps You Get Your Stress Under Control

picture of john kobikThursday’s CHI FOR YOURSELF guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels, so it’s a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines will post several “stress-busting” tips. At the end of the week, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you get to nurture good chi! 🙂

 

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Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 
 
1. Recognize When You’re Stressed:
The first step is to recognize that you are stressed. It’s amazing how many
people maintain high levels of stress and that becomes their modus operandi.
When they get to that point, they don’t even realize that they are experiencing
stress. If you are in this situation you need to reflect back to a time when you
were not constantly stressed out.

2. Go to Your Happy Place:
Close your eyes and imagine what it would be like if you were in your favorite
place or your happy place. Is it on an island somewhere? Or perhaps you are
more of the daredevil type and love jumping out of planes. Whatever it
happens to be it’s important to imagine yourself being there.

3. Find a Place That is Quiet:
You need a place where you can go just to get away from it all. Even if that is
for only five to ten minutes a day. It can work wonders to reset your internal
batteries and can help you continue on. It could be in a remote area of a park
or it could be going to a sauna in a gym or a massage.

 

JohnK 7-5-2016

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Clipart image of overheard“If you really want to escape the things that harass you, what you’re needing is not to be in a different place but to be a different person.”

~Seneca, Letters From a Stoic

 

 

A Dad’s Challenging Journey to “cross the veil”: Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

picture of john kobikWhen Matthew McKay’s son Jordan was murdered, he set out on a quest to discover the truth about why we are here and what happens when we die. He became determined to listen and look for his dead son in any way he could.

In his book Seeking Jordan: How I Learned the Truth about Death and the Invisible Universe, McKay shares what he learned along the way. Matthew McKay will be our CHI FOR YOURSELF guest this Thursday May 26th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com

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Matthew McKay, PhD

Plan to be with us!

 

 

JohnK 5-23-2016

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“No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye. You were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why.”

~ Author Unknown

Inner Guidance From Your IGS: Amaze-ZEN!

picture of john kobikIt’s no secret that around here it’s all about the inner guidance. Our CHI FOR YOURSELF guest this week is going to tell us about a system that wants you to be happy, successful, and stress-free- and you need only to go inside to find it!

Zen DeBrucke is an internationally renowned teacher, speaker, and coach whose programs have helped people all over the world transform their personal and business lives for the better. She’s the author of YOUR INNER GPS: Follow Your Internal Guidance to Optimal Health, Happiness, and Satisfaction. The book is designed to teach you to tune into this guidance to learn the best course of action in every situation.

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Zen DeBrucke

 

That’s Zen DeBrucke on CHI FOR YOURSELF. This Thursday May 19th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific at chiforyourself.com 

 

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Empowerment was the order of the day when we welcomed Cara Bradley to CHI FOR YOURSELF. Cara’s the author of ON THE VERGE and she brought us plenty of encouragement to not be spectators of life but to instead cultivate ways to live beyond our busy minds and be present in each moment.

Here are some of the talking points from the show:

  • Cara defines “Verge”
  • Her a-ha moment at the age of 19
  • There’s no such thing as self-improvement
  • Living in the heart instead of the head
  • Why rhythm is more important that movement
  • Verge practices and strategies
  • Do we all have some “drama queen” in us?
  • Coming down from the bleachers and getting into life’s game
  • Cara’s time as a pro roller-blader
  • Advice for dealing with low self esteem moments

 

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JohnK 5-16-2016

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“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.”
~ Vernon Howard

CHI FOR YOURSELF This Week: We’re “On The Verge” with Cara Bradley

picture of john kobikCHI FOR YOURSELF brings you empowering information, and this week we get a visit from the very empowered Cara Bradley, author of ON THE VERGE: Wake Up, Show Up, and Shine. Cara’s a passionate teacher of yoga, meditation, and fitness who has been in the trenches of personal transformation as a “mental strength coach” for more than three decades. Her intention is to help us reach peak performance at home, at work, and at play.

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Cara Bradley

Hear Cara Bradley on CHI FOR YOURSELF this Thursday May 12th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com.

 

JohnK 5-9-2016

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Overheard:

“The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.”

~ Joseph Campbell