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What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Really Want

April 26, 2021 John Uncategorized No comments

You want it badly. But somehow it doesn’t show up. This happens to most of us, but GenuLines has some action steps for you if you’re struggling with this. 

What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Really Want

man who wantsIt sucks to know that life isn’t fair. But knowing this fact alone still doesn’t make us feel better when something that we really want seems to elude us.
 
Here are a couple of key things to consider when you don’t get what your heart desires.
 

Appreciate The Needs You DO Have

Being able to separate the things you need from those you want is extremely important in life. People worldwide go without even the most basic things many of us take for granted.
 
While it’s in no way wrong to pursue things other than the basic needs, try to avoid getting these things mixed up.
 
Think about each situation where you didn’t get something you wanted. Each of those is likely balanced by getting something you did want.
 
If you always got what you wanted do you think you’d be grateful?
 

Be Honest About Why You Didn’t Get It

When something doesn’t pan out it feels like a tragedy. But sometimes not getting something serves as a fork in the road.
 
It can point the way to something much better.
 
Whatever you’re feeling like you missed out on, give it a second look. You might realize that this failure could very well be for your benefit.
 
Even if it wasn’t a major disappointment the fact that you fell short can provide the motivation. you need to go after something even better!
 
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You Covered The Bases And Still Want It? Try Again!
So you slipped up but believe you still should have whatever avoided you. Regroup and try again!
 
Rest assured, most of the things worth having are not going to fall into your lap. If this were the case, they wouldn’t be nearly as fulfilling when we you get them.
 
If whatever you missed out on keeps bugging you it could be a sign that you’re meant to have it.
 
But not right now
If you’ve decided that it is, be ready to go after it! I could insert any number of motivational quotes such as “fall seven times, stand up eight.”
 
Or “fail forward.”
 
But the fact is, the life of a successful individual will include failures. How you deal with failure separates winning from living with self-pity and resentment.
 
Never allow yourself to give up in the pursuit of anything you believe to be yours.
 
JohnK 4-26-2021
 
Stick figure hears about wantOverheard: “Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”
                             ~Dale Carnegie
 
 
 
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Embody Persistence And Watch Your Life Change

December 28, 2020 John Uncategorized No comments

We know that persistence is important when working toward a goal. But too often we get bogged down on our way to reaching it. 

Push on toward success with this GenuLines look at persistence.

(You can listen to this article by clicking here)

Embody Persistence And Watch Your Life Change

Practice makes perfect. We’ve heard that mantra since we were kids.
 
But more to the point, this phrase embodies persistence. That’s the key to mastering most anything.
 
You can practice something once every two months and not get very good at it. But persistence will usually deliver results.
 
There are so many distractions. From video games to the internet, to television.
 
It can be a difficult proposition to keep focused on persistence. Putting aside the distractions frees you to become better at something you want.
 
It’s important to balance being persistent with not being too pushy. It’s one thing to want something and do whatever it takes to get it.
 
But that could encroach on others’ personal space or even their rights. You may have to take a different approach or back off and find another way.
 
This doesn’t mean backing away from something you desire. Persistence is the key to getting it.
 
If it’s within your rights to have it then you should go for it. Maybe you’ve been trying to get a promotion at work.
 
Your persistence may be the aspect that makes you stand out above the others.
 
You might remember the 1970’s television series, Columbo. On that show, Peter Falk played a detective who tended to be persistent with his inquiries.
 
This paid off for him since he was always able to catch the perpetrator. Of course, this is a fictional story, but the concept carries over into real life.
 
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Many people believe that if you want something enough, you’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. Usually, this is a result of persistence.
 
There’s some truth to this. But sometimes your limitations keep you from doing what’s necessary.
 
Try to determine what’s blocking you.
 
Say you failed at something, only to try it again later, It doesn’t mean that your efforts were lacking.
 
You just weren’t ready for it during the first attempts.
 
People can also persist in bad habits or unwanted behaviors. In this case, it’s best not to embody persistence and try to deemphasize the negative behavior or traits.
 
One great way to do this is to replace these negative aspects with positive ones. The effort is the same.
 
But the results will be a whole lot better.
 
JohnK 12-28-2020
 
Stick figure hears about persisteceOverheard: “Paralyze resistance with persistence”
                                    ~Woody Hayes
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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A few “de-Stressing” Tips For a More Relaxed You

July 8, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikCHI FOR YOURSELF wants to help you reduce your stress levels. This week in GenuLines we looked at some “stress-busting” tips. Today we get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂



***Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following actionable ideas to help reduce your stress:

 

 

  • Woman3dWrite down two places that you consider your happy places. Think about these whenever you feel stress is getting the better of you.
  • Plan your next vacation even if you have a bit of time before you can take it. Just the act of doing research for it can put you in a better mood.
  • Find an organization that will allow you to give your time as a volunteer. Try to do it at least once a week or if you can’t swing that, do it twice a month.

 

JohnK 7-8-2016

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. “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
~ William James

“The Stress Solution and More “De-Stressing Tips

July 7, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikTodays CHI FOR YOURSELF scheduled guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels. This week is a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines is posting several “stress-busting” tips. Tomorrow, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂

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Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 

 

7. Diet:
Because stress is an energy-robbing force, maintaining a diet that can
replenish our energy is an important part of combatting it. Avoid foods that
make you sluggish and sleepy. Eating fruits and nuts are great energy foods.
Drink lots of water to stay hydrated as well.

8. Take a Vacation:
Companies offer vacations to their employees for a reason. It gives the
employees the ability to live life outside the company. It also helps the
employees get away from the situation that may be causing stress and lets
them see that there is more to life than just work.

9. Visit with Family:
Even if you choose not to take a vacation, spend more time with your family.
You can plan day trips here and there or you can just all be with each other for
short periods of time each day. If schedules are scattered, try to set up, at
least, two days a week where the whole family must be together for dinner.

 

JohnK 7-7-2016

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“Keep your temper,” said the Caterpillar.”
~Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the   Looking-Glass  

 

 

Saying NO to Stress: More Ways You Can Do This

July 6, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikTomorrow’s CHI FOR YOURSELF scheduled guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels. This week is a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines is posting several “stress-busting” tips. At the end of the week, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you nurture good chi! 🙂

man with check signTOP TIPS
Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 
 
 

4. Connect Socially:
We need contact with each other. Face-to-face contact is the best but if that is
not available connect with people on social media. Strive to stay off business
and political topics when you are stressed out. These will only add to your
stress. Consider talking about music, funny stuff, or whatever you and your
friends would like to talk about.
 
5. Volunteer:
Volunteering can help people see that their lives aren’t always as bad as they
thought. When they see others that are worse off and have the ability to help
those people, the stress levels can be drastically reduced.
 
6. Exercise:
Exercise is a proven stress reducing activity. If you are extremely stressed out,
consider upping the ante and going for higher impact type of activities like
Kickboxing or some kind of boot camp. Exercise can actually help prevent
onsets of stress from happening in the first place and can reduce the effect
when it does.

 

JohnK 7-6-2016

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“Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”

~Hans Selye

 

This week: CHI FOR YOURSELF Helps You Get Your Stress Under Control

July 5, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikThursday’s CHI FOR YOURSELF guest (Arthur Ciaramicoli-The Stress Solution) will help us lower our stress levels, so it’s a great time to get you to thinking about some ideas you can consider to begin the process. Each day this week GenuLines will post several “stress-busting” tips. At the end of the week, you’ll get some actionable steps that are easy to do and will help you get to nurture good chi! 🙂

 

man with check signTOP TIPS
Stress is an overwhelming force that interrupts our body’s natural ability to fend off disease. Use the following tips to help reduce your stress.

 
 
1. Recognize When You’re Stressed:
The first step is to recognize that you are stressed. It’s amazing how many
people maintain high levels of stress and that becomes their modus operandi.
When they get to that point, they don’t even realize that they are experiencing
stress. If you are in this situation you need to reflect back to a time when you
were not constantly stressed out.

2. Go to Your Happy Place:
Close your eyes and imagine what it would be like if you were in your favorite
place or your happy place. Is it on an island somewhere? Or perhaps you are
more of the daredevil type and love jumping out of planes. Whatever it
happens to be it’s important to imagine yourself being there.

3. Find a Place That is Quiet:
You need a place where you can go just to get away from it all. Even if that is
for only five to ten minutes a day. It can work wonders to reset your internal
batteries and can help you continue on. It could be in a remote area of a park
or it could be going to a sauna in a gym or a massage.

 

JohnK 7-5-2016

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Clipart image of overheard“If you really want to escape the things that harass you, what you’re needing is not to be in a different place but to be a different person.”

~Seneca, Letters From a Stoic

 

 

A Dad’s Challenging Journey to “cross the veil”: Next CHI FOR YOURSELF

May 23, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikWhen Matthew McKay’s son Jordan was murdered, he set out on a quest to discover the truth about why we are here and what happens when we die. He became determined to listen and look for his dead son in any way he could.

In his book Seeking Jordan: How I Learned the Truth about Death and the Invisible Universe, McKay shares what he learned along the way. Matthew McKay will be our CHI FOR YOURSELF guest this Thursday May 26th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific time at chiforyourself.com

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Matthew McKay, PhD

Plan to be with us!

 

 

JohnK 5-23-2016

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“No farewell words were spoken, no time to say goodbye. You were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why.”

~ Author Unknown

“Stop Being Lonely” (a how-to) and 2 CHI FOR YOURSELF replays

March 7, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikHard to believe loneliness could be a reality for many of us given that we are sooooooo connected, followed, friended, and liked. But on our next CHI FOR YOURSELF we’ll hear from someone who specializes in helping lonely folks. In fact, Kira Asatryan has been there herself and she’s put her findings into a book called STOP BEING LONELY: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships. 

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Kira Asatryan

Join us on the call for CHI FOR YOURSELF and guest Kira Asatryan on Thursday March 24th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific at chiforyourself.com.

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If you missed the last two editions of CHI FOR YOURSELF you can get caught up here…

picture of Dan MillmanListen as “Peaceful Warrior” Dan Millman talks about his book THE FOUR PURPOSES OF LIFE: FINDING MEANING AND DIRECTION IN A CHANGING WORLD. 

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and..

picture of LeslieBeth WishDr. LeslieBeth Wish is an award-winning, nationally honored psychotherapist and author of her research-based book, “Smart Relationships:  How Successful Women Can Find True Love.”

 

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JohnK 3-7-2016

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“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”
~ Mother Teresa

 

 

Dan Millman on CHI FOR YOURSELF and- A Valentine’s Day “2-fer”

February 12, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

picture of john kobikHe’s  a former world-champion athlete and college professor, the author of numerous books, including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Wisdom of the Peaceful Warrior, The Life You Were Born to Live, The Laws of Spirit, and The Journeys of Socrates. Dan Millman is our scheduled guest on CHI FOR YOURSELF this coming Thursday February 18th. Dan will talk about his book The Four Purposes of Life: Finding Meaning and Direction in a Changing World.

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Dan Millman

 

Be with us Thursday Feb. 18th at 4pm Eastern, 1pm Pacific for Dan Millman.

 

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We couldn’t let Valentine’s Day slip by without a look at relationships from our “Conscious Talk” point of view. So…..a couple of love offerings to honor the day!

In Love Cycles, veteran couples therapist Linda Carroll presents a groundbreaking model of the five natural stages of romantic relationships — the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love — and a guide for navigating through them toward lasting love. Love Cycles helps readers understand where they are in the cycle of their relationship and provides a clear strategy for how to stay happy and committed, even in difficult times.

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Long-term happiness in love depends on a couple’s ability to repair the inevitable rifts and differences, large and small, that occur in any relationship. Neuroscience suggests that relationship upsets are best mended quickly, or they accumulate in long-term memory, increase reactive communication, and become harder to repair successfully. And good repair takes five minutes or less! The book Five Minute Relationship Repair from Dr. Susan Campbell and Dr. John Grey offers practical tools and suggested scripts for resolving problems and having your needs met.

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Be Well!

 

JohnK. 2-12-2016

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Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

          ˜ Mother Teresa

 

 

 

 

What You Nееd tо Knоw Abоut Crеаting Chаngе in Your Life

January 18, 2016 John Uncategorized No comments

 

man with check signChаngе can be diffiсult.  Okay, we got that out of the way.  It can be even more diffiсult whеn thе сhаngе is big. Again, no surprise. Let’s say уоu wаnt to brеаk uр with someone you love. You may be thinking оf lеаving уоur old job tо mаkе a transition tо a different job. Maybe you’d love to start your own business.
If уоu саn оvеrсоmе thе fear of fаilurе whеn you set out to make change, thеn a huge portion of the job is done.  Bеlоw wе’ll look аt some hеlрful tiрѕ to guidе you through trаnѕitiоn.
 
 

 

You Nееd tо Truѕt Yоurѕеlf
 
Trusting yourself iѕ vеrу imроrtаnt in making аnу mеаningful change. It’s оnе оf the bеѕt things you саn do for уоurѕеlf in any area of life. Sеlf belief рuѕhes you to dо what nееds tо bе dоnе.
Bеliеvе thаt you саn dо it.  You’ve done thingѕ оn уоur оwn that уоu (and maybe others) never thought уоu соuld.
 
Onе Chаngе аt a Timе
 
Thiѕ iѕ whаt I call change mаnаgеmеnt.  Lifе сhаngе can be vеrу stressful if уоu attempt multiple changes at one time. You may еnd uр nоt асhiеving аnу. Focusing on a ѕinglе tаѕk makes success more likely when you take up your next lifе changing project.
Think of the сhаngеѕ thаt уоu nееd to make. Write them down if you have to. Then choose to work on them in sequence. This will leave you with mоrе drivе. And it will еliminаtе any роtеntiаl blосks to сhаngе уоu may encounter.
 
Mаkе Time tо Wоrk оn Chаngе
 
Take thе timе that you need tо work оn the сhаngе(ѕ) you рlаn tо mаkе. Remember the old saying “failing to plan is planning to fail”.  Allowing enough time lets you take care of all the details involved with less stress.
You made a list of the changes you want to make. Very good.  Now уоu саn also writе dоwn thе ѕtерѕ to tаkе to achieve your best rеѕult.  Cоnѕult experts or mentors.  Aѕk questions. Plаn the wауѕ you’ll асhiеvе уоu aim.
 
This is by no means the only list of tips. But it can help you start out with more confidence as you begin to mаkе important сhаngеs in your lifе.
 

 

JohnK 1-18-2016
 
 
 

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“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself”

                                    ˜ Andy Warhol

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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